Dating a guy I’m crazy about but have concerns

[Anonymous]

No money? NO WAY!

“I don't want no scrub
A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
Hanging out the passenger side of his best friend's ride
Trying to holla at me

If you don't have a car and you're walking
Oh yes son, I'm talking to you
If you live at home wit' your momma
Oh yes son, I'm talking to you
If you have a shorty that you don't show love
Oh yes son I'm talking to you
Wanna get with me with no money
Oh no, I don't want no . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OP doesn't deserve this guy.

Right.

She is very concerned about his income, when she makes less or the same? How is that not hypocritical? Oh wait- it is.

[Anonymous]

Haha.. he’s better than you but somehow you think you need to break up with him. Good luck finding a good guy!

You said it OP, the only goal you have for yourself is to have children, not a career, not a loving and caring husband etc…you only see him as a provider not a real person. Please let this guy go, you don’t deserve him.

[Anonymous]

He should join the Foreign Service and you can follow along and have kids and someday become a secretary in the embassy. You'll do fine moneywise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who just has a goal to get married and have kids and that's the beginning and end? What year is this?

A lot of smart people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Much better to marry and have a family with the great guy and deal with not having a lot of money, than to pass the good guy up and marry someone with high earning power who turns out to be a checked out dad and not very nice and does nothing but work and play video games.

This!!! I am an attorney, a mom of a DD and DS, and am recently divorced from someone with high earning power who turned out to be a completely checked-out dad (all he wanted to do was work - no help with kids or household duties), excessive spender (he spent the money as fast as he made it), AND a narcissistic cheater. I hooked up with this a-hole after being in a long-term relationship with a kind, loving guy who didn't have or come from money. I didn't leave him solely because he had low earning power but the guy I married was attractive because he had money. I just share my story as anecdotal evidence.

Decide carefully. The person you marry can't make you happy (that's an inside job) but they sure as heck can make you miserable.

[Anonymous]

Love and marriage are great and all.

But $140k in the DMV is still $140k in the DMV.

Get out while you still have your looks and figure OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get married. When you have your first kid and start staying home, he naturally will kick his career into second gear. It is a primal, biological instinct in the male human*.

*(as long as you don’t thwart nature by trying to ramp up your career in tandem with his)

Wasn’t my experience…..
so have a back up plan and career you are okay balancing with child rearing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love and marriage are great and all.

But $140k in the DMV is still $140k in the DMV.

Get out while you still have your looks and figure OP.

140 in the DMV is certainly liveable. Get over yourself (or make your own money). Have some pride.