Am I out of line? Not wanting to celebrate DC's graduation if they don't have a job lined up

[Anonymous]

You should celebrate the last day your child will speak to you, since the only thing you are good for is the money you are no longer providing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DS does NOT want to celebrate his college graduation because he has not yet received a job offer. My wife can pull strings at her federal agency, as a Fed, to get DS a good paying government contracting job, but DS wants to find a job on his own. DW is very frustrated that DS would not accept help from his mother.

Your kid sounds highly ethical. Good job!
“pull strings” lol

What's the hotline for reporting Fed corruption? PP is bragging about demanding kickbacks in exchange for assigning contracts to contractors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

A good job should have been lined up by August 2023. Riding senior summer interns are offered full time positions the last week or two of the summer gig. Then they can still look for other offers if they want but they are always holding that offer. Moving back home and being an unemployed lazy ass all summer is nonsense.

That's the most ridiculous piece of nonsense about college that I've ever heard. No, it doesn't work like that.

DP. No yeah. It TOTALLY WORKS LIKE THAT.

+2.

The progression is unpaid internship freshman summer, then better unpaid internship or low key paid internship sophomore summer, then paid internship junior summer that converts to FT job after graduation. Or, people apply to grad school for the Fall following graduation.

Not every field works like that and I hate when people on this board only value those kind of corporate type jobs.

You may have a point, but describing this progression, which is very real for may types of jobs, is not “ridiculous nonsense.”

[Anonymous]

Not sure if OP is still reading but not celebrating is totally counter productive. The last thing you want is for your kid to get depressed and give up looking.
My nephew was unemployed for many months after graduation. Finally found a good job and his emloher ended up paying for his masters which he then got. His parents let him live at home provided he was actively job seeking and helping with stuff around the house. He did pick up some short time gigs to help pay expenses while he was looking.

Lots of people don’t have jobs at graduation, in part because many employers don’t want to hire for someone to start work for them in X months. Unless you are doing consulting or law firm paralegal work, it’s often not a practical way to job hunt.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you're out of line

[Anonymous]

If I were you I'd move to a smaller house that has no bedroom for that kid. Wait, how about in another state? And don't give them the new address! I bet they'll find a job then. A little strategy on your part and trust me, they'll launch.

[Anonymous]

Guide, support, love. You are a parent, not a spouse or roommate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

Most college students who are on the ball know that their last internship before senior year matters... high quality internship at a high quality company that converts a high percentage of interns with offers. So... the best of the best, have a job offer in September of their Senior year.

Sounds good, but not everyone is going to get those high quality internships.

It’s not just high quality, it’s literally all internships. Rising senior summer internship is how you get your first job offer. Everyone knows this. Why does this forum play dumb? When you drop the ball and still don’t have a job after rising senior summer internship, then fall recruiting, then spring recruiting, and graduate with no job it’s very SKETCHY. You’re a walking red flag.

I graduated into a recession in 91. I bussed tables and moved to NYC to stay on a friend's couch with $300 in my pocket and no family support. Six months later I was working for private bankers as a temp secretary. Three months after that they sent me to the New York Institute of Finance and promoted me.

I was a studio art major.

There are many roads to success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS does NOT want to celebrate his college graduation because he has not yet received a job offer. My wife can pull strings at her federal agency, as a Fed, to get DS a good paying government contracting job, but DS wants to find a job on his own. DW is very frustrated that DS would not accept help from his mother.

Your kid sounds highly ethical. Good job!
“pull strings” lol

What's the hotline for reporting Fed corruption? PP is bragging about demanding kickbacks in exchange for assigning contracts to contractors.

Apparently, we are the only people concerned about this on the entire thread. Says a lot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YTA.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS does NOT want to celebrate his college graduation because he has not yet received a job offer. My wife can pull strings at her federal agency, as a Fed, to get DS a good paying government contracting job, but DS wants to find a job on his own. DW is very frustrated that DS would not accept help from his mother.

WTF? This can seriously damage your wife. She can’t get her kid hired on a contract she manages or has any sort of authority over. She can pass around her kid’s resume to colleagues and friends. Sure. But not to any company for who she is a customer. Good for your son for not being an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Legally, can you call the police and have your adult children "evicted" from your house if they refuse to leave?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

Most college students who are on the ball know that their last internship before senior year matters... high quality internship at a high quality company that converts a high percentage of interns with offers. So... the best of the best, have a job offer in September of their Senior year.

Sounds good, but not everyone is going to get those high quality internships.

It’s not just high quality, it’s literally all internships. Rising senior summer internship is how you get your first job offer. Everyone knows this. Why does this forum play dumb? When you drop the ball and still don’t have a job after rising senior summer internship, then fall recruiting, then spring recruiting, and graduate with no job it’s very SKETCHY. You’re a walking red flag.

I graduated into a recession in 91. I bussed tables and moved to NYC to stay on a friend's couch with $300 in my pocket and no family support. Six months later I was working for private bankers as a temp secretary. Three months after that they sent me to the New York Institute of Finance and promoted me.

I was a studio art major.

There are many roads to success.

1991 was 33 years ago; a generation and a half ago.

[Anonymous]

Definitely out of line

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not only are YTA you’re a horrible human being.

Graduating is a big accomplishment. I hope your kid has family other than you because you’re awful.

This is OP. It is not an accomplishment to take easy undergraduate classes on a parents' dime. I'm sorry, it's just not. It's been a free vacation at our expense. If DC doesn't have a job, it just tees up us being embarrassed when people ask what are DC's plans after college. I'm just done.

Well that embarrassement will pale in comparison to the embarrassment you will feel when people awkwardly stare at you when you tell them you refused to attend. But hey at least you will give them something to gossip about for a few weeks.