Skipping Wife's Birthday

[Anonymous]

Why are you even still married? You clearly don’t like her and she doesn’t like you and your house sounds like a truly miserable place. You can’t possibly enjoy this dynamic you have going. Just divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

Dude is on the internet calling his wife of 21 years a “5.5” to random strangers. Seems less like alienation and more like his kids realize he’s awful. They’re probably hoping for a divorce.

[Anonymous]

You both need to grow up. Also, you’ll never last.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

[Anonymous]

Unless these slights & retaliations are some kind of game you two get off on, I would say this marriage has run its course. Be mature & divorce amicably before you ruin your kids’ chances at healthy relationships in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you even still married? You clearly don’t like her and she doesn’t like you and your house sounds like a truly miserable place. You can’t possibly enjoy this dynamic you have going. Just divorce.

This.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like the end of a marriage. I cannot imagine being married to someone so petty. Even if I was divorced, I would have the kids make cards for their father.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

What percent of parenting do women conduct?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

It is so exhausting and draining to hold onto grudges op. You hurt yourself far more than you hurt anyone else. Nurturing and carrying around that resentment eats you alive.

Just drop the rope. I don’t know what you should do about your marriage problems but you can’t carry that bitterness with you it’s toxic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

Estimated by whom? Citations needed.

This isn’t alienation— he’s being a jerk. In front of his kids. He has the opportunity to behave like a decent parent but is choosing not to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

We don't care.

You don’t speak for “us.”

[Anonymous]

You sound like a big baby OP. In my neighborhood growing up, every dad was a jerk just like you. Get rid of your hateful attitude and get a card and some flowers. If you have time to post here, you have time to grow up and do the right thing. Hopefully, your kids are not as screwed up as you are cheapskate.

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

You guys are both being horrible role models for your children and behaving poorly towards one another. I'm sorry your kids also didn't lift a finger to celebrate you on Father's Day. If you've been married 21 years they can't be so young that they don't understand the assignment, but I'm wondering if punishing each other this way is something you've modeled for them through the years and they try not to get in the middle of you two.

This. OP has been fuming and letting the Father's Day thing fester for nearly two months, waiting for his chance to retaliate. It's just gross and so petty that petty doesn't even seem adequate. Sounds like your wife is also to blame. You're awful together and your kids don't need to bear witness to your dysfunctional marriage that is apparently based on loathing and resentment. Just get a divorce.

Ya think? She skipped fathers day for Christ Sake. Just imagine if your DH skipped mothers day. Seriously. You all are so hypocritical it is pathetic.

It's not just that she skipped it, she has alienated the children to the point where they were afraid to do anything on Father's Day lest they anger her.

It is interesting that this point didn't come up until so late. I agree that she weaponized the children against their father.

There is a reason for that--child alienation is mostly done by women, and it's a common behavior. It's estimated that women conduct 95 percent of child alienation, and fathers just 5 percent.

I would think it would be the other way around, and the fathers would be more likely to be alienated from their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:So my wife's birthday is Friday. I'm not acknowledging it. No dinner, no gift, and I'll do my best to pretend I'm unaware.

We had a tiff three days before fathers' day (about something she was 100% wrong about) and she ignored fathers day. Nothing from the kids, no dinner, nothing. When I mentioned it the following day she said, and I quote "Why would I celebrate someone who was being a jerk?"

Again, it's indisputable that she was wrong. She's just that stubborn.

Anyway- just airing it out there. I'll let you know how it goes.

Well technically speaking your kids are the ones who really ignored you for Father’s Day. I wonder why, hmm…

That's not how fathers day works, especially with younger kids. I bet you want us to believe your 8 year old DD cooked you filet mignon on fathers day and got you a new graphite hybrid driver, right?

They’ve been married for 21 years. Their kids are teenagers or in college by now.

[Anonymous]

Your wife was wrong. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Be the bigger person, for your children.