Continue relationship with neighbor kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love about the responses here is that everyone assumes that how OP behaves toward her neighbor should be based on how the neighbor behaves toward OP and family.

If neighbor had been mean to the gay family, it would have been okay to have kids stop playing with them.

BUT BUT BUT since neighbor who sends kids to school who teaches that being gay is wrong is not openly horrible to the gay family, everyone here is saying OP should be tolerant and accept this family!

So the herero family gets to set up all the rules, even though they support an organization that negates OP’s family life, and OP should just accept them.

Like, if you’re a black family living next to a KKK family, and they have a noose out in their tree, but they are actually really quite nice to you personally, despite the ideas of the organization they belong to, you should definitely let your kids play together! They are so NICE! It’s YOU who are being intolerant, really!

What is the matter with you all? When people show you who they are, believe them.

The bold is where your whole idea falls apart. OP does not know--and you certainly can't--that they "support an organization that negates OP's family life." The entire point some have made here is that the neighbors may have many reasons OP doesn't know about, for sending a child to a particular school. You and OP both are making assumptions too that the neighbors support every tenet of the church affiliated with the school. Black-and-white, either/or thinking. You don't want others making assumptions about you but you're both free and clear to assume all you like about others.

"When people show you who they are, believe them." Sure. These neighbors have shown OP and her family only neighborly attention so far. You and OP want knee-jerk condemnation of them based on a car magnet and OP's Google search. If OP is concerned she can ask the neighbors but she won't -- it's easier simply to assume they're terrible and put walls around herself.

DP. They pay tuition to a school that is attached to a church that negates OP's family life. I mean, what more are you looking for? Read the statement for Trinity Christian School - they believe people are born a single gender and that's the end of the story. They believe marriage is between a man and a woman, period. There are a billion private schools in NoVA. That someone chooses to pay tuition to that particular school and not any of the others in the same area for the same price says something.

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. That’s why I married a man. My best friend married a woman and I support her and her wife 100%. Her choice is her choice. I don’t have to agree with it, but I sure as hell support her right to it.

[Anonymous]

Lead by example and don’t judge or exclude people because of their perceived values. This rush to judgment is everything that is wrong with this country. Invite them over to dinner to feel them out if they’re homophobic. I know many very good people in conservative circles who I previously look down on as crazy trumpers and I was so so wrong. Don’t paid w a broad brush. I ended up putting my kids in a religious schools associated w a conservative church during covid. The families were so lovely and down to earth and really just wanted a more traditional education (textbooks, focus on reading, writing and math without over reliance in tech). Not everyone can afford a fancy independent school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love about the responses here is that everyone assumes that how OP behaves toward her neighbor should be based on how the neighbor behaves toward OP and family.

If neighbor had been mean to the gay family, it would have been okay to have kids stop playing with them.

BUT BUT BUT since neighbor who sends kids to school who teaches that being gay is wrong is not openly horrible to the gay family, everyone here is saying OP should be tolerant and accept this family!

So the herero family gets to set up all the rules, even though they support an organization that negates OP’s family life, and OP should just accept them.

Like, if you’re a black family living next to a KKK family, and they have a noose out in their tree, but they are actually really quite nice to you personally, despite the ideas of the organization they belong to, you should definitely let your kids play together! They are so NICE! It’s YOU who are being intolerant, really!

What is the matter with you all? When people show you who they are, believe them.

The bold is where your whole idea falls apart. OP does not know--and you certainly can't--that they "support an organization that negates OP's family life." The entire point some have made here is that the neighbors may have many reasons OP doesn't know about, for sending a child to a particular school. You and OP both are making assumptions too that the neighbors support every tenet of the church affiliated with the school. Black-and-white, either/or thinking. You don't want others making assumptions about you but you're both free and clear to assume all you like about others.

"When people show you who they are, believe them." Sure. These neighbors have shown OP and her family only neighborly attention so far. You and OP want knee-jerk condemnation of them based on a car magnet and OP's Google search. If OP is concerned she can ask the neighbors but she won't -- it's easier simply to assume they're terrible and put walls around herself.

DP. They pay tuition to a school that is attached to a church that negates OP's family life. I mean, what more are you looking for? Read the statement for Trinity Christian School - they believe people are born a single gender and that's the end of the story. They believe marriage is between a man and a woman, period. There are a billion private schools in NoVA. That someone chooses to pay tuition to that particular school and not any of the others in the same area for the same price says something.

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. That’s why I married a man. My best friend married a woman and I support her and her wife 100%. Her choice is her choice. I don’t have to agree with it, but I sure as hell support her right to it.

