Am I out of line? Not wanting to celebrate DC's graduation if they don't have a job lined up

[Anonymous]

Wow, can't believe this is serious question

[Anonymous]

Troll or out of line

[Anonymous]

My mother did this. She now sees me (and her grandkids) an absolute maximum of once a year, if nothing pressing comes up.

[Anonymous]

OP, what are you trying to prove?

[Anonymous]

WT actual F!

[Anonymous]

The same people you are so embarrassed to answer any questions about your kid, because s/he is in the same position like many other graduates, are unconditionally supporting their kid. YTA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother did this. She now sees me (and her grandkids) an absolute maximum of once a year, if nothing pressing comes up.

Your mother did what exactly? And why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mother did this. She now sees me (and her grandkids) an absolute maximum of once a year, if nothing pressing comes up.

Your mother did what exactly? And why?

I would easily assume from the thread context that she did not celebrate a college graduation due to a job not being lined up. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

When I graduated with my master's from an Ivy -plus school, I was one of the only ones without a job lined up.

In September, I got a job that was a great fit and by far the most lucrative of my peers. I still work for this company 19 years later.

How idiotic if my parents hadn't wanted to celebrate my graduation.

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

Most college students who are on the ball know that their last internship before senior year matters... high quality internship at a high quality company that converts a high percentage of interns with offers. So... the best of the best, have a job offer in September of their Senior year.

Sounds good, but not everyone is going to get those high quality internships.

It’s not just high quality, it’s literally all internships. Rising senior summer internship is how you get your first job offer. Everyone knows this. Why does this forum play dumb? When you drop the ball and still don’t have a job after rising senior summer internship, then fall recruiting, then spring recruiting, and graduate with no job it’s very SKETCHY. You’re a walking red flag.

I graduated into a recession in 91. I bussed tables and moved to NYC to stay on a friend's couch with $300 in my pocket and no family support. Six months later I was working for private bankers as a temp secretary. Three months after that they sent me to the New York Institute of Finance and promoted me.

I was a studio art major.

There are many roads to success.

1991 was 33 years ago; a generation and a half ago.

And there are still many roads to success.

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

Most college students who are on the ball know that their last internship before senior year matters... high quality internship at a high quality company that converts a high percentage of interns with offers. So... the best of the best, have a job offer in September of their Senior year.

Sounds good, but not everyone is going to get those high quality internships.

It’s not just high quality, it’s literally all internships. Rising senior summer internship is how you get your first job offer. Everyone knows this. Why does this forum play dumb? When you drop the ball and still don’t have a job after rising senior summer internship, then fall recruiting, then spring recruiting, and graduate with no job it’s very SKETCHY. You’re a walking red flag.

I graduated into a recession in 91. I bussed tables and moved to NYC to stay on a friend's couch with $300 in my pocket and no family support. Six months later I was working for private bankers as a temp secretary. Three months after that they sent me to the New York Institute of Finance and promoted me.

I was a studio art major.

There are many roads to success.

1991 was 33 years ago; a generation and a half ago.

And there are still many roads to success.

Maybe next you could recommend getting a job at AOL or Enron.

[Anonymous]

You can celebrate the accomplishment (college graduation) without funding his life after college.

[Anonymous]

How unloved this young adult must feel.

[Anonymous]

You need to separate the two things, OP. You can be concerned about DC not having a job lined up while also acknowledging and celebrating their accomplishment of completing college.

Do you have a pattern of recognizing success of one thing as being contingent on something else (i.e., constantly moving the "goalpost") so DC never truly feels a sense of accomplishment or receives validation or recognition from you? Because this is what you are doing here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

If this is a real post you should be careful.

Suicides and people suffering from mental health are very high right now. Don't do this to your kid. Support and love them.