Backed out of paid activity - did I do the right thing?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, it was zip lining. DD is being treated for certain issues and is not "typical" in some ways. So it can be very difficult to know how to navigate day to day with her. I went with my instincts on this but am paying for it now.

Tell your husband to grow up and stop pouting.

“Dave, I know you are disappointed that Larla was too frightened to try zip lining, but you need to get over it. Your bad mood is impacting all of us and ruining the trip. You need to tell Larla it’s all good and we need to focus on having fun for the rest of the trip. Got it?”

Your kid probably developed anxiety from your husband’s overbearing, controlling personality and passive-aggressive (or simply aggressive) behavior. I’m observing this in soooo many families. Your husband needs therapy.

Good Lord with the idiotic scripts people tell people to say.

Sometimes you have to spell it out for the man-baby.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is impossible for any of us to judge who is in the right here not knowing your kid and not being there at the time. I have been in this exact situation with my kids where I know they would love something, but they are scared and won't do it, but just need that extra push. Pushing through anxiety and coming out the other side is one of the best feelings in life. Whether it is getting up in front of the class for the class play, or zip lining, or soccer tryouts, sometimes you just have to do it despite being scared or afraid.

For all of the "zip-lining is dangerous" types, it absolutely isn't. I think there is a lot of scared parents on this thread that are projecting their own fears onto the child in OPs post.

Whether it's actually dangerous is beside the point.

I hate roller coasters. I know logically that they are safe and I don't generally have anxiety, but I don't like how rollercoasters make me feel and I don't do them. I don't need to learn to "push past my fear" and my refusal to do them isn't indicative of some greater weakness or mental health condition. I would not appreciate it if someone forced me into a rollercoaster during vacation when I am perfectly happy to wait for them on the ground.

A Zipline is no different for the OP's child.