My sister told me I am not allowed to grieve our father in her house around her baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the heck is a fear period?

I was wondering too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has a 9 month old baby and our father passed 5 months ago. My mother is visiting for the first time since his death and it will be a hard and emotional visit. My sister says she does not want negative energy in her house or around her baby and we can cry when we are at my place or outside.

I thought this was such a weird comment to make.

Your sister is a mean idiot.

[Anonymous]

She probably isn’t dealing with her feelings l. My dad died 10 days after my son was born and there was very little time for grieving until he was about 3. I am sorry for your families’ loss.

[Anonymous]

It’s generally healthier if you have your own kids already when your parent dies - that way it’s a natural flow of things and nobody feels the need to cry 5 months later.
It’s also natural when the kids are young when your parents die - not adults themselves, and it’s generally not healthy being 70 and having your 90 yo parent die for example even though more and more people are in this position now and I am afraid I will be, too, as my parent is dead set on living into his 90s.

So anyway, your sister’s reaction is very healthy. You can get together with your mom and cry if you want to. At your sister’s house, do some nostalgic talking and enjoy the baby!