Am I out of line? Not wanting to celebrate DC's graduation if they don't have a job lined up

[Anonymous]

Don’t. My parents did not go to my graduation and would not let me go. Let’s just say I barely talk to them now.

[Anonymous]

Holy wow. Not reading any comments bc I am so floored by this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not only are YTA you’re a horrible human being.

Graduating is a big accomplishment. I hope your kid has family other than you because you’re awful.

This is OP. It is not an accomplishment to take easy undergraduate classes on a parents' dime. I'm sorry, it's just not. It's been a free vacation at our expense. If DC doesn't have a job, it just tees up us being embarrassed when people ask what are DC's plans after college. I'm just done.

[Anonymous]

You'd be celebrating the accomplishment of completing four years of college, which is especially difficult to do through a pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

This must the preview post to the "my adult child never comes home to visit me, don't they know I am their mother and they owe me?" style post in about 5-10 years.

DC is failing to launch. There is nothing to come home and visit if they don't ever leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You'd be celebrating the accomplishment of completing four years of college, which is especially difficult to do through a pandemic.

One semester of online courses, where kids were bragging about how easy they were and were literally renting airbnbs in Hawaii and ski resorts because of how watered down the material was? THAT'S an accomplishment? No, it's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

This must the preview post to the "my adult child never comes home to visit me, don't they know I am their mother and they owe me?" style post in about 5-10 years.

DC is failing to launch. There is nothing to come home and visit if they don't ever leave.

That's not a reason not to celebrate graduation. Give kid a deadline for when support is cut off. Age 22 is still very young. Not celebrating graduation is just awful. Suggests a very dysfunctional relationship with your kid.

[Anonymous]

maybe if you weren't enabling them by being the bank they would be more motivated.

[Anonymous]

Mine is applying to everything he finds that is relevant. Each has over 100 applicants.

Your kid has finished college. That is an accomplishment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not only are YTA you’re a horrible human being.

Graduating is a big accomplishment. I hope your kid has family other than you because you’re awful.

This is OP. It is not an accomplishment to take easy undergraduate classes on a parents' dime. I'm sorry, it's just not. It's been a free vacation at our expense. If DC doesn't have a job, it just tees up us being embarrassed when people ask what are DC's plans after college. I'm just done.

Wow. You sound like a truly terrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not only are YTA you’re a horrible human being.

Graduating is a big accomplishment. I hope your kid has family other than you because you’re awful.

This is OP. It is not an accomplishment to take easy undergraduate classes on a parents' dime. I'm sorry, it's just not. It's been a free vacation at our expense. If DC doesn't have a job, it just tees up us being embarrassed when people ask what are DC's plans after college. I'm just done.

Did your DC have a job during college?

Did your DC have a job prior to going to college?

What major?

Does your kid understand fiances?

If they don't have a job and they are not moving home how are they financing that?

College graduation is one thing getting a job is another. Of course college, the goal is to get a job upon graduation. However not everyone can right away. Now if your young adult wants you to just support them in an apartment while they look. Nope not in my house. But that has nothing to do with graduation.

OP you are the problem. Up until now you set your kid up for failure.

[Anonymous]

Sounds really crazy to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing to celebrate if eldest DC lacks a full-time job offer and is not self-sustainable by June. I'm actually going to be deeply embarrassed and I mean that very sincerely. I'm just so fed up with the excuses and tired of being a bank to a mooch.

Oh my god

[Anonymous]

I'm so sad for your kid. What type of degree did they earn?

[Anonymous]

You are insane, OP!