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Told my friends I was pregnant yesterday
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Anonymous
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First child for DH and I were both 40 so long time coming.
Mostly well wishes and congratulations, happy for yous, let us know if we can help etc. One friend said" How do you feel about that?" Sm I wrong for thinking this response is way off? |
Anonymous
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Don't worry about them. Their reaction is not important.
Congrats on the pregnancy! |
Anonymous
| There’s one in every crowd so don’t worry about it. Congratulations! |
Anonymous
| Pregnancy brain already started! Just be happy! |
Anonymous
| Did she know you were trying? This is one of those weirdly stated neutral responses if she's unsure if you are happy or not. When a friend who was 41 announced her pregnancy, someone said something similar. But that's because we really weren't sure if she had wanted to get pregnant. |
Anonymous
Did you say it with a smile? How close is this friend? |
Anonymous
It’s fake. |
Anonymous
| It’s not way off, it’s careful and thoughtful. You might be just excited, but you also might be scared, or sick, or having mixed feelings or anything else that is a totally normal response to a pregnancy. Your friend is making sure you know that she is a safe sounding board and ally for any of that. That’s good! This is a friend you should hold on to. |
Anonymous
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A casual friend of mine told me she was getting divorced. I wasn’t sure what to say so I said “are we celebrating or do you need a shoulder to cry on?” Turned out we were celebrating. Could have went either way.
Same with pregnancy announcement. |
Anonymous
| Your friend reads DCUM lol. |
Anonymous
| Right I think that’s actually a better response than just omg congrats!! (Unless someone knows you are trying). Not always a happy thing with these big changes! She was feeling you out first so she could support you appropriately. A good friend! |
Anonymous
Thank you. |
Anonymous
Pretty sure I was smiling and sounded happy. She's close enough that she's one of the first people that we told. It just felt weird to me |
Anonymous
Yes you are. They were unsure if you were happy or not and want to gauge their response by how you feel. Duh. |
Anonymous
| If you’re past 40, there’s a good chance she thought you were child free by choice. So perhaps she thought this was an oops. I think it’s ok to respond “oh we’re thrilled and excited” and she’ll hopefully go from there. |