Dating a guy I’m crazy about but have concerns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 27 and he is 26. In many ways he is my dream man! Handsome, sweet, well-read, worldly and smart. So kind and adores me!

I want to get married and have children. It is the only real goal I have for myself. And I worry as I realize that having that family lifestyle in Nova requires a certain income. I do not come from money and work at a non profit as a program assistant. My BF makes only a little more than me as a research analyst even though he has a masters from SAIS.

I guess it’s occurring to me that neither of us in on the path to make a lot of money and then…how will we get married, buy a house and have children?


It makes me worry. I love him SO much and I don’t want to act like a gold digger by breaking up with him because I don’t think he’ll ever be able to afford a family… what do I do?

Define other goals to increase your income.

[Anonymous]

He is 26 not 36. I don’t think his income should be a concern if he has drive and ambition.

[Anonymous]

Don't marry until 30. Don't have kids until 35. Work hard until then, earn, save, invest until you are ready to have the lifestyle you desire. Don't put burden of your desires on a young man who's frontal cortex is still developing. Heck, DC counts him a minor for most purposes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is 26 not 36. I don’t think his income should be a concern if he has drive and ambition.

For a gold digger, it is clearly a concern unless money is in the bank.

[Anonymous]

When I was young and dating I never let my girlfriends know how rich my family was. We own over 100 properties. Worth over $75 million in real estate equity.

Also, even though my family was wealthy I worked my butt off after college. 50-70 hour weeks working my way up the corporate ladder. Just because someone doesn't make a lot now doesn't mean they won't later on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't make a lot now doesn't mean they won't later on.

That's for people wanting to be a partner through thick and thin, not fair weather friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was young and dating I never let my girlfriends know how rich my family was. We own over 100 properties. Worth over $75 million in real estate equity.

Also, even though my family was wealthy I worked my butt off after college. 50-70 hour weeks working my way up the corporate ladder. Just because someone doesn't make a lot now doesn't mean they won't later on.

How is this relevant even a little bit?

[Anonymous]

Don’t break up with someone you love over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t break up with someone you love over this.

I guess better now than after few kids, lots of disappointment and a divorce. That guy deserves better.

[Anonymous]

If you aren’t fat make an only fans account. You could be an SAHM just don’t show your face.

[Anonymous]

OP, my husband was 26 when we started dating and working at UPS, loading trucks. He had a degree in religion. He eventually became a software engineer and made a lot more money that I did.

It is so hard to find a great guy. This is a dumb reason to break up. Try to make more money yourself if you are worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was young and dating I never let my girlfriends know how rich my family was. We own over 100 properties. Worth over $75 million in real estate equity.

Also, even though my family was wealthy I worked my butt off after college. 50-70 hour weeks working my way up the corporate ladder. Just because someone doesn't make a lot now doesn't mean they won't later on.

How is this relevant even a little bit?

Because the only reason OP is thinking of breaking up with her boyfriend who she apparently is crazy in love with is because of money. You never know who you are dating and what future that person has. He could have a wealthy or well off family. More than she realizes. He could also be hard working and make 2-3x more in 5-8 years.

OP is willing to destroy a loving relationship with a man literally over the unknown of money. I hope they do break up because he does not deserve a women who thinks like that. But, the point is you never know what the future holds.

[Anonymous]

The OP doesn't deserve this guy.

[Anonymous]

Please leave this guy. He sounds amazing and deserves so much better than OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, let him go so he can find himself someone who's not so shallow and immature.