Skipping Wife's Birthday

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

Like I've said before, you should be paying me for the engagement I create.

So is your OP based on any tiny bit of reality at all?

[jsteele]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

Like I've said before, you should be paying me for the engagement I create.

So is your OP based on any tiny bit of reality at all?

I am confident that the original post is completely true (other than his wife being wrong in the original disagreement). His sock puppeted replies are even more true. The guy takes pleasure in his wife's misery and he is proud of it. I wish I could say that is the worst thing about him and the reason that I remove most of his posts, but sadly, there is worse.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

You sure?

If you can provide my initials, you have my word that I'll never visit this place again.

Put up or shut up.

[jsteele]

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

You sure?

If you can provide my initials, you have my word that I'll never visit this place again.

Put up or shut up.

I haven't bothered to figure out your name, though that probably wouldn't be too difficult given all the information that you have disclosed about yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

You sure?

If you can provide my initials, you have my word that I'll never visit this place again.

Put up or shut up.

I haven't bothered to figure out your name, though that probably wouldn't be too difficult given all the information that you have disclosed about yourself.

Oooh this is like Law & Order: SIU (Special Internet Unit)

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

You sure?

If you can provide my initials, you have my word that I'll never visit this place again.

Put up or shut up.

I haven't bothered to figure out your name, though that probably wouldn't be too difficult given all the information that you have disclosed about yourself.

Then you might want to learn the definition of 'exactly' before using it again, incorrectly. Language matters; remember?

[Anonymous]

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

You sure? If you can provide my initials, you have my word that I'll never visit this place again. Put up or shut up.

I haven't bothered to figure out your name, though that probably wouldn't be too difficult given all the information that you have disclosed about yourself.

Oooh this is like Law & Order: SIU (Special Internet Unit)

I can smell the sparks from Dcum sleuth’s keyboards. Guaranteed a few remember some of the deleted posts. Check website forum to see if posters reported his posts. Those usually stay up and Jeff sometimes offers a few details. I was kind of on your side, OP. Ya know, a get what you give scenario. Is any of it true? Are you a troll?

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a big baby OP. In my neighborhood growing up, every dad was a jerk just like you. Get rid of your hateful attitude and get a card and some flowers. If you have time to post here, you have time to grow up and do the right thing. Hopefully, your kids are not as screwed up as you are cheapskate.

Not OP, female, but no way. His wife didn’t do any of those things for him. No double standards. She made it clear that holidays weren’t important to her, so deal with it now. Consequences of her choices.

[Anonymous]

Well, I caved. Dinner was at Rasika and I got her a watch she had mentioned a couple times.

She is an incredibly lucky woman, to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I caved. Dinner was at Rasika and I got her a watch she had mentioned a couple times.

She is an incredibly lucky woman, to be honest.

Not if you’re measuring that luck by her marriage to you.

It’s possible your kids are great and she is lucky in them. That they ignored you for fathers day points in that direction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

I’m the pp and just googled this. It refers to a parent trying to sabotage the relationship between the other parent and the child/children. A quick search shows that mothers do this much more often. The lowest data I saw was 70% women to 30% men. That’s really sad.

I’m so glad my mom didn’t do this after the divorce, we had enough problems.

The thing is, one of the many standards for real parental alienation (not the MRA version) is that the children’s beliefs against the alienated parent cannot be correct.

OP is clearly a jerk. His kids are correct if they think so. He’s also a narcissist if you read Jeff’s blog on how much sock puppeting he’s done on this thread.

If Jeff knows who this guy is, why can he continue to post?

Oh, I know exactly who you are. I haven't deleted this thread because the occasional train wreck is fun.

You sure?

If you can provide my initials, you have my word that I'll never visit this place again.

Put up or shut up.

I haven't bothered to figure out your name, though that probably wouldn't be too difficult given all the information that you have disclosed about yourself.

Then you might want to learn the definition of 'exactly' before using it again, incorrectly. Language matters; remember?

This reminds me of a Golden Girls episode where Sophia is trying to find her first husband. He brother Angelo claims he knows him so well, he can “pinpoint his location EXACTLY! He’s somewhere air conditioned…”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I caved. Dinner was at Rasika and I got her a watch she had mentioned a couple times.

She is an incredibly lucky woman, to be honest.

How did you get in last minute at Rasika?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I caved. Dinner was at Rasika and I got her a watch she had mentioned a couple times.

She is an incredibly lucky woman, to be honest.

I call BS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I caved. Dinner was at Rasika and I got her a watch she had mentioned a couple times.

She is an incredibly lucky woman, to be honest.

I call BS.

Especially since her birthday is today.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I caved. Dinner was at Rasika and I got her a watch she had mentioned a couple times.

She is an incredibly lucky woman, to be honest.

How did you get in last minute at Rasika?

Not the OP, but I've never not been able to eat at Rasika, nor have my friends.