You are always invisible as a minority woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try wearing louder colors, rolling your shoulders back, smiling and making eye contact. I'm a brown woman and definitely don't feel invisible. Forgettable and noticeable comes in every color.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a tall thin Asian with an equally tall thin twin sister. We have never once been invisible. And I am not being smug. We are both attractive but when you put the two of us together we always get stared at.

We are hitting 40 now and nothing has changed. Probably get stared at more because now we drag our equally attractive kids (girls and boys) with us and someone is always commenting on our kids.

There must be something strange looking about you that you are unaware of that some people notice.

Haha what does that mean?

[Anonymous]

chiming in as a Black woman.
I do not feel invisible.

If anything, sometimes, I feel like I get too much attention. Eyes are usually on me from the time I walk in a store, restaurant, or room until the time I leave. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad.

I’ve personally never experienced difficulty dating but as others have mentioned I date across all races so maybe that’s just because I entertain a larger pool of men.

I understand that others may feel invisible but I personally cannot relate. Mine is just one tiny data point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not because you’re Black, it’s because you’re unattractive. My best friend from HS/college is half black, half white, gorgeous, and used to turn heads everywhere we went. I always felt invisible next to her, even though I’m white, because she got all of the attention.

Black woman here, I could be wrong, but I don't at all think the op is Black.

[Anonymous]

South Asian woman here who got a lot of attention (from white and african-american men) in my 20s. Like A LOT. Because I was "exotic" but totally agree that now that I am in my 40s, totally get ignored by men and women alike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not because you’re Black, it’s because you’re unattractive. My best friend from HS/college is half black, half white, gorgeous, and used to turn heads everywhere we went. I always felt invisible next to her, even though I’m white, because she got all of the attention.

Black woman here, I could be wrong, but I don't at all think the op is Black.

Yeah, it was clear to me that OP is Asian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:South Asian woman here who got a lot of attention (from white and african-american men) in my 20s. Like A LOT. Because I was "exotic" but totally agree that now that I am in my 40s, totally get ignored by men and women alike.

This just sounds like a weight problem not an age problem. I don't see it easy to ignore priyanka chopra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a tall thin Asian with an equally tall thin twin sister. We have never once been invisible. And I am not being smug. We are both attractive but when you put the two of us together we always get stared at.

We are hitting 40 now and nothing has changed. Probably get stared at more because now we drag our equally attractive kids (girls and boys) with us and someone is always commenting on our kids.

There must be something strange looking about you that you are unaware of that some people notice.

Uhh other than the fact they are tall (asians) and twins?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been thin for most of my life but I am petite and short. I have always been invisible even when I was in my twenties. I recall walking into a Blue Mercury store with my blonde white friend this one time and the sales associate completely ignored me and started talking to my friend. She was recommending products and also did her makeup while I stood by and looked on. She didn’t even acknowledge me or ask if I wanted my makeup done or what makeup I was interested in.

In groups of women the white women are noticed by men, even if they are chubbier than me.

Unless you are a young white woman, being a minority woman means living in invisibility.

So it’s okay to ignore a fat girl, but not a minority? Good talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been thin for most of my life but I am petite and short. I have always been invisible even when I was in my twenties. I recall walking into a Blue Mercury store with my blonde white friend this one time and the sales associate completely ignored me and started talking to my friend. She was recommending products and also did her makeup while I stood by and looked on. She didn’t even acknowledge me or ask if I wanted my makeup done or what makeup I was interested in.

In groups of women the white women are noticed by men, even if they are chubbier than me.

Unless you are a young white woman, being a minority woman means living in invisibility.

So it’s okay to ignore a fat girl, but not a minority? Good talk.

DP. Sorry, but IDK what la la land you live on. DMV men will take notice of a fat girl because there are more of them than there are thin women in this area. However, the normal average man would prefer a woman with a normal bmi who looks healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a tall thin Asian with an equally tall thin twin sister. We have never once been invisible. And I am not being smug. We are both attractive but when you put the two of us together we always get stared at.

We are hitting 40 now and nothing has changed. Probably get stared at more because now we drag our equally attractive kids (girls and boys) with us and someone is always commenting on our kids.

There must be something strange looking about you that you are unaware of that some people notice.

Uhh other than the fact they are tall (asians) and twins?

I am the pp and confused as to why the PP thinks there is something strange about me and my sister, which is why people notice us! I tend to think twins are noticed quite often. Tall, asian twins seem to be an anomaly most places as well, so we tend to garner a lot of attention.