If you support her choice to marry a woman then you DON’T believe that a marriage is between a man and a woman, you just believe your marriage is/ should be. If you believed that then you wouldn’t support your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess OP wouldn't want to socialize with conservative Muslims or Jewish people.

Nah, what am I thinking? It's not cool to say that. It's only ok if the offending family is Christian.

Who said OP is judging?

Don't you see the people pointing out the types of families out there?
Do you really trust your neighbor?

[Anonymous]

Right. Listen to all the people who have also supported organizations that generally try to destroy OPs way of life and don’t want to be treated as such. “Sure I send money to people who hate you but let’s still be friends.” Nah I’m good.

[Anonymous]

Just be careful who you talk and trust. Do NOT trust anybody who says they are good people, goes to church. Trust your instincts.

People fake smiles. Anybody can be a crazy person. Everyone be careful. There are many delusionals out there and don't believe facts.

So many crazy nuts like the ones inciting violence outside of drag queen story times, those cowards should go protest against pedophile priests and greedy politicians for making the middle and poor class POORER.

[Anonymous]

God loves everyone. Jesus did not have a religion. I don't like churches. I like Jesus. The church hides and protects Pedophile Priests. They pardoned them, moved them to other states or to South America. And the abuse keeps going on

[Anonymous]

“Invite them over to dinner to feel them out if they’re homophobic” said no gay person ever. What a delightful evening that sounds like, inviting someone who gives the appearance of hating my lifestyle into my home with my children. “Does my neighbor think I’m an abomination and/or that my family and I should die and suffer in eternal hellfire? Let’s find out in front of the kids over some tacos.”

I don’t think so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love about the responses here is that everyone assumes that how OP behaves toward her neighbor should be based on how the neighbor behaves toward OP and family.

If neighbor had been mean to the gay family, it would have been okay to have kids stop playing with them.

BUT BUT BUT since neighbor who sends kids to school who teaches that being gay is wrong is not openly horrible to the gay family, everyone here is saying OP should be tolerant and accept this family!

So the herero family gets to set up all the rules, even though they support an organization that negates OP’s family life, and OP should just accept them.

Like, if you’re a black family living next to a KKK family, and they have a noose out in their tree, but they are actually really quite nice to you personally, despite the ideas of the organization they belong to, you should definitely let your kids play together! They are so NICE! It’s YOU who are being intolerant, really!

What is the matter with you all? When people show you who they are, believe them.

The bold is where your whole idea falls apart. OP does not know--and you certainly can't--that they "support an organization that negates OP's family life." The entire point some have made here is that the neighbors may have many reasons OP doesn't know about, for sending a child to a particular school. You and OP both are making assumptions too that the neighbors support every tenet of the church affiliated with the school. Black-and-white, either/or thinking. You don't want others making assumptions about you but you're both free and clear to assume all you like about others.

"When people show you who they are, believe them." Sure. These neighbors have shown OP and her family only neighborly attention so far. You and OP want knee-jerk condemnation of them based on a car magnet and OP's Google search. If OP is concerned she can ask the neighbors but she won't -- it's easier simply to assume they're terrible and put walls around herself.

DP. They pay tuition to a school that is attached to a church that negates OP's family life. I mean, what more are you looking for? Read the statement for Trinity Christian School - they believe people are born a single gender and that's the end of the story. They believe marriage is between a man and a woman, period. There are a billion private schools in NoVA. That someone chooses to pay tuition to that particular school and not any of the others in the same area for the same price says something.

Your therapist lovesssss your business if you take personal offense with everyone who has a different religion than you.

You entirely missed the point but that's not surprising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love about the responses here is that everyone assumes that how OP behaves toward her neighbor should be based on how the neighbor behaves toward OP and family.

If neighbor had been mean to the gay family, it would have been okay to have kids stop playing with them.

BUT BUT BUT since neighbor who sends kids to school who teaches that being gay is wrong is not openly horrible to the gay family, everyone here is saying OP should be tolerant and accept this family!

So the herero family gets to set up all the rules, even though they support an organization that negates OP’s family life, and OP should just accept them.

Like, if you’re a black family living next to a KKK family, and they have a noose out in their tree, but they are actually really quite nice to you personally, despite the ideas of the organization they belong to, you should definitely let your kids play together! They are so NICE! It’s YOU who are being intolerant, really!

What is the matter with you all? When people show you who they are, believe them.

The bold is where your whole idea falls apart. OP does not know--and you certainly can't--that they "support an organization that negates OP's family life." The entire point some have made here is that the neighbors may have many reasons OP doesn't know about, for sending a child to a particular school. You and OP both are making assumptions too that the neighbors support every tenet of the church affiliated with the school. Black-and-white, either/or thinking. You don't want others making assumptions about you but you're both free and clear to assume all you like about others.

