Morning bike to school has become drama

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

I don’t understand how people are missing this point. The matchmaking girl is annoying and the boys don’t want to hang around her and be subjected to more drama. They wisely decided to avoid the matchmaking drama girl who stirs the pot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

I don’t understand how people are missing this point. The matchmaking girl is annoying and the boys don’t want to hang around her and be subjected to more drama. They wisely decided to avoid the matchmaking drama girl who stirs the pot.

+1 the boys are staying out of it.

[Anonymous]

They boys are right. No need to ride with someone that you don't want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

This is NOT sexual harassment and middle schoolers use those words so so much to huge detriment for a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. Just tell her to ride with her friend on the back. She doesn't have to dump her group. They are going to dump her for riding with her friend.

Then, there's a teaching moment for you.

OP here-- yeah that's what happened- the group dumped her. And they're good friends of hers, so she's upset since she wants to ride with all of them. They all used to meet at our house, so it's not so simple as all riding together since the group has now just been going on their own. First world problem but it's really upset DD and she doesn't know how to handle.

So that was quick.
When people show you who they are, believe them.

Surprised that boys (this feels more like a mean girls' move) would pull this move--over riding bikes to school.

Yes, throw the girls under the bus. When will the sexism end?

I don’t feel as if this is so much sexism necessarily; it seems more like misogyny.

[Anonymous]

You can see a #boymom reply posts a mile away.

Boys don't care if one girl who may have been a matchmaker rides a bike near them. If they want to drop their friend because of it, they are a bunch of clowns and the OP's daughter is better off finding friends that are loyal or nonchalant about this kinda stuff.

And the fact is, no one knows the true story of any of this because everything in middle school is blown out of proportion or completely made-up. The fact that parents fall into this and care so much is pretty funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

This is NOT sexual harassment and middle schoolers use those words so so much to huge detriment for a few.

Texting someone repeatedly asking if they like someone, if they’re going to ask them out—essentially badgering them—sounds awfully close to sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

This is NOT sexual harassment and middle schoolers use those words so so much to huge detriment for a few.

Texting someone repeatedly asking if they like someone, if they’re going to ask them out—essentially badgering them—sounds awfully close to sexual harassment.

That's some nice fiction you've written there. What does it have to do with OP's case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

This is NOT sexual harassment and middle schoolers use those words so so much to huge detriment for a few.

Texting someone repeatedly asking if they like someone, if they’re going to ask them out—essentially badgering them—sounds awfully close to sexual harassment.

Omg boymom, this is EMBARRASSING for you to even type that out. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

I feel like people are just glossing over this, including OP, who is just saying that the girl was "annoying". What does that mean?

It is possible for girls to sexually harass boys, you know...

This is NOT sexual harassment and middle schoolers use those words so so much to huge detriment for a few.

Texting someone repeatedly asking if they like someone, if they’re going to ask them out—essentially badgering them—sounds awfully close to sexual harassment.

Omg boymom, this is EMBARRASSING for you to even type that out. LOL

I am a mom to a boy, although not a "boymom" which you seem to be using as an insult. This scenario happened to my son and caused him a lot of distress. I would never ask him to be inclusive of the girl who continues to behave this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can see a #boymom reply posts a mile away.

Boys don't care if one girl who may have been a matchmaker rides a bike near them. If they want to drop their friend because of it, they are a bunch of clowns and the OP's daughter is better off finding friends that are loyal or nonchalant about this kinda stuff.

And the fact is, no one knows the true story of any of this because everything in middle school is blown out of proportion or completely made-up. The fact that parents fall into this and care so much is pretty funny.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can see a #boymom reply posts a mile away.

Boys don't care if one girl who may have been a matchmaker rides a bike near them. If they want to drop their friend because of it, they are a bunch of clowns and the OP's daughter is better off finding friends that are loyal or nonchalant about this kinda stuff.

And the fact is, no one knows the true story of any of this because everything in middle school is blown out of proportion or completely made-up. The fact that parents fall into this and care so much is pretty funny.

What do you know about boys with your #boymom nonsense? They simply don't come to this girls house anymore and go their own way. What an anticlimactic way to avoid drama in this situation. But you're taking this very personally as if you were invested. Wonder why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can see a #boymom reply posts a mile away.

Boys don't care if one girl who may have been a matchmaker rides a bike near them. If they want to drop their friend because of it, they are a bunch of clowns and the OP's daughter is better off finding friends that are loyal or nonchalant about this kinda stuff.

And the fact is, no one knows the true story of any of this because everything in middle school is blown out of proportion or completely made-up. The fact that parents fall into this and care so much is pretty funny.

+1

Do you speak for all the boys in the world when you say they don't care if a girl who acts as matchmaker and is annoying, per OP, rides with them.

You think it is funny that parent care about this, but you aee willing to name call a group of young boys "a bunch of clowns".

So many trolls on this side.

Young boys are humans with feelings too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can see a #boymom reply posts a mile away.

Boys don't care if one girl who may have been a matchmaker rides a bike near them. If they want to drop their friend because of it, they are a bunch of clowns and the OP's daughter is better off finding friends that are loyal or nonchalant about this kinda stuff.

And the fact is, no one knows the true story of any of this because everything in middle school is blown out of proportion or completely made-up. The fact that parents fall into this and care so much is pretty funny.

+1

Do you speak for all the boys in the world when you say they don't care if a girl who acts as matchmaker and is annoying, per OP, rides with them.

You think it is funny that parent care about this, but you aee willing to name call a group of young boys "a bunch of clowns".

So many trolls on this side.

Young boys are humans with feelings too.

Duh! But they’re the bullies this time.