If you are a sugar baby why did you decide to be one?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a SB because it makes sense. Most men are cheaters or have some major flaw. Why settle down with someone who’s going to treat.

I’m smart, beautiful, and in my 40s. I’ll ride it out til it ends.

Smart woman.

I'm doing this too! I'm early 40s, Masters in Kinesiology. I'm a personal trainer and Pilates teacher (own my studio) and thru that I meet tons of men. I'm very petite so I have alwys looked younger. I've been taken on wonderful trips and received beautiful jewelry and expensive bags and clothes. When I needed to upgrade my studio one of my guys gave me the money. It saves me tens of thousands on paying for my worldly vacations and I am keeping the goods to sell for extra retirement money.

I know I won't look like this forever but so far so good.

It amazes me why men waste their money like this. Can someone explain? Some wealthy women may do so but nowhere near the extent men do it.

I actually credit to this sexy sugar baby but not saying " because she deserved it".

Ask Trump. It's about feeding their ego and sexual needs.

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The problem is that society is so judgemental of women (and men) who engaged in paid emotional or physical intimacy.

If there wasn't so much judgement, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'd love the attention and perks, honestly. But in today' technological age, it would be putting my photo and info out there and then inevitably getting found out by my circle. I wouldn't want that. My friends and colleagues are liberals, but when it comes to bedrooms, very conservative... like most people.

you’d love the “attention” of being “3 holes capable” or however that PP put it? I’m not sure if sex work should be illegal, but it’s not like Pretty Woman. It’s work, likely often unpleasant, and dangerous.

So is marriage.

[Anonymous]

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The problem is that society is so judgemental of women (and men) who engaged in paid emotional or physical intimacy.

If there wasn't so much judgement, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'd love the attention and perks, honestly. But in today' technological age, it would be putting my photo and info out there and then inevitably getting found out by my circle. I wouldn't want that. My friends and colleagues are liberals, but when it comes to bedrooms, very conservative... like most people.

If you'd "love the attention", you aren't attractive enough to be sugar.

[Anonymous]

Sugar baby is either prostitution or your typical DCUM SAHM who wants her husband to be making more money. There’s no third option.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely would have done this in college and law school if it was a thing. I like attention and I like sex and I like money. I don't look down on sex work and see it as honest labor. Being seen with an older man might raise a few eyebrows if I introduce my sugar daddy as "my date," but it would not be something that would get back to my family or work associates.

Sure, one can call any activity with the goal of earning money "work" and to be applauded right?

For these sites, you would have to put your pic up for random men to view.
They will use facial recognition tools to identify you and research your background.
You will not even know who is or has checked you out.
To think that there is no risk you will be found out is naive.

Way less risk than stripping at my local club where one of my dad's employees might see me. $3000 a week is terrific money for a 21 year old but my dad would have killed me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you all support your daughter if she was a sugar baby getting f**d by an old rich dude? Is the money worth it for you to look the other way and claim it's "her choice"?

I would be okay with it if my daughter was a sugar baby. She is an adult to make her own decision.

[Anonymous]

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The problem is that society is so judgemental of women (and men) who engaged in paid emotional or physical intimacy.

If there wasn't so much judgement, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'd love the attention and perks, honestly. But in today' technological age, it would be putting my photo and info out there and then inevitably getting found out by my circle. I wouldn't want that. My friends and colleagues are liberals, but when it comes to bedrooms, very conservative... like most people.

you’d love the “attention” of being “3 holes capable” or however that PP put it? I’m not sure if sex work should be illegal, but it’s not like Pretty Woman. It’s work, likely often unpleasant, and dangerous.

So is marriage.

You can set sexual boundaries in marriage that won’t work in sugaring.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the people I met off an old site SA were not exclusive to their SD. I knew that and arranged for pay per visit and had a very nice stable with lots of variety.

Easy money if you’re willing to have fun.

As a woman, I would think that most guys who use these sites are either unattractive or pervs, or married. E.g. most attractive women won't sleep with them for free as there is no relationship potential

Or they are the successful to the point types who don't have time for nuanced BS.

