You walk into an OB office and sit next to a couple crying...

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Are they allowed to deny medical care because you cant line up child care when they keep rescheduling?

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I would not put the burden on the clueless person knitting baby clothes, OP, even though I think most people would not have sat down next to you, and not gotten baby stuff out. I pass no judgement on this person, however.

I would put the burden on the OB's office to place you immediately in a different room, so you did not have to wait with these people. It's more efficient than relying on a group of distracted patients who might or might not be sensitive to your needs.

Presumably she got the bad news at the ultrasound, so instead of telling her to wait for the D/C info in the examine room they send her crying buckets of tears to the waiting room?????

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18:05 again. My condolences for your loss. I am very sorry. Big hugs to you and your husband, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Regular OB offices have no rules against kids. Maybe REs?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.

OMG would you please stop saying "dead baby" and "dead in my body"? You are incredibly self involved and literally using a dead child to get sympathy on the internet.

Clearly it wouldn't even occur to you that your language and posts could be triggering for others even as you are going on and on about how awful it was for you to get triggered. You need to go get some sympathy from an appropriate place, not here.

DP: Stop scolding this poor women for expressing her grief in a perfectly natural way. No one need participate in a thread and you already know what this one is about.

OP I have no idea why people are being so hard on you today. Usually this is a more supportive area.

Its probably because alot of us have taken our own licks with high risk pregnancies, some with crappy outcomes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Regular OB offices have no rules against kids. Maybe REs?

He's a specialist surgeon with an office in the giant floor with all the hospital OB offices. I had childcare lined up for the first appointment. If they want to reschedule with 3 weeks notice, then kids are coming.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Regular OB offices have no rules against kids. Maybe REs?

He's a specialist surgeon with an office in the giant floor with all the hospital OB offices. I had childcare lined up for the first appointment. If they want to reschedule with 3 weeks notice, then kids are coming.

Good luck with that. I know when I get a mammogram there are NO kids allowed. How can you focus on the doctor with 3 kids right next to you? They don't want kids around either so I'd check if I were you before wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Regular OB offices have no rules against kids. Maybe REs?

He's a specialist surgeon with an office in the giant floor with all the hospital OB offices. I had childcare lined up for the first appointment. If they want to reschedule with 3 weeks notice, then kids are coming.

Good luck with that. I know when I get a mammogram there are NO kids allowed. How can you focus on the doctor with 3 kids right next to you? They don't want kids around either so I'd check if I were you before wasting your time.

Do people getting mammograms typically have small children?
How can you tell somebody getting care for a C section complication to not bring kids? Crazy world we live in

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So sorry for your loss, OP.

I can be somewhat in lala land at apts, I have pretty bad medical anxiety. Being super pregnant at the beginning of Covid really heightened it and then with a subsequent pregnancy I had a bad accident that caused me severe pain that couldn't be adequately managed until after the birth. All that to say, I was holding back tears at several points in my OB's waiting room and could have done something insensitive like this because I was having my own struggles even if they looked different than yours. I hope you can find peace and I'm sorry again for your terrible loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry for your loss, OP.

I can be somewhat in lala land at apts, I have pretty bad medical anxiety. Being super pregnant at the beginning of Covid really heightened it and then with a subsequent pregnancy I had a bad accident that caused me severe pain that couldn't be adequately managed until after the birth. All that to say, I was holding back tears at several points in my OB's waiting room and could have done something insensitive like this because I was having my own struggles even if they looked different than yours. I hope you can find peace and I'm sorry again for your terrible loss.

Yeah the end of my last pregnancy I was unknowingly fighting for my baby's life because my midwives were trying to avoid ordering a $54 ultrasound. The appointment before I gave birth I almost fired the whole practice. I had severe insomnia. To be perfectly honest I probably would have barely noticed somebody crying in the waiting room. You can't assume people just sitting there dont have problems of their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks - but it’s an awkward place. I was told I had HPV and then had to sit a waiting room with all these pregnant people.

Women. Pregnant women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.

Why assume anyone crying in the OB office is crying because of a dead baby or infertility?

Going on with their knitting is the least nosy thing they could do.

What else is there to cry about at an OB office with a partner there? Cancer? Either way, it's not good news if someone is crying in a medical office.

Seriously? You can’t think of any other reason?

[Anonymous]

Op, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I have a friend who lost 3 pregnancies, each was between 18-21 weeks. She used to comfort herself by knitting clothing for other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Are they allowed to deny medical care because you cant line up child care when they keep rescheduling?

Uh, yes? You have 3 weeks notice. How much notice do you need?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sucks - but it’s an awkward place. I was told I had HPV and then had to sit a waiting room with all these pregnant people.

Women. Pregnant women.

Maybe some of them were girls.