Morning bike to school has become drama

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

Sounds like the boys have good reason not to like the other girl. They don’t need to include someone who messes with their lives. I can’t imagine my son would want anything to do with a girl who is playing matchmaker. He really just wants to play sports. He’s not “in love” yet.

Ridiculous, do you actually know any middle schoolers? They aren't "in love" but all the boys and girls are constantly match making.

No they aren't ALL doing that. But the ones who are can be very aggressive about it. Texting asking over and over again if one person likes another, or if they are going to ask them "out" or do this and that. They are very persistent and annoying about it. Not everyone is obsessed with boys/girls or matchmaking at 12. Only the hyper sexualized ones.

Most of them are doing it. If you don’t know it’s because they aren’t telling you.

Just like all other generations, middle schoolers do this and stop with hyper specialized lol.

Don’t be a #boymom

It’s embarrassing

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the have her tell the girl to join, but ride in back with her. Over time the groups will either naturally split or the boys will realize it does not really matter that someone else has joined.

Also, is there a reason the other girl is not welcome? Is she flakey or always late? Maybe just tell your daughter it’s fine to agree that the group leaves on time regardless of who shows up. I could see kids not wanting to have to risk being late.

They don’t like her because- and this is such typical MS BS- she tried to play matchmaker with mutual friends and was annoying when it didn’t work out.

The girls can’t ride in the back- the boys aren’t meeting them at our house anymore. Since last week they’ve just been riding on their own. I assume this will all blow over but DD has been good friends with these boys since they were in elementary school and doesn’t want to lose their friendship.

Sounds like the boys have good reason not to like the other girl. They don’t need to include someone who messes with their lives. I can’t imagine my son would want anything to do with a girl who is playing matchmaker. He really just wants to play sports. He’s not “in love” yet.

Ridiculous, do you actually know any middle schoolers? They aren't "in love" but all the boys and girls are constantly match making.

No they aren't ALL doing that. But the ones who are can be very aggressive about it. Texting asking over and over again if one person likes another, or if they are going to ask them "out" or do this and that. They are very persistent and annoying about it. Not everyone is obsessed with boys/girls or matchmaking at 12. Only the hyper sexualized ones.

Most of them are doing it. If you don’t know it’s because they aren’t telling you.

Just like all other generations, middle schoolers do this and stop with hyper specialized lol.

Don’t be a #boymom

It’s embarrassing

Ok next time your daughter tells you a boy is being weird then please tell her how important it is to be inclusive and be friends no matter how she feels. Regardless, the boys have made their feelings known. Take that as you will.

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Anonymous wrote:They all ride together. It's a short bike ride.

BTW, kudos to them for riding bikes!

The boys must be informed they need to be more inclusive.

It is not ok they are excluding people, especially a girl!

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Nobody needs to be friend the meddling girl. The boys just want to be friends with each other and this girl is trying to mess with them. Let the boys be, and the girls can ride together and nobody is excluded.

Please stop watching reruns of Haply Days and clue into reality that boys and girls are friends.

Yeah, the "meddling girl" - maybe the boys are just jerks? Sounds more like that is story.

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Anonymous wrote:They all ride together. It's a short bike ride.

BTW, kudos to them for riding bikes!

The boys must be informed they need to be more inclusive.

It is not ok they are excluding people, especially a girl!

+1

Nobody needs to be friend the meddling girl. The boys just want to be friends with each other and this girl is trying to mess with them. Let the boys be, and the girls can ride together and nobody is excluded.

Please stop watching reruns of Haply Days and clue into reality that boys and girls are friends.

Yeah, the "meddling girl" - maybe the boys are just jerks? Sounds more like that is story.

Maybe but I don't see the issue here. The girls can ride together and so can the boys. Everyone has someone to bike to school with. Nobody is being viciously excluded.

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So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

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Anonymous wrote:They all ride together. It's a short bike ride.

BTW, kudos to them for riding bikes!

The boys must be informed they need to be more inclusive.

It is not ok they are excluding people, especially a girl!

+1

Nobody needs to be friend the meddling girl. The boys just want to be friends with each other and this girl is trying to mess with them. Let the boys be, and the girls can ride together and nobody is excluded.

Please stop watching reruns of Haply Days and clue into reality that boys and girls are friends.

