Am I out of line? Not wanting to celebrate DC's graduation if they don't have a job lined up

[Anonymous]

So hire them. So rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

I’m guessing you aren’t American.

It's the very American culture for their kids to be independent ASAP and get out.

[Anonymous]

AH. It’s a historically bad job market for new grads. FWIW I didn’t have crap lined up 4 months ago but my parents were lovely about it and with their support I have job at prestigious firm now. If my parents treated me like you are suggesting I’d probably cut them off and not tell ‘em abt it

[Anonymous]

The fact that you’re basing one of the biggest milestones of a child’s life on the amount of capital they bring in is so messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

Damn, you're my mom circa 2001. She famously told everyone how disappointed she was in me at graduation. My friends still talk about it! I had just lined up a job but "it took too long and you put us through the wringer." Note that this was before adults could stay on parents' health plans through age 26, and my mom had been very clear that I couldn't come home, needed a job for health insurance, and that she wouldn't be helping me get started.

I don't talk to my mom anymore except during her occasional health scares and to coordinate bigger family logistics. So it's totally cool to take this stance, OP, but prepare for the consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

I just had diarrhea and it was more pleasant than you sound. Enjoy growing old with no calls or visits from your kids.

[Anonymous]

You make me appreciate my parents, who loved me unconditionally, even more. I went through some very difficult times, and they were always there for me. I’m sad for your child - they probably feel very alone at a time they need support the most.

[Anonymous]

Please tell me this is a joke. Or a troll.

[Anonymous]

Do you care about having a relationship with your child in the future? These things hurt and stick with people.

[Anonymous]

ZOMBIE THREAD

Don't engage unless the previous 9 pages haven't already said it for you