Not welcome on vacation

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Anonymous wrote:Still no answer from op on wedding date. She knows she isn’t engaged.

I'm not even sure her boyfriend and his mom know they are supposedly engaged...

+1. That girl is not engaged to her son and he doesn’t ever want to be.

Well that’s on him then he should break up with her. He is equally as shitty for stringing her along if that’s the case

He isn’t forcing her to stay with him. She can leave, so there is no “stringing along.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, sometimes people are rude on purpose to make a point. It's possible she doesn't think you're a good choice for him. It's possible she doesn't approve of you living together. It's possible she knows he doesn't want to marry you so she's trying to run you off for your own good. Or maybe she's just a rude awful person. Who knows. But we all have the right to be rude.

You can choose to put up with it, you can marry him and have a rude MIL for the rest of your life, or you can break up with your "fiance". Those are your options. It is what it is.

Either you plan a wedding and get married, or you're not really engaged. The forever-fiance thing where you want the privileges of being engaged without ever actually marrying doesn't fly for a lot of people. I certainly wouldn't want that for my daughter.

Well then mil raised a weak son who can’t open his mouth and speak up and tell his “fiance” he doesn’t want to marry her. That’s on him for stringing her along.

Dudes like that suck.

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Anonymous wrote:Still no answer from op on wedding date. She knows she isn’t engaged.

I'm not even sure her boyfriend and his mom know they are supposedly engaged...

+1. That girl is not engaged to her son and he doesn’t ever want to be.

Well that’s on him then he should break up with her. He is equally as shitty for stringing her along if that’s the case

He isn’t forcing her to stay with him. She can leave, so there is no “stringing along.”

Ok but if he doesn’t wanna marry her why doesn’t he just tell her that up front so she can cut her losses??

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Anonymous wrote:So you have an engagement ring and a set date or not? Playing house doesn't mean you're engaged or a fiancé.

Yes I have an engagement ring and our wedding date is June 15th of this year.

I'm not sure why so many PPs have been so harsh. If this is a real engagement w/ an actual wedding date in the short-term, then I think many of the replies have misread the situation. All that said, I definitely wouldn't pick a fight and I would wait to get worked up until I was actually married at the very least.

The op is not engaged and no wedding date.

Well she posted her wedding date. Want her to send you her registry too? But only if you buy the most expensive thing.

She did not post a wedding date.

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Congratulations to OP for getting proposed to and sitting a date within the last 20 minutes of reading these replies.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe mil doesn’t want to change ops diapers.
She has already raised children.

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Op here what??

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Anonymous wrote:Still no answer from op on wedding date. She knows she isn’t engaged.

I'm not even sure her boyfriend and his mom know they are supposedly engaged...

+1. That girl is not engaged to her son and he doesn’t ever want to be.

Well that’s on him then he should break up with her. He is equally as shitty for stringing her along if that’s the case

He isn’t forcing her to stay with him. She can leave, so there is no “stringing along.”

Ok but if he doesn’t wanna marry her why doesn’t he just tell her that up front so she can cut her losses??

Why don’t you ask him?

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Some people put more weight on marriage than others. You calling her your mother-in-law already might be an irritant to her, since you're not married. By law, she has no relationship to you, and by law, you have no legal relationship to her son. So assuming she places a lot of importance on marriage, it's too early to complain about her as a MIL.

That said, it does sound like she's not particularly trying to be kind to you. And it's quite possible that she'll also be a crappy MIL once you get married. But it's premature to complain about that before you're even married.

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Anonymous wrote:So you have an engagement ring and a set date or not? Playing house doesn't mean you're engaged or a fiancé.

Yes I have an engagement ring and our wedding date is June 15th of this year.

I'm not sure why so many PPs have been so harsh. If this is a real engagement w/ an actual wedding date in the short-term, then I think many of the replies have misread the situation. All that said, I definitely wouldn't pick a fight and I would wait to get worked up until I was actually married at the very least.

The op is not engaged and no wedding date.

Well she posted her wedding date. Want her to send you her registry too? But only if you buy the most expensive thing.

She did not post a wedding date.

You might want to go back a page or two, dear.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. What in the world?? How is it in anyway normal for a mother to exclude her son’s live in fiancé with a set wedding date form a family vacation considering they been together 6 years.

Immediate family vacations with parents and siblings excluding significant others were fine when kids were younger living in the same house but the man is nearly 30 and has been out of the family home for a long time now. His definition of “immediate” family I’m sure includes his fiancé.

It seems like his mother is living out this fantasy of having just her and her children on a vacation expecting them to leave out their SOs as if they are little kids again. That ship has long sailed.

How is no one pointing out that it seems like his mother can’t cut the apron strings. He isn’t 19 years old he is 30 for crying out loud!

Also it was interesting how there was another thread made just recently about a mother who wanted to invite her 25 year old son on a family vacation and exclude his gf of a year and everyone jumped all over the mother saying how wrong that is.

Stop sock puppeting "soexcited123"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations to OP for getting proposed to and sitting a date within the last 20 minutes of reading these replies.

You're just a nasty c88t.

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Anonymous wrote:This OP should switch places with the one from the other day who thought her boyfriend's mom was intruding because she went into the store with them when they asked her for a ride and went to lunch with them twice in two years.

Why? She isn’t crazy for expecting to be invited with her live in fiancé on a vacation

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Why are posters trying to make this more complicated than it is, saying that vacations without OP are okay because they're married, or because the MIL can't afford to take the OP?

It's really simple: The family we know about is: MIL, stepdad, three brothers (one in PA, one in CA, and one in GA), and OP. The OP mentioned that MIL and GA son are discussing going to CA son. There are a LOT of family members who are not a part of this plan. This is a VISIT to the CA brother. It is not a "family vacation". THe MIL and GA son taking this trip together without other family members is appropriate, regardless of whether OP is engaged, married or poor.

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Anonymous wrote:Rude responses are always expected on this site but this tops the cake even for DCUM.

Don't listen to the bitter, nasty harpies replying to you, OP. They are just miserable in every way. What I got from your posts is that you just expect to be acknowledged in some way as a part of your financee's life. There is nothing wrong with that. Your future MIL is being rude. She might be passive aggressive about not wanting you to marry her son. Your feelings are valid especially since you tried to reach out several times to have a relationship with her. I would just sit back and watch how it all unfolds. If your finance goes without you, I guess you'll know where his priorities are.

Hey harpy. How’s it going?

Much better than you, thanks for asking. How does it feel to harass an anonymous 25-year-old needlessly? Makes you such a nice person, doesn't it?

Aww, are you going to contact your “fiancée” and demand I apologize, op?

Not OP but nice try. Just not so miserable that I need to harras random 25 year olds to get my rocks off. You do you boo.

Okay, OP. You’re miserable enough to harass those who aren’t 25 to get your rock off. You do you, boo.

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Can I just say that OP doesn’t seem like she would be very much for MIL to have on vacation?

She wants to fight with her.