Am I out of line? Not wanting to celebrate DC's graduation if they don't have a job lined up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

Most college students who are on the ball know that their last internship before senior year matters... high quality internship at a high quality company that converts a high percentage of interns with offers. So... the best of the best, have a job offer in September of their Senior year.

Sounds good, but not everyone is going to get those high quality internships.

[Anonymous]

Are you aware of market dynamics now? Banks and tech companies are cutting hiring and laying off workers. MBB consulting firms are reducing the size of their partnership class, delaying start dates, and laying off underutilized resources, because their partners can't close enough work.

Your DC needs your understanding and support not pressure and shame for graduating into a recessionary environment for white collar workers. Being "on the ball" you can still not get the offer or the internship.

Tell DC to do something else to build skills -there are many paths that lead to full time employment.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get the frustration.
But I think you should still attend the graduation. Smile politely thru your high expectations.
And smile politely when you tell him that he cannot move home unless there is a plan.
Because it seems that the problem is that there is no plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

You're so far out of line you probably can't see the line.

Yes!

[Anonymous]

You are beyond out of line: you are an ar$eho!e.

[Anonymous]

It took me 6 months in 2009 to find a job. I didn't get a decent paying role until 10 years later. Graduating in a recession is tough. Cut your kid slack.

[Anonymous]

No worries. Once they get a job they’ll never bother with you again. Maybe get you Dateline’s list of nursing homes

[Anonymous]

It’s a tough job market so a lot of kids may not have full-time or permanent employment on graduation day. DD is still looking. She has one option where she won’t be paid great but we will celebrate her accomplishment regardless. She worked hard in college and we are proud.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like you are embarrasses and angry at your kid. Take a good long hard look at this and try changing your perspective. Love the kid you have! . Is your child a good person?

Are they kind, curious, aware? In all likelihood your child will be fine. He/she needs time. Some people get those internships and plum jobs straight out of college. They are grinders. Some don’t. They take some time to wait tables, travel, do carpentry. There’s nothing wrong with that. And there’s also nothing wrong with anyone who does good honest work.

Love the child you have. This is your chance to do it. Yes. Celebrate the graduation. Let him/her know you believe in them and if you don’t, fake it.

[Anonymous]

My DC graduated in December 2020 (senior year internship canceled in summer 2020) and is just NOW about to start the job she always wanted. She has supported herself with minimal help since graduation, with some temporary work in her field and some other types of work. I'm proud of her resilience.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. Americans are always volunteering, giving , spending on pets, talking of being kind but when it comes to helping adult kids or elderly parents facing adversity, that's always a burden and mooching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New poster. I hope OP is a troll for the student’s sake.

Question . My DC is only a college freshman so just curious is this the general time of the semester that a college senior should have a job lined up?I’ve heard that Hopefully internships turn into offers.

It took me awhile to find my first “real “ job post graduation in the early 90s. Bad timing lol.

Most college students who are on the ball know that their last internship before senior year matters... high quality internship at a high quality company that converts a high percentage of interns with offers. So... the best of the best, have a job offer in September of their Senior year.

Sounds good, but not everyone is going to get those high quality internships.

It’s not just high quality, it’s literally all internships. Rising senior summer internship is how you get your first job offer. Everyone knows this. Why does this forum play dumb? When you drop the ball and still don’t have a job after rising senior summer internship, then fall recruiting, then spring recruiting, and graduate with no job it’s very SKETCHY. You’re a walking red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. Americans are always volunteering, giving , spending on pets, talking of being kind but when it comes to helping adult kids or elderly parents facing adversity, that's always a burden and mooching.

The coddling has to end at some point. College is expensive as hell these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It took me 6 months in 2009 to find a job. I didn't get a decent paying role until 10 years later. Graduating in a recession is tough. Cut your kid slack.

We’re not in a recession. Stop gaslighting to rationalize an educated adult lacking ambition.

[Anonymous]

Dang. Sometimes I feel bad about not being more of a tiger mom, then I read posts like this.