I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

Please do not approach women when they are out jogging and walking! I'm a mom and have had this happen and it sucks. Trust me when I say that she was literally out walking and jogging to get a work out. No other reason at all. If you want to meet women, go to target rich environments meant for that.

Agree. It puts us on edge. You have to then have your head on a bit of a swivel to miss the over attentive dude again. Things can get weird and dangerous for women quickly. We really do just want to work out.

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Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

Honestly, +1 to all of this. I find it hard to believe that you thought she was 30+. I also think that if she had been receptive, instead of shutting you down, you would have gone for it.

You chased down a teenager while she was exercising and hit on her. She handled it well, but you need to not do that.

Not hard at all if someone is wearing sunglasses & a hat. You basically can’t see their hair or face.

So, he could not see her face, but based on her body, he creeped up to her and asked her out when she was out walking? Ugh! What a creep! He is the age to be her father. C'mon. Do better.

Maybe in Mississippi. Around here dads OP’s age have toddlers.

Hmmmm. There was a thread in general parenting recently about 42 being within grandparent age. Funny how that only works for women.

Applies to both genders

If you have a high school education & live in Alabama, sure you’ll be a grandmother at 37

[Anonymous]

Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

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I think the weirdest thing here is that you refer to your neighborhood as “leafy.”

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Hat/glasses- not sure how you could have discerned her age at all... I'd have pulled a Larry David and made it even more awkward by stuttering something unhelpful like "Gross- I thought you were old- you looked... older"

I'm a straight woman but I play off a lot of awkwardness by morphing into Larry David

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

[Anonymous]

If OP was a creep he would’ve either proceeded to grope her & or continued to follow her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

Kind of the most important life skill. It can often be used in the workplace as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP was a creep he would’ve either proceeded to grope her & or continued to follow her.

Or posted a weirdly detailed online description of her body, clothes, hair and fitness. One or the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

This would be my daughter’s age, and I would kick you in the nuts if this ever happened to her. I know some older men do not have the same discernement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

That's because you are a creep.

You’re nuts.

Says the creep

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

[Anonymous]

My kingdom for a divorced man who’s not so predictable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only woman who was hit on by old men as a teen? You learn to deal with it and she handled it perfectly. So did OP for that matter as he backed off immediately.
To me, this isn’t gross really, just part of mistakes when you deal with people and both parties just move on.

He didn’t know her age and when he found out he felt bad. NBD.

Teen girls have more important life skills than learning to handle the creepers on their block. Hopefully she’s alerted her parents to the OP so they can let parents of the neighborhood 13-19 crowd know to avoid him, since OP apparently has a full ten year blind spot in ages.

Actually, that’s a very important life skill.

For an adult woman sure. A 19 y/o hopefully reports this to a trusted adult and gives it no additional head space. Obviously OP has trouble determining the ages of the girls and women he’s sexualizing and so the people who need to be concerned about him are parents, not teenagers (other than perhaps a warning to them from their parents to alert them if he approaches them).

A 19 y/o IS an adult woman.