The poster literally said the boys are excluding the one girl

Yeah, the "meddling girl" - maybe the boys are just jerks? Sounds more like that is story.

Maybe but I don't see the issue here. The girls can ride together and so can the boys. Everyone has someone to bike to school with. Nobody is being viciously excluded.

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Anonymous wrote:So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

The two girls are able to ride together. What is your problem?

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Is this a girl thing? I do not get involved with my middle school boy's social happenings.

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Anonymous wrote:So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

The two girls are able to ride together. What is your problem?

My problem is the OP's DD wanted to ride with her friends. The boys are not only excluding the one girl, but dropped the OP's DD and all you boy moms are defending that behavior.

I wouldn't want my DD to have anything to do with a group of boys like this - but maybe as a #boymom OMG YAY you approve of this type of behavior?

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a girl thing? I do not get involved with my middle school boy's social happenings.

So you're the father of a boy? Maybe you can't relate to "girl things"

Or maybe you are pro your kid being a jerk?

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Anonymous wrote:So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

The two girls are able to ride together. What is your problem?

My problem is the OP's DD wanted to ride with her friends. The boys are not only excluding the one girl, but dropped the OP's DD and all you boy moms are defending that behavior.

I wouldn't want my DD to have anything to do with a group of boys like this - but maybe as a #boymom OMG YAY you approve of this type of behavior?

You clearly don't have a middle school boy or girl. They aren't all going to be friends skipping to school singing Kumbaya all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Yup. Just tell her to ride with her friend on the back. She doesn't have to dump her group. They are going to dump her for riding with her friend.

Then, there's a teaching moment for you.

OP here-- yeah that's what happened- the group dumped her. And they're good friends of hers, so she's upset since she wants to ride with all of them. They all used to meet at our house, so it's not so simple as all riding together since the group has now just been going on their own. First world problem but it's really upset DD and she doesn't know how to handle.

Why don’t they like the new girl? Is there some merit based reason like she is really mean? Or do they just not like her because she is a “dork” or not “cool enough” or something shallow?

If it’s the latter then I would 100% discuss with DD that original group is shallow not to mention willing to dump her easily. Maybe they aren’t such good friends.

If the other girl is drama, then my advice may be different.

It does not matter; they really need to be inclusive.

Can you get the guidance counselor involved to make these boys be inclusive like they should?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

The two girls are able to ride together. What is your problem?

My problem is the OP's DD wanted to ride with her friends. The boys are not only excluding the one girl, but dropped the OP's DD and all you boy moms are defending that behavior.

I wouldn't want my DD to have anything to do with a group of boys like this - but maybe as a #boymom OMG YAY you approve of this type of behavior?

You clearly don't have a middle school boy or girl. They aren't all going to be friends skipping to school singing Kumbaya all the time.

I have three middle school kids. Two girls and a boy. My son would never ditch a "friend" but I also wouldn't allow him to have friends like your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

I have a boy and a girl, so I’m a both mom I guess? It sounds like the boys don’t like this 1 particular girl, not all girls. She makes them uncomfortable. If the situation were reversed I doubt you’d be calling a group of girls a-holes for not wanting to ride with a boy who tries to arrange romantic relationships that make them uncomfortable. This is such a double standard. And the boys do not owe this girl protection. Her parents should be monitoring how she can get to school safely not assuming other children will take on that responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:So many boy moms on this thread justifying their kids being a-holes. Honestly, I'm sure they are the same ones who justify their collage age sons bullying women.

Most of my friends with boys would be worried about a girl riding alone, even if they didn't like her.

I am hopefully it's just one really ignorant #boymom and not a lot of you being such terrible parents.

The two girls are able to ride together. What is your problem?

My problem is the OP's DD wanted to ride with her friends. The boys are not only excluding the one girl, but dropped the OP's DD and all you boy moms are defending that behavior.

I wouldn't want my DD to have anything to do with a group of boys like this - but maybe as a #boymom OMG YAY you approve of this type of behavior?

You clearly don't have a middle school boy or girl. They aren't all going to be friends skipping to school singing Kumbaya all the time.

I have three middle school kids. Two girls and a boy. My son would never ditch a "friend" but I also wouldn't allow him to have friends like your kids.

I have two boys and a girl. My girl has suffered FAR more abuse from other girls than from any of the boys. ever. I don't believe you at all.