I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

Lol “reports” what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you’re fine. You saw someone attractive, politely asked her out, and were a nice guy when she said no. This is just called being a nice human being. If half the creepy guys out there behaved like you, the world would be a nicer place.

Tune out the noise in our weird society right now and the lunatics on this thread. You’re good.

- mom of a daughter

No he is not "good"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

A 19 y/o IS an adult woman.

a very new adult. If you don't see the difference between a 30 year old and a 18 year old not sure what to tell you

[Anonymous]

This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

A 19 y/o IS an adult woman.

You gonna file a police report too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

Oh yes and the misogynist as well. Look the op admitted that he was a creep so you can stop defending him Donald.

[Anonymous]

I love the young women posting on this scenario. Total creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love the young women posting on this scenario. Total creep.

Not at all. It’s not a crime to ask someone out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

Lol “reports” what?

The neighbor who thinks a 19 y/o is “30”.

If we take the OP at his word and he’s both this incapable of discerning teenagers from women in their 30s
AND thinks it’s appropriate to approach teens when they’re walking alone, then I would want to alert parents of 13-18 y/os.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the young women posting on this scenario. Total creep.

Not at all. It’s not a crime to ask someone out.

If you’re incapable of assessing their age within a ten year margin, it sure can be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the young women posting on this scenario. Total creep.

Not at all. It’s not a crime to ask someone out.

Says the creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

That's because you are a creep.

DP. By your standard, there is literally no circumstance in which it’s okay to approach someone & ask them out on a date/walk.

NP and a woman. By her standard, the guys who are NOT creeps should only approach middle aged, frumpy and overweight women.

He can approach age appropriate peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.