Skipping Wife's Birthday

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

Well technically speaking your kids are the ones who really ignored you for Father’s Day. I wonder why, hmm…

That's not how fathers day works, especially with younger kids. I bet you want us to believe your 8 year old DD cooked you filet mignon on fathers day and got you a new graphite hybrid driver, right?

They’ve been married for 21 years. Their kids are teenagers or in college by now.

I have been married 25 years and my kids aren't even teenagers yet

[Anonymous]

Well, OP here. I didn't say anything this morning before work and went about my routine like it was any other day.

No blow back yet.

Will keep you posted!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

Well technically speaking your kids are the ones who really ignored you for Father’s Day. I wonder why, hmm…

That's not how fathers day works, especially with younger kids. I bet you want us to believe your 8 year old DD cooked you filet mignon on fathers day and got you a new graphite hybrid driver, right?

They've been married 21 years. Chances are their kids are high schoolers or maybe even young adults. Please. By this point those kids should be making the effort, not being reminded by mom.

BWABABAHAHAHAH. Of course they get reminded by mom. OMG. Of course. They don't spontaneously think of father's day or their parent's birthdays. But that's OK. They should get a level of help/reminders appropriate to their age. For my practically adult (16&17 yo )kids that means me reminding them multiple times over the two weeks before an event, but letting them get/make a gift/card on their own. I'll give them suggestions if they want them.

+1 I had to raise an eyebrow at that one. My 19yo and 17yo aren’t making brunch reservations (Mother’s Day) or planning a dinner party (Father’s Day). Cards yes. Reminded repeatedly by other spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

Well technically speaking your kids are the ones who really ignored you for Father’s Day. I wonder why, hmm…

That's not how fathers day works, especially with younger kids. I bet you want us to believe your 8 year old DD cooked you filet mignon on fathers day and got you a new graphite hybrid driver, right?

They’ve been married for 21 years. Their kids are teenagers or in college by now.

When I was married for 21 years my kids were 6 and 11.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

Estimated by whom? Citations needed.

This isn’t alienation— he’s being a jerk. In front of his kids. He has the opportunity to behave like a decent parent but is choosing not to.

One book to read is called "Divorce Poison". It's by a psychologist who treats children who have been alienated.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

Estimated by whom? Citations needed.

This isn’t alienation— he’s being a jerk. In front of his kids. He has the opportunity to behave like a decent parent but is choosing not to.

One book to read is called "Divorce Poison". It's by a psychologist who treats children who have been alienated.

That’s not a citation for the 95%

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

Estimated by whom? Citations needed.

This isn’t alienation— he’s being a jerk. In front of his kids. He has the opportunity to behave like a decent parent but is choosing not to.

Just want to add that men sometimes do the alientation on themselves -- stop paying child support, stop reaching out when parenting gets hard, just disappearing. 99% of the parents who do that are the fathers, and 1% the mothers. Citation: My brain, so feel free to dispute, but not with dumb anecdotal evidence.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

Sad but not surprising. Women will absolutely divorce to "teach him a lesson" or to punish him for not following her rules. It's all over this forum

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

[jsteele]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

Like I've said before, you should be paying me for the engagement I create.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are racing her to the bottom.

And winning.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

Like I've said before, you should be paying me for the engagement I create.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?