I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

Women are murdered and raped by men. That's not paranoid, Don

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

It’s not paranoia when there’s seriously 42 year old men who think it’s appropriate to approach teenagers on the sidewalk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

There are no young adults on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

He asked her out, she said 'no' .... and that was that.

This really is a non-issue that some people are desperate to make an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

There are no young adults on this thread.

How would you know unless you DCUM Jeff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

He asked her out, she said 'no' .... and that was that.

This really is a non-issue that some people are desperate to make an issue.

Huh. Wonder why the OP felt like such a creep.

More self aware than you, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

It’s well known to not ask women out at the gym, and this is about the same thing.

You were totally stalking her but at least you didn’t fake run into her for months and then ask her out.

Now she knows to avoid your part of neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

He asked her out, she said 'no' .... and that was that.

This really is a non-issue that some people are desperate to make an issue.

Says the creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

Women are murdered and raped by men. That's not paranoid, Don

And often while jogging.

Don’t approach women that are working out this way. Yes, we can blow you off, but it would be great to not have to do that. Or worry you’ll keep trying every run.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

A 19 y/o IS an adult woman.

a very new adult. If you don't see the difference between a 30 year old and a 18 year old not sure what to tell you

We should probably take away their right to vote until they are 30 also, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

A 19 y/o IS an adult woman.

a very new adult. If you don't see the difference between a 30 year old and a 18 year old not sure what to tell you

We should probably take away their right to vote until they are 30 also, right?

I am not sure why you keep responding. Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

Women are murdered and raped by men. That's not paranoid, Don

And often while jogging.

Don’t approach women that are working out this way. Yes, we can blow you off, but it would be great to not have to do that. Or worry you’ll keep trying every run.

Not “often.” Very unfortunate, but extremely rare, and typically by someone known to the victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

Women are murdered and raped by men. That's not paranoid, Don

And often while jogging.

Don’t approach women that are working out this way. Yes, we can blow you off, but it would be great to not have to do that. Or worry you’ll keep trying every run.

Not “often.” Very unfortunate, but extremely rare, and typically by someone known to the victim.

Like a neighbor who has been watching her “for months”. Exactly.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me to remind my DD to, when she’s alone, walk/jog only in daylight, no headphones in, no staring down at her phone, constantly vary her routes & stay in busy areas that have sidewalks. No going in the woods or on trails alone. It’s fine to galavant in suburban cul de sac neighborhoods, but don’t go into ones that are too desolate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread really brought the karens out of the woodwork.

You are actually calling out the young adults on this thread, who feel unsafe, “Karens”? You are a douchebag. Oh, and a creep.

Going through life paranoid isn’t healthy.

Paranoid? What the heck. How about being objectified by men 20 years older, grosser men, when you are just becoming an adult woman. We have all been there.

He asked her out, she said 'no' .... and that was that.

This really is a non-issue that some people are desperate to make an issue.

+1 not sure why there is so much angst over this.

You're fine, OP. And I say this as a mom of a teen DD.