I overstepped and I don’t know how to fix it.
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Anonymous
+1 I've never heard this. I've had 2 kids and had a baby shower. My own parents and ILs gave us generous checks, not baby items. So it's not always the case that "family buys X" or whatever. |
Anonymous
What thread was this? Curious. |
Anonymous
Really weird that they complained to you about this. They obviously set it up wrong (if anyone could see the gift options, then anyone can order them…duh). You did nothing wrong. |
Anonymous
| You did nothing wrong |
Anonymous
This is ridiculous. Ignore. No one is expected to read their minds. They were rude to bring this to your attention. |
Anonymous
| You put them on the registry so you can get the 15% discount/credit. |
Anonymous
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/150/1146408.page |
Anonymous
| OP, this person is not a friend. She is a leech. She implies she wants something from you then complains when you give it to her. For example, she puts expensive items on her registry and then gets mad that you bought one. It's complete and utter nonsense. What do you get out of this friendship? She is emotionally abusive. |
Anonymous
You do this after the shower, or right before you buy the item. Add it, then buy it. You don't let it sit on the registry when you know everyone's buying shower gifts and then not expect someone to buy it. |
Anonymous
Then you set up a private registry and not be an idiot and share it out to for a baby shower and get pissed if people buy stuff off it. |
Anonymous
| If family wanted to buy a piece of furniture or a specific item, they should have told her and she'd avoid putting it on the registry. If it's on the registry it's fair game for anyone. I don't understand how you did anything wrong. |
Anonymous
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OP, I say this with all kindness, but it's time to step away from this friendship, unless you're okay with continually doing something totally innocent and very nice and then getting criticized for it. I'm not sure what YOU are getting out of this friendship, but she sounds like a really crappy friend to me.
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Anonymous
| There is nothing to fix. Stop apologizing. Ignore them. Unless she clearly wrote “do not buy items X, Y, and Z from the registry” then you have don’t nothing wrong. |
Anonymous
| This is so bizarre. You didn't overstep. My parents and in-laws both separately asked what they could buy so we told them the more expensive things we needed (crib, stroller, etc) and then left those things off the public registry. If the friend already had agreements with family on certain gifts wth would she then also put the items on a public registry. If it's unclaimed on a registry then it's fair game. If you absolutely must attend, fine but then drop this "friend" OP. I haven't read that other thread about the same friend but she sounds completely off her rocker, rude and outrageous based on this thread alone. Too much drama. |
Anonymous
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You did nothing wrong. And I would have told that. It was unclaimed on a registry. That's how it works. You're not a mind reader that family wanted to get something as a group gift. You thought you were doing something generous and thoughtful. But, since she doesn't think that, you'll go ahead and return it so family can repurchase, and will sit out the shower altogether. Since she's not acting like much of a friend. Wish her well then bounce.
Hopefully she'll realize what a complete psycho she looks like and will apologize. If not, so be it. It is her that WAY overstepped here. |