You walk into an OB office and sit next to a couple crying...

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Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the whole place and everything happening there a reminder of babies? I don’t get the problem specifically with knitting. Would it be insensitive to read the parenting magazine on the table if someone is crying?

Didn't we establish the OP was probably a troll?

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Dang, pretty crappy of the OB's office to leave you in the waiting room in that situation.

I'd look for a new doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for your loss- I went through two myself and it was absolutely devastating.

That being said I think your anger is misplaced. While for some reason the knitting struck a particular chord with you, I’d think for most woman suffering a recent loss (myself included) that just sitting in a waiting room full of happy pregnant women/women coming in with their babies for their postpartum checkup would be what was tough and the knitting project someone was completing wouldn’t even be on my radar.

Everyone has different triggers and the fact that this woman wasn’t a mind reader and able to anticipate yours doesn’t make her a bad person. She may have been trying to just look occupied to give you space.

Really well said. OP, and PP, I’m so very sorry for your losses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dang, pretty crappy of the OB's office to leave you in the waiting room in that situation.

I'd look for a new doctor.

They didn't. The story is made up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This person was likely in their own world and not paying any attention to the couple.

More than any other city, D.C. is notorious for the number of people who are “in their own world” and completely oblivious to the feelings of the people around them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I would direct my anger at the OB’s office that left you crying in the waiting room instead of finding a private place for you to grieve until you could compose yourselves enough to go home.

Absolutely. I can't imagine why your OBs office didn't provide a room for you to wait. I had some similar news and my OB let DH and I just hang out in the exam room for a while until we were ready to leave.

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Anonymous wrote:...and decide to whip out a knitting set and knit baby clothing in front of them.

Are people really this daft? Do they think people crying at an OB office are just there so they can watch you knit something for a baby they no longer have?

Well the world doesn't revolve around you.

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Why doesn't Jeff lock threads that were started by trolls? Sincere question!

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Anonymous wrote:I think a couple crying in an OB's office doesn't care whether or not someone else in the waiting room is knitting.

I did, yes, and started crying harder because it was triggering.

So you would have rather her stare at you instead? You wanted her attention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for your loss- I went through two myself and it was absolutely devastating.

That being said I think your anger is misplaced. While for some reason the knitting struck a particular chord with you, I’d think for most woman suffering a recent loss (myself included) that just sitting in a waiting room full of happy pregnant women/women coming in with their babies for their postpartum checkup would be what was tough and the knitting project someone was completing wouldn’t even be on my radar.

Everyone has different triggers and the fact that this woman wasn’t a mind reader and able to anticipate yours doesn’t make her a bad person. She may have been trying to just look occupied to give you space.

I completely agree. I am so sorry for your loss. I suffered a series of miscarriages and I understand how painful it is, but your anger is completely misplaced here.

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

She probably wanted to look/be occupied and the project she happened to be working on was something for her baby. Most knitters don’t travel with more than one knitting project.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I would direct my anger at the OB’s office that left you crying in the waiting room instead of finding a private place for you to grieve until you could compose yourselves enough to go home.

Absolutely. I can't imagine why your OBs office didn't provide a room for you to wait. I had some similar news and my OB let DH and I just hang out in the exam room for a while until we were ready to leave.

Because they want to earn $600,000 a year so they see 30, 40, 50 patients a day. If they have one patient occupying an exam room for 45 minutes it backs up their whole day and they are late to golf.

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Anonymous wrote:Why doesn't Jeff lock threads that were started by trolls? Sincere question!

I'm not a troll and he can verify that I post often on here about my losses and infertility. Just because you've never been treated like this doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

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Anonymous wrote:Why doesn't Jeff lock threads that were started by trolls? Sincere question!

I'm not a troll and he can verify that I post often on here about my losses and infertility. Just because you've never been treated like this doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

We think you are a troll because you are so unreasonable in interpreting your situation, not because we don't believe someone would be in this situation. Believe me, my ob was a little shit when I had an mc.

If I happen to be wrong and you are not a troll, I am sincerely sorry for your loss. If blaming the knitters give you peace, then IMHO you should blame away.