Told my friends I was pregnant yesterday

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Get over yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

If I was conflicted about it why would I be telling her and other people about it?. If I was conflicted about it wouldn't I keep it to myself and not announce it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

If I was conflicted about it why would I be telling her and other people about it?. If I was conflicted about it wouldn't I keep it to myself and not announce it?

You’re going to hide that you had a baby?

[Anonymous]

Some people don’t know how to react. I’m in medicine so I’ve gotten “was this planned” or “is this acceptable to you?” How hard is it to just say congrats, esp if the person looks excited? Why would you tell someone you are pregnant if you plan to have an abortion?

[Anonymous]

The friend is in the wrong. OP is a married adult. At the age of 40 she surely understands birth control and abortion so if she's announcing a pregnancy she either wanted the child or has made peace with a surprise. What the friend is saying is what you might say to a 16 year old.

She could have simply asked "how do you feel?" which would be much more graceful as it could be understood as a question about the physical effects. "How do you feel about it?" is a bizarre and patronizing question in this context.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First child for DH and I were both 40 so long time coming.
Mostly well wishes and congratulations, happy for yous, let us know if we can help etc.

One friend said" How do you feel about that?"


Sm I wrong for thinking this response is way off?

I believe your friend might be on DCUM. This was one of the noncommittal responses a poster gave in response to an OP who wanted to have no opinion response. Did not want to congratulate.

I'd say this isn't a good friend.

[Anonymous]

People have all kind of weird comments when you’re pregnant. You just get used to it and shake it off if you want to make your own life easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A casual friend of mine told me she was getting divorced. I wasn’t sure what to say so I said “are we celebrating or do you need a shoulder to cry on?” Turned out we were celebrating. Could have went either way.

Same with pregnancy announcement.

Yes.

This is a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

This! Also, You should build a thicker skin and stop being so sensitive. You will need it once you have the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

If I was conflicted about it why would I be telling her and other people about it?. If I was conflicted about it wouldn't I keep it to myself and not announce it?

Because you’re talking to a close friend? You could be both excited and anxious? Your friend seems to have a much more
thoughtful personality than you do.

[Anonymous]

Good Lord, maybe she was trying to be sensitive. Not everyone would be happy about having a baby at 41. Sorry, but that’s just the truth. Assume positive intent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s unusual that a 40 year old would feel conflicted about a pregnancy. She was gauging your reaction so she could respond appropriately.

If I was conflicted about it why would I be telling her and other people about it?. If I was conflicted about it wouldn't I keep it to myself and not announce it?

Because maybe you were going to have the baby anyways? You sound like a B.

[Anonymous]

Oh God, OPs responses make it clear she's going to be the type that expects everyone to fawn over her. And in a few months she will be posting about how terrible her friends are because they arent as excited for her baby as they were for other friend's babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have all kind of weird comments when you’re pregnant. You just get used to it and shake it off if you want to make your own life easier.

You are right and I wish it wasn't bothering me so much but it is.