"When people show you who they are, believe them." Sure. These neighbors have shown OP and her family only neighborly attention so far. You and OP want knee-jerk condemnation of them based on a car magnet and OP's Google search. If OP is concerned she can ask the neighbors but she won't -- it's easier simply to assume they're terrible and put walls around herself.

DP. They pay tuition to a school that is attached to a church that negates OP's family life. I mean, what more are you looking for? Read the statement for Trinity Christian School - they believe people are born a single gender and that's the end of the story. They believe marriage is between a man and a woman, period. There are a billion private schools in NoVA. That someone chooses to pay tuition to that particular school and not any of the others in the same area for the same price says something.

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. That’s why I married a man. My best friend married a woman and I support her and her wife 100%. Her choice is her choice. I don’t have to agree with it, but I sure as hell support her right to it.

You make no sense whatsoever. How can you believe that marriage is between a man and a woman but also support a marriage that is between two women?

Also, you married a man because you're straight.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you OP. And f the people here who have clearly never had to deal with bigotry and hate. I would distance myself, because likely eventually your kids are gonna hear some shit that will make them feel bad about their family. I'm so sorry we still live in a world like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess OP wouldn't want to socialize with conservative Muslims or Jewish people.

Nah, what am I thinking? It's not cool to say that. It's only ok if the offending family is Christian.

Wait - don’t Orthodox Jewish people support gay marriage and LGTBQIA+ rights?

Don’t observant Muslims support LGTBQIA+ rights??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This post shows the intolerance of the supposedly tolerant. Bring raised Unitarian Universalist, I’m more of an expert on that than most.

You're mixing up two things. Being tolerant of another religion is great. Being afraid of someone of a religion that explicitly states that your lifestyle is sinful and can go as far as to say you don't deserve to even live is totally different.

I know a lot of Catholics who have kids out of wedlock. Just because you are a member of a certain religion doesn't mean you take everything as gospel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess OP wouldn't want to socialize with conservative Muslims or Jewish people.

Nah, what am I thinking? It's not cool to say that. It's only ok if the offending family is Christian.

Wait - don’t Orthodox Jewish people support gay marriage and LGTBQIA+ rights?

Don’t observant Muslims support LGTBQIA+ rights??

I don't think so...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love about the responses here is that everyone assumes that how OP behaves toward her neighbor should be based on how the neighbor behaves toward OP and family.

If neighbor had been mean to the gay family, it would have been okay to have kids stop playing with them.

BUT BUT BUT since neighbor who sends kids to school who teaches that being gay is wrong is not openly horrible to the gay family, everyone here is saying OP should be tolerant and accept this family!

So the herero family gets to set up all the rules, even though they support an organization that negates OP’s family life, and OP should just accept them.

Like, if you’re a black family living next to a KKK family, and they have a noose out in their tree, but they are actually really quite nice to you personally, despite the ideas of the organization they belong to, you should definitely let your kids play together! They are so NICE! It’s YOU who are being intolerant, really!

What is the matter with you all? When people show you who they are, believe them.

The bold is where your whole idea falls apart. OP does not know--and you certainly can't--that they "support an organization that negates OP's family life." The entire point some have made here is that the neighbors may have many reasons OP doesn't know about, for sending a child to a particular school. You and OP both are making assumptions too that the neighbors support every tenet of the church affiliated with the school. Black-and-white, either/or thinking. You don't want others making assumptions about you but you're both free and clear to assume all you like about others.

"When people show you who they are, believe them." Sure. These neighbors have shown OP and her family only neighborly attention so far. You and OP want knee-jerk condemnation of them based on a car magnet and OP's Google search. If OP is concerned she can ask the neighbors but she won't -- it's easier simply to assume they're terrible and put walls around herself.

DP. They pay tuition to a school that is attached to a church that negates OP's family life. I mean, what more are you looking for? Read the statement for Trinity Christian School - they believe people are born a single gender and that's the end of the story. They believe marriage is between a man and a woman, period. There are a billion private schools in NoVA. That someone chooses to pay tuition to that particular school and not any of the others in the same area for the same price says something.

I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. That’s why I married a man. My best friend married a woman and I support her and her wife 100%. Her choice is her choice. I don’t have to agree with it, but I sure as hell support her right to it.

You make no sense whatsoever. How can you believe that marriage is between a man and a woman but also support a marriage that is between two women?

Also, you married a man because you're straight.

I don’t believe in abortion for myself - would never do it - yet I support someone else’s right to do it. Same thing.