Told my friends I was pregnant yesterday

[Anonymous]

Its a considerate response to first ask you how you feel about it. Not everyone wants a geriatric pregnancy and even with a wanted one, mixed feelings are expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have all kind of weird comments when you’re pregnant. You just get used to it and shake it off if you want to make your own life easier.

You are right and I wish it wasn't bothering me so much but it is.

Do her a favor and end the friendship. You sound like a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

You are so old that she wasn’t sure if you wanted a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are so old that she wasn’t sure if you wanted a baby.

Yup. And just because someone doesn't want the baby doesn't automatically mean they won't have it.

[Anonymous]

It’s all over social. These TT videos about overturning Roe V. Wade have to overrun even normal happy events.

Congratulations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are so old that she wasn’t sure if you wanted a baby.

Having a baby at 40 in the DMV is not old, PP. maybe in Mississippi but not here.

[Anonymous]

My best friend had the same response when I announced a pregnancy at the same age.

It's actually the best response, OP. It allows you to confirm that this is indeed a wanted pregnancy, that you've thought this through, and are beyond happy.

That person is thoughtful and has your best interests at heart.

[Anonymous]

You guys are kind of old for a first child....40 years old lol

[Anonymous]

Haha welcome to parenthood. You will hear a bunch of strange sh&t for the next 6+ years.

[Anonymous]

I would not read too much into one comment about anything.

Also keep in mind that pregnancy and fertility are among the touchiest topics and the day you share good news could also be the day someone else is going through something hard.

In general, a good rule of thumb if someone seems cold when you are pregnant, is it’s not personal and the person may even be protecting their own mental health the best they can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha welcome to parenthood. You will hear a bunch of strange sh&t for the next 6+ years.

Try 18 or 20 or…as long as you are willing to listen.

[Anonymous]

Well, sounds like she rubbed you the wrong way. It is what it is. Maybe she is trying to get pregnant herself and is jealous. You never know. But yeah, obviously this rubbed you the wrong way and while I wouldn't make a thing of this that is life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not read too much into one comment about anything.

Also keep in mind that pregnancy and fertility are among the touchiest topics and the day you share good news could also be the day someone else is going through something hard.

In general, a good rule of thumb if someone seems cold when you are pregnant, is it’s not personal and the person may even be protecting their own mental health the best they can.

I literally didn’t announce my second pregnancy until I was showing for this very reason, and even that offended people.

Don’t worry too much and enjoy this happy time. What other people think doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

If I was conflicted about it why would I be telling her and other people about it?. If I was conflicted about it wouldn't I keep it to myself and not announce it?

Because some people confide in their friends when are working through their feelings on an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First child for DH and I were both 40 so long time coming.
Mostly well wishes and congratulations, happy for yous, let us know if we can help etc.

One friend said" How do you feel about that?"


Sm I wrong for thinking this response is way off?

I think you're being sensitive. You didn't say anywhere that you had been trying for a long time, just that it was a long time in coming, which is different.

Having a kid at 40 isn't necessarily for the faint of heart, so I think your friend was actually asking about your feelings because I'd assume there could be a lot tied up with it (way more so than being pregnant at 30).

I'd give the friend the benefit of the doubt. Saying congratulations could make you think you couldn't then tell those people you're concerned/scared/whatever because they think of course you should only be happy about it. Sounds like your friend is much deeper than that.

But if you want to be offended go ahead.