I overstepped and I don’t know how to fix it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:unless you bought like the crib or something...

No. Doesn't matter what item it is. Don't put your crib (or anything else) on your registry if that gift "belongs" to someone specific to buy.

[Anonymous]

Op here, I bought an item that was a little pricey but there were other items on there that were $1000+ as well. I guess in my mind, if the family was going to chip in for this item, they can still spend the same amount they were planning to chip in.

I can’t refuse to attend the shower because of a few reason that I don’t really want to get into, but basically if I’m not there, it’s not going to proceed.

Like I said, I just want to fix any issues I caused and tbh, I just want them to stop being mad at me. I know that’s a bad reason to apologize but I’m not really sure what else I can do at this point.

[Anonymous]

Is this the same OP that posted about her friend saying a certain wine sounded good and the OP bought a bottle and the friend got pissed?

[Anonymous]

If I were you, I would cancel the order. Reorder something in the $75 range. Tell your friend what you’ve done, & say that you are sorry for overstepping, you made an honest mistake.
Attend the shower. Be kind to all.
And then slowly back away & keep contact with friend if it makes you happy. Because these people are a bit difficult. I sense you will be running yourself ragged to please them, & probably fall short for some explicable reason. I’d plan to keep a low profile friendship with the mom, my actual friend, & avoid drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I bought an item that was a little pricey but there were other items on there that were $1000+ as well. I guess in my mind, if the family was going to chip in for this item, they can still spend the same amount they were planning to chip in.

I can’t refuse to attend the shower because of a few reason that I don’t really want to get into, but basically if I’m not there, it’s not going to proceed.

Like I said, I just want to fix any issues I caused and tbh, I just want them to stop being mad at me. I know that’s a bad reason to apologize but I’m not really sure what else I can do at this point.

Are you the new mother's parole officer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:unless you bought like the crib or something...

Wait is this a cultural no no?

-OP

Crib and stroller are grandmas'

[Anonymous]

Cant most people add an option to buy a percentage of gift these days? Example, 25-50$ towards a 350$ stroller? This would have at least given you a hint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this the same OP that posted about her friend saying a certain wine sounded good and the OP bought a bottle and the friend got pissed?

Yep that was me. Same friend too.

-Op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I bought an item that was a little pricey but there were other items on there that were $1000+ as well. I guess in my mind, if the family was going to chip in for this item, they can still spend the same amount they were planning to chip in.

I can’t refuse to attend the shower because of a few reason that I don’t really want to get into, but basically if I’m not there, it’s not going to proceed.

Like I said, I just want to fix any issues I caused and tbh, I just want them to stop being mad at me. I know that’s a bad reason to apologize but I’m not really sure what else I can do at this point.

Are you the new mother's parole officer?

I’m guessing she’s hosting at her club or something similar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this the same OP that posted about her friend saying a certain wine sounded good and the OP bought a bottle and the friend got pissed?

Yep that was me. Same friend too.

-Op

This friend sounds like a pain in the ass, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I bought an item that was a little pricey but there were other items on there that were $1000+ as well. I guess in my mind, if the family was going to chip in for this item, they can still spend the same amount they were planning to chip in.

I can’t refuse to attend the shower because of a few reason that I don’t really want to get into, but basically if I’m not there, it’s not going to proceed.

Like I said, I just want to fix any issues I caused and tbh, I just want them to stop being mad at me. I know that’s a bad reason to apologize but I’m not really sure what else I can do at this point.

Are you the new mother's parole officer?

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To the OP - I think you disguised the story well enough, but My vote is that you bought the crib for your son’s girlfriend/wife and he let you know that her family who is a bit less well off was expected to chip in and buy that gift as a big gesture. They already feel “less than” because You are the rich grandparent side and they are not. In fact You are actually “throwing” the shower in your McMansion or another large costly venue, which is why you sort-of have to be there and cannot end the “friendship/relationship.

That, or you’re the step mother who is showing up the bio-mom/family in fhe same way.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine being upset with a friend for them being generous. That’s just silly.

[Anonymous]

May I send you our registry instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I bought an item that was a little pricey but there were other items on there that were $1000+ as well. I guess in my mind, if the family was going to chip in for this item, they can still spend the same amount they were planning to chip in.

I can’t refuse to attend the shower because of a few reason that I don’t really want to get into, but basically if I’m not there, it’s not going to proceed.

Like I said, I just want to fix any issues I caused and tbh, I just want them to stop being mad at me. I know that’s a bad reason to apologize but I’m not really sure what else I can do at this point.

Are you the new mother's parole officer?

.

To the OP - I think you disguised the story well enough, but My vote is that you bought the crib for your son’s girlfriend/wife and he let you know that her family who is a bit less well off was expected to chip in and buy that gift as a big gesture. They already feel “less than” because You are the rich grandparent side and they are not. In fact You are actually “throwing” the shower in your McMansion or another large costly venue, which is why you sort-of have to be there and cannot end the “friendship/relationship.

That, or you’re the step mother who is showing up the bio-mom/family in fhe same way.

Yeah let’s just go ahead and create scenarios that are not at all what was originally posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I bought an item that was a little pricey but there were other items on there that were $1000+ as well. I guess in my mind, if the family was going to chip in for this item, they can still spend the same amount they were planning to chip in.

I can’t refuse to attend the shower because of a few reason that I don’t really want to get into, but basically if I’m not there, it’s not going to proceed.

Like I said, I just want to fix any issues I caused and tbh, I just want them to stop being mad at me. I know that’s a bad reason to apologize but I’m not really sure what else I can do at this point.

Are you the new mother's parole officer?

.

To the OP - I think you disguised the story well enough, but My vote is that you bought the crib for your son’s girlfriend/wife and he let you know that her family who is a bit less well off was expected to chip in and buy that gift as a big gesture. They already feel “less than” because You are the rich grandparent side and they are not. In fact You are actually “throwing” the shower in your McMansion or another large costly venue, which is why you sort-of have to be there and cannot end the “friendship/relationship.

That, or you’re the step mother who is showing up the bio-mom/family in fhe same way.

Yeah let’s just go ahead and create scenarios that are not at all what was originally posted.

But how else can we find a way to blame OP in this scenario?