You walk into an OB office and sit next to a couple crying...

[Anonymous]

I'm really sorry for your loss. What you are going through is so unfair, and I really wish you healing and peace.

That said, I also don't think they did anything wrong, and if anything were trying to distract themselves from their nerves for their own appointment. I always get anxiety before my OB appointments and need to bring something to distract myself so this honestly could have been me - except crochet or embroidery instead of knitting.

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1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss. It’s not unreasonable to expect some sensitivity in an OB’s office.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry for your loss. What you are going through is so unfair, and I really wish you healing and peace.

That said, I also don't think they did anything wrong, and if anything were trying to distract themselves from their nerves for their own appointment. I always get anxiety before my OB appointments and need to bring something to distract myself so this honestly could have been me - except crochet or embroidery instead of knitting.

Even if this were the case, there were plenty of other seats. If the person starts crying harder, how about moving somewhere else? Literally we were the only 3 people in the office. And this person sat right next to us.

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

Yes, OP, many of us would.

I would not and any of my friends would think that it was appallingly insensitive. I am so sorry. Choosing not to knit for 15 minutes hardly amounts to "putting your life on hold."

They could have been crying for numerous reasons. Maybe even nothing to do with the OB. Maybe they found out some unrelated bad news. I’m not going to stop knitting in case I possibly may trigger a crying couple. That’s just ridiculous.
I mean I know you think you’re amazingly sensitive and compassionate, but most of us are just going about our day. And that’s not a bad thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.

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It’s an OB’s office, OP. There are going to be a lot of pregnancies and babies in there. And losses. Hopefully the practice didn’t leave you crying in the waiting room for long, but I really don’t think the knitter was out to get you.

I knit in waiting rooms and I wouldn’t even know anyone would be able to tell what I’m knitting, and if it’s baby clothes it’s just as likely to be for someone else’s baby who is already born or whatever. Also, again, it’s an OB’s office so there is just going to be a lot of baby/pregnancy stuff going on in there.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry for your loss. What you are going through is so unfair, and I really wish you healing and peace.

That said, I also don't think they did anything wrong, and if anything were trying to distract themselves from their nerves for their own appointment. I always get anxiety before my OB appointments and need to bring something to distract myself so this honestly could have been me - except crochet or embroidery instead of knitting.

Even if this were the case, there were plenty of other seats. If the person starts crying harder, how about moving somewhere else? Literally we were the only 3 people in the office. And this person sat right next to us.

As others have said, she was probably in her own world and didn't realize you were crying harder. Some people are just like that. Don't focus your anger and grieving on this, it will just make the rage fester. BTDT.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry for your loss. What you are going through is so unfair, and I really wish you healing and peace.

That said, I also don't think they did anything wrong, and if anything were trying to distract themselves from their nerves for their own appointment. I always get anxiety before my OB appointments and need to bring something to distract myself so this honestly could have been me - except crochet or embroidery instead of knitting.

Don’t you get it? It’s not about you and your own issues. It’s about the crying couple. They are the ones who matter here. Anxiety be damned.

[Anonymous]

Yikes, OP. You are clearly grieving and I’m sorry for your loss. But the other people in the waiting room are not responsible for trying to help you feel better about your loss. On some level, you could have been making someone in the waiting room who was unable to even get pregnant feel badly by having a baby bump.

During the 16 week ultrasound for my first baby, we discovered no heartbeat. There was a 10 minute period when I was in the waiting room processing this, while all the other pregnant women around me were…still pregnant and not dealing with finding out they had lost a baby. My OB came to the waiting room and quickly whisked me back to her office to get me out of there, but I never expected other patients to modify their behavior to make way for my sadness.

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

Yes, OP, many of us would.

I would not and any of my friends would think that it was appallingly insensitive. I am so sorry. Choosing not to knit for 15 minutes hardly amounts to "putting your life on hold."

They could have been crying for numerous reasons. Maybe even nothing to do with the OB. Maybe they found out some unrelated bad news. I’m not going to stop knitting in case I possibly may trigger a crying couple. That’s just ridiculous.
I mean I know you think you’re amazingly sensitive and compassionate, but most of us are just going about our day. And that’s not a bad thing.

Next time, I'll be sure to let the person know and ask them to stop. Because that can't be any more tacky than their actions, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I think a couple crying in an OB's office doesn't care whether or not someone else in the waiting room is knitting.

I did, yes, and started crying harder because it was triggering.

Well, then you need to understand that whatever you might be going through there are still other people in the world living their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

Yes, OP, many of us would.

I would not and any of my friends would think that it was appallingly insensitive. I am so sorry. Choosing not to knit for 15 minutes hardly amounts to "putting your life on hold."

They could have been crying for numerous reasons. Maybe even nothing to do with the OB. Maybe they found out some unrelated bad news. I’m not going to stop knitting in case I possibly may trigger a crying couple. That’s just ridiculous.
I mean I know you think you’re amazingly sensitive and compassionate, but most of us are just going about our day. And that’s not a bad thing.

Next time, I'll be sure to let the person know and ask them to stop. Because that can't be any more tacky than their actions, right?

Well the problem with your statement is that their actions were not tacky. They were normal.

[Anonymous]

I didn't expect that there were so many cold people out there, but now I know.

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I'm sorry for your loss but this is correct. I doubt they decided to knit baby clothes just to make you feel bad. That is what they were working on probably for their own baby. It had nothing to do with you.

So you would knit baby clothes in front of the crying couple?

Yes, OP, many of us would.

I would not and any of my friends would think that it was appallingly insensitive. I am so sorry. Choosing not to knit for 15 minutes hardly amounts to "putting your life on hold."

They could have been crying for numerous reasons. Maybe even nothing to do with the OB. Maybe they found out some unrelated bad news. I’m not going to stop knitting in case I possibly may trigger a crying couple. That’s just ridiculous.
I mean I know you think you’re amazingly sensitive and compassionate, but most of us are just going about our day. And that’s not a bad thing.

Next time, I'll be sure to let the person know and ask them to stop. Because that can't be any more tacky than their actions, right?

Well the problem with your statement is that their actions were not tacky. They were normal.

So my request would be totally normal too.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, but the world does not revolve around you.