Told my friends I was pregnant yesterday

[Anonymous]

Is this a spin-off of the thread where the OP was asking how one would respond to someone else’s news without congratulating them?

[Anonymous]

One of my best friends told me she was pregnant at 43. She has kids in high school and college. I basically said "that's good news, right?" And she chuckled and said yes, they were trying. It's all good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First child at 40?! Of course she probably thought you were child free then had an "accident" (for lack of a better term) and wanted to make sure you were happy before celebrating.

Why are you so sensitive?

Are you prepared to have your 1st at 40? To me as a stranger this sounds like it was an accident so I get your friends response. No on I know who got pregnant past 40 was trying for a child. It's unusual.

Not OP. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-44. I am 46. I was “young” at 35. Forty is really not old here.

Maybe not in your bubble of elitism but it is everywhere else.

[Anonymous]

If you hadn’t told her you were trying it is totally appropriate. The vast majority of my friends in their 40s would have an abortion if they got pregnant. This comes up a lot as peri causes late periods and some live in red states. “Crap, I’m late.” “Yeah, you are old, but I’d love if you had an excuse for you to visit.”

If she knew you were trying, it would be a little weird. But at that age especially, you would have good reason to think you might miscarry so you might be extra nervous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First child at 40?! Of course she probably thought you were child free then had an "accident" (for lack of a better term) and wanted to make sure you were happy before celebrating.

Why are you so sensitive?

Are you prepared to have your 1st at 40? To me as a stranger this sounds like it was an accident so I get your friends response. No on I know who got pregnant past 40 was trying for a child. It's unusual.

Not OP. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-44. I am 46. I was “young” at 35. Forty is really not old here.

Maybe not in your bubble of elitism but it is everywhere else.

I work for a nonprofit. Hardly elite

[Anonymous]

She’s letting you know that it’s okay to have mixed feelings. Very emotionally healthy. Keep her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First child at 40?! Of course she probably thought you were child free then had an "accident" (for lack of a better term) and wanted to make sure you were happy before celebrating.

Why are you so sensitive?

Are you prepared to have your 1st at 40? To me as a stranger this sounds like it was an accident so I get your friends response. No on I know who got pregnant past 40 was trying for a child. It's unusual.

What the F are you smoking? Visit the fertility boards on this site. You must be living under a rock or are just…clueless to life outside your little orbit. Plenty of people marry later and still want to have children. Many people experience infertility and finally get pregnant at 40 after years trying to conceive. “No one you know?” You’re just trying to s**t on OP. Nice.

DP. Oh, look! Someone who thinks what she sees on DCUM is typical of how things are in the real world.

Per the CDC, births by age group in 2021 were:
The mean age of mothers at first birth was 27.3 years
The birth rate for women aged 20–24 was 61.5 births per 1,000 women
The birth rate for women aged 30–34 was 97.6 births per 1,000 women
The birth rate for women aged 40–44 was 12.0 births per 1,000 women

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr72/nvsr72-01.pdf

But this is DCUM. And OP is posting on DCUM. So your data is irrelevant.

Yes, you and your friends are snowflakes and aren't included in the data.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First child at 40?! Of course she probably thought you were child free then had an "accident" (for lack of a better term) and wanted to make sure you were happy before celebrating.

Why are you so sensitive?

Are you prepared to have your 1st at 40? To me as a stranger this sounds like it was an accident so I get your friends response. No on I know who got pregnant past 40 was trying for a child. It's unusual.

Not OP. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-44. I am 46. I was “young” at 35. Forty is really not old here.

Maybe not in your bubble of elitism but it is everywhere else.

I work for a nonprofit. Hardly elite

You think just because you work at a nonprofit you are immune to elitism? smh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First child at 40?! Of course she probably thought you were child free then had an "accident" (for lack of a better term) and wanted to make sure you were happy before celebrating.

Why are you so sensitive?

Are you prepared to have your 1st at 40? To me as a stranger this sounds like it was an accident so I get your friends response. No on I know who got pregnant past 40 was trying for a child. It's unusual.

Not OP. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-44. I am 46. I was “young” at 35. Forty is really not old here.

Maybe not in your bubble of elitism but it is everywhere else.

I work for a nonprofit. Hardly elite

You think just because you work at a nonprofit you are immune to elitism? smh

I grew up rural poor.

Many people can’t afford kids until near 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First child at 40?! Of course she probably thought you were child free then had an "accident" (for lack of a better term) and wanted to make sure you were happy before celebrating.

Why are you so sensitive?

Are you prepared to have your 1st at 40? To me as a stranger this sounds like it was an accident so I get your friends response. No on I know who got pregnant past 40 was trying for a child. It's unusual.

Not OP. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-44. I am 46. I was “young” at 35. Forty is really not old here.

Maybe not in your bubble of elitism but it is everywhere else.

I work for a nonprofit. Hardly elite

You think just because you work at a nonprofit you are immune to elitism? smh

I grew up rural poor.

Many people can’t afford kids until near 40.

Same here. Which is why I know a pregnancy isn't always welcome regardless of age. No matter where you live, having your first pregnancy at age 40 is not typical nor is it common.

[jsteele]

I don't think the original poster is being truthful so I am going to lock this thread.