Millennials who are mean.

[Anonymous]

The entitlement is astonishing. This is all about you and what you want, not what your children need or are asking for. And when they do ask for help with specific things, like the power washing, that's a problem too. I know my FIL will take on a task (asked or not) at our house and leave it worse than when he started (big hole in the wall hanging pictures, blew my son's bike tire trying to inflate it when it wasn't needed). So yeah, we say something.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what happened or why they're like this, but maybe you could invite the kids to come stay with you at the hotel? More kid-time with them, without having to deal with the parents.

We have offered this and they reject our offer. The kids need their routine.
BTW: We are not old and irresponsible.

My parents are engaged, competent grandparents, but we didn’t let my parents put my kids to bed until they were 4 and 6. My kids were crappy sleepers and my parents, despite their best efforts, could not get them in bed on time. It just was not worth the stress and hassle knowing I’d be woken up multiple times over night and have cranky kids the next day. The kids are fine now and can even sleep over at my parents’ house - but when they were toddlers / preschool age there was zero chance I’d leave bedtime to grandparents. We hired their daycare workers to babysit.

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Millennial parent here. Something is off and we’re not getting the full picture. If all 3 kids act this way, then you need to look at the common denominator.

You really need to tell us in what context the moron comment happened.

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Why should they be nice to you?

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Anonymous wrote:This generation is EXTREMELY self absorbed, touchy and entitled, very little thing is a micoaggression or a T/trauma, everyone but them is a narcissist. They are like adolescents all the time with no tolerance for anyone but themselves, cross them and you are cut off. It’s therapy culture taken to a wacko extreme.

Nope. This generation understands more about dysfunction and abuse and stands against it.

Mommy telling you no is abusive. Get a life.

The above post nailed millennials perfectly and you can see it when the millennial moms on here blame their parents for every problem they have and being complete jerks to others moms here.

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Anonymous wrote:The last time we visited one of them for their child’s first birthday, they gave us chores to do at their house. Pressure wash the outside, put together things. When they came home, they complained about the work

My parents used to ask how they could help and might suggest themselves that the outside of the house looks a little dirty with a little impatience as if implying some small condemnation. I might have remarked that we are short on cash to clean the outside but was planning on hiring someone before the winter but say that would be great if they are up for it. They agree to wash all four sides. Then they might do two sides and then I ask them why they decided not to do the other two sides and then they give me some reason like they couldn't get to it or it didn't need it and that comes out to them as complaining. I let it go and say well I'm not sure I'm going to get to the other sides till the fall and they remark that it would be better if done in the spring. Then they remark I'm ungrateful because it wasn't this perfectly happy experience where they receive complete validation for being an amazing grandparent. The stay will be pleasant otherwise but they will harbor some resentment that they weren't seen as amazing at all times.

Is this the dynamic that goes on with your kids? I often feel set up to provide an "experience" for my parents to have a loving time with the family as if they are going to Disney. They are seeking validation more than the desire to help.

Uh yea if your parents pressure wash two sides of your house the correct response is “thank you” not “when are you doing the rest.” JFC.

But...two sides of their house look different than the other two sides. It looks worse than if you didn't do it at all.

Sorry hit submit too soon. This just happened to us with someone we hired. There was a dirty spot from some dripping under a vent on our white house. They pressure washed just under the vent and now there is a clean "stripe" down the middle of our house.

For your house to be this dirty you must be world class slobs and you should be eternally grateful.

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Anonymous wrote:The entitlement is astonishing. This is all about you and what you want, not what your children need or are asking for. And when they do ask for help with specific things, like the power washing, that's a problem too. I know my FIL will take on a task (asked or not) at our house and leave it worse than when he started (big hole in the wall hanging pictures, blew my son's bike tire trying to inflate it when it wasn't needed). So yeah, we say something.

God forbid he accidently put too much air the tire. What an a$$hole. A grandparent shouldn't be power washing your house or hanging pictures. Do you own dam housework. They don't "owe" you that.

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Anonymous wrote:Idk man you raised them. If they’re ungrateful you should have raised them to have more gratitude.

+ 1. You spoiled the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:The last time we visited one of them for their child’s first birthday, they gave us chores to do at their house. Pressure wash the outside, put together things. When they came home, they complained about the work

My parents used to ask how they could help and might suggest themselves that the outside of the house looks a little dirty with a little impatience as if implying some small condemnation. I might have remarked that we are short on cash to clean the outside but was planning on hiring someone before the winter but say that would be great if they are up for it. They agree to wash all four sides. Then they might do two sides and then I ask them why they decided not to do the other two sides and then they give me some reason like they couldn't get to it or it didn't need it and that comes out to them as complaining. I let it go and say well I'm not sure I'm going to get to the other sides till the fall and they remark that it would be better if done in the spring. Then they remark I'm ungrateful because it wasn't this perfectly happy experience where they receive complete validation for being an amazing grandparent. The stay will be pleasant otherwise but they will harbor some resentment that they weren't seen as amazing at all times.

Is this the dynamic that goes on with your kids? I often feel set up to provide an "experience" for my parents to have a loving time with the family as if they are going to Disney. They are seeking validation more than the desire to help.

Uh yea if your parents pressure wash two sides of your house the correct response is “thank you” not “when are you doing the rest.” JFC.

But...two sides of their house look different than the other two sides. It looks worse than if you didn't do it at all.

Sorry hit submit too soon. This just happened to us with someone we hired. There was a dirty spot from some dripping under a vent on our white house. They pressure washed just under the vent and now there is a clean "stripe" down the middle of our house.

For your house to be this dirty you must be world class slobs and you should be eternally grateful.

This was when we were moving in. And it was someone we hired. You are a fun combo of weirdly hostile + challenged in reading comprehension. Congrats!

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What are you not telling us, OP? Have you bombarded them with criticism, Fox News BS, and unsolicited advice? It sounds like they have all but cut you off, and there is probably a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Millennial parent here. Something is off and we’re not getting the full picture. If all 3 kids act this way, then you need to look at the common denominator.

You really need to tell us in what context the moron comment happened.

Exactly this. It’s not like this is how one of your children and their spouses treat you: it’s all of them. You are the common denominator. You’re not being honest about the way you treat them and the way you treated them growing up. They’ve all put up walls to keep you out, or to keep you at a distance. Hmm. It’s you.

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Anonymous wrote:The entitlement is astonishing. This is all about you and what you want, not what your children need or are asking for. And when they do ask for help with specific things, like the power washing, that's a problem too. I know my FIL will take on a task (asked or not) at our house and leave it worse than when he started (big hole in the wall hanging pictures, blew my son's bike tire trying to inflate it when it wasn't needed). So yeah, we say something.

God forbid he accidently put too much air the tire. What an a$$hole. A grandparent shouldn't be power washing your house or hanging pictures. Do you own dam housework. They don't "owe" you that.

When FIL does things that he isn't asked to do, and butchers them, that's a problem. Did you miss the part where PP says FIL will do things unasked around the house?

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I think OP, the grandparents are the aholes here.
What did you do?

[Anonymous]

Tucker will have the same ending as the looney of Alex jones. Learn to not spread lies. You can pay millions and go to prison and get fired

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Zoomers harmed our planet and now this planet su cks. Thanks for leaving a horrible world with climate change for all millennial and next generations.

Your grandkids will blame zoomers too when they grow up. Why old greedy people didn't care about climate change?