I am happily married and have never been in the SB/SD world. When I was dating I was blunt and to the point out of the gate regarding exactly what I was looking for in a relationship, what I wanted in partner. I was not going to wait months for something that was important to me or the relationship to organically present itslef. Some woman were put off, many appreciated laying alll of the cards out on the table.

What are those things that you needed from the start ? 3somes, a..l, gold shower on partners, have her f..k other men at your order in front of you ?
That’s a summary of what men are looking for on seeking

So please, don’t romanticize prostitution it’s dirty and full of pervs

Thanks for your assumptions.
None of it was related to particular sex acts. It was mostly he kind of relationship I wanted. That I have zero tolerance for drama, gossip, excessive social media use. That I am looking for a long term relationship leading to the possibility of marriage. If you are thinking of cheating, just break up. There are two people in the relationship and that is it. The relationship takes priority.

That type of stuff with more specifics.

Excessive social media use. lol, person type on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a sugar daddy in college. I was 20 and he was 42. He took me on great vacations, to fancy restaurants, got me a new wardrobe , bought me a car and taught me how to drive. Polite manners, fantastic in bed, nicest guy I have ever known. This was 30 years ago and he still looks good when I see his photos on social media.

So why did you break up?

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of women on this forum view men who see escorts and buy sex as loosers. These same women make up all kind of excuses for sugar babies. This is why of you if you man stop trying to impress women. They don't care. All they care about is their own self interest. Don't fall for the endless gaslighting that men are selfish creatures.

They are losers though. They are ugly and fat (as pp admits) and can’t get women to look at them without waving cash in their face. It’s sad, pathetic and definitely loser status.

Eh, each party gets what they want. No harm, no foul.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely would have done this in college and law school if it was a thing. I like attention and I like sex and I like money. I don't look down on sex work and see it as honest labor. Being seen with an older man might raise a few eyebrows if I introduce my sugar daddy as "my date," but it would not be something that would get back to my family or work associates.

Sure, one can call any activity with the goal of earning money "work" and to be applauded right?

For these sites, you would have to put your pic up for random men to view.
They will use facial recognition tools to identify you and research your background.
You will not even know who is or has checked you out.
To think that there is no risk you will be found out is naive.

Way less risk than stripping at my local club where one of my dad's employees might see me. $3000 a week is terrific money for a 21 year old but my dad would have killed me.

Do what you gotta do.
Make that money girl!
You’ll be labeled as a cheap tramp forever.
It’s great to spread your legs for ugly men and perform sexual acts that aren’t pleasurable for you.
I am so glad I make much more money not having to stoop to that level.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of women marry rich guys primarily because they are rich but their motivation isn’t that much different than sugar babies. When a 45 year old woman marries a 70 year old rich guy, what’s the real difference between a young trophy wife and a sugar baby except one wears a ring. I’m not a fan of either!

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Anonymous wrote:Would you all support your daughter if she was a sugar baby getting f**d by an old rich dude? Is the money worth it for you to look the other way and claim it's "her choice"?

I would be okay with it if my daughter was a sugar baby. She is an adult to make her own decision.

The second thing doesn’t have anything to do with the first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

The problem is that society is so judgemental of women (and men) who engaged in paid emotional or physical intimacy.

If there wasn't so much judgement, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'd love the attention and perks, honestly. But in today' technological age, it would be putting my photo and info out there and then inevitably getting found out by my circle. I wouldn't want that. My friends and colleagues are liberals, but when it comes to bedrooms, very conservative... like most people.

If you'd "love the attention", you aren't attractive enough to be sugar.

Idk I had a friend who did this after college and, while cute, she’s pretty in a very ordinary way. I met a couple of her friends who also did and it was the same thing. Definitely cute, and much better looking than the guys paying them, but you don’t have to be anywhere near model gorgeous to sugar. Honestly, I feel like there is a shoe for every foot…as long as your willing I’m sure there is a buyer out there somewhere

[Anonymous]

My last few relationships haven't been official SB relationships, but they have been 8-15 years older than me and pay for our dates (I'll buy some snacks at the gas station or little things like that).

My friends have sugar daddies who pay per date. They have larger age gaps and more red flags but it works for them.