Continue relationship with neighbor kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Astounded by all the people in here saying this is nbd. When you pay money to an organization that sponsors these ideas that hurt you and your family, you support those ideas, whether you let your kids play with the family next door or not. This family is actively hurting OP by paying money to a school that spreads these ideas. It's not really okay. Sorry you think it's okay to support this group that hurts a lot of people, but it's not, no matter what public school pyramid you're in.

OP, I'm not saying you should stop letting your kids play together. But I'd watch them because I don't know what sort of nonsense those kids might be talking to your kids and I don't want your kids hurt. Good luck!

I don’t think the answer to hate, judgement, and intolerance is more hate, judgement, and intolerance. These people and their kids have been nothing but nice to OP.

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I guess OP wouldn't want to socialize with conservative Muslims or Jewish people.

Nah, what am I thinking? It's not cool to say that. It's only ok if the offending family is Christian.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, my gosh. Don't say anything to your neighbors. Let them live their life. It sounds like they still allow their kids to play with yours when they could have stopped that a long time ago.

Think about it this way: They know who you truly are -- and they still let their kids play with yours.

That is called being tolerant.

You are being incredibly intolerant here. Let the kids continue to play together. Don't act unless is becomes a real, actionable problem impact your kids.

It is not intolerant to ask the question. Those of us who are gay have to worry about whether or not people will say horrible things to our kids.
That said, I would just arm my kids w/ what to say if anyone said anything shitty to them about their two moms, I wouldn't forbid them from playing.

Except these neighbors know OP is gay and no one has said anything remotely unkind. Why would you think they’d suddenly start being shitty?

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Anonymous wrote:I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

You sound like the biased one here, OP.

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After her update, I have to think OP is a troll. She won't associate with church goers?

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It can be scary. Right wing can be snowflakes too. Anybody. Who says those conservative aren't afraid of something? Just some people hides it well.

Just be friendly, cautious. I don't trust people. They talk to your face so nice, says they go to church or not and end up being aholes, back stabbers.
Even relatives can be horrible people, jealous of your accomplishments.

Just stay cool. And if they end up being awful people then just move on. There are TONS OF PEOPLE to meet, they are not the only ones. lol

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Anonymous wrote:We (partner and son) live in a row home and share a porch with a family with 2 kids in close in NoVa. Generally friendly and say hello and act neighborly. Kids play out front sometimes together. Not super close but never an issue.

Earlier this week they put a magnet on their car with the name of a private school their rising kindergartener will be attending. I googled it and was shocked to learn it’s incredibly conservative (“traditional” family values, Bible every day).

As a woman married to a woman I am shocked and concerned what they think/ say about my family. Should I not let my kid play with theirs anymore? Should I say something? I feel sick to my stomach about this now knowing who they truly are.

So you are going to " do to them what you think they will do to you" even though they have been friends and the kids played together. Why would you do that?

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Don't trust much religious people. They are the ones who were the most egocentric, hypocrite and cold hearted people

I don't trust saying they are good people. They are lying and showing off. I don't trust those who says they are religious.

It does not mean they are good people. The homeless outside is much nicer and honest than most people I know ir

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Anonymous wrote:Don't trust much religious people. They are the ones who were the most egocentric, hypocrite and cold hearted people

I don't trust saying they are good people. They are lying and showing off. I don't trust those who says they are religious.

It does not mean they are good people. The homeless outside is much nicer and honest than most people I know ir

Cool story. Applaud your choice to let your children play with the homeless.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, my gosh. Don't say anything to your neighbors. Let them live their life. It sounds like they still allow their kids to play with yours when they could have stopped that a long time ago.

Think about it this way: They know who you truly are -- and they still let their kids play with yours.

That is called being tolerant.

You are being incredibly intolerant here. Let the kids continue to play together. Don't act unless is becomes a real, actionable problem impact your kids.

It is not intolerant to ask the question. Those of us who are gay have to worry about whether or not people will say horrible things to our kids.
That said, I would just arm my kids w/ what to say if anyone said anything shitty to them about their two moms, I wouldn't forbid them from playing.

Except these neighbors know OP is gay and no one has said anything remotely unkind. Why would you think they’d suddenly start being shitty?

I don't think that at all. I'm saying, in general, as a gay family, my kids know what to say to rude people. They are armed with this knowledge for ANY encounter.
That's why I said I wouldn't forbid them from playing - because no one has been unkind.

You teach your kids what to do in the EVENT that it happens. I am not saying that OP should be like "in case the Smith family says something mean."

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OP, how they act is how they act.
I would not take action based on: how you think they *might* act, but haven't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess OP wouldn't want to socialize with conservative Muslims or Jewish people.

Nah, what am I thinking? It's not cool to say that. It's only ok if the offending family is Christian.

+1000

[Anonymous]

This makes no sense. How do you know what they believe? I teach at church and my son’s best friend has two moms. It makes literally no difference to us.

[Anonymous]

Definitely keep your kids away. Her kids don’t need to be scrutinized by an intolerant judgemental mom.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a gay woman who’s child goes to a conservative Christian evangelical school. We are Christian but very liberal. She goes to this school because it’s better than the current local public, the hours work for our schedules, and it’s affordable. My child has made friends and so have I. I don’t love the Church views on my marriage but the school itself has been welcoming and supportive. Don’t judge your neighbors for choosing the school they chose..

Hope you heed this post, OP.

Many people send their kids to religiously affiliated schools when the parents don't attend the associated church. Or maybe any church at all.

Alternatively, your neighbors might indeed be Christians who don't necessarily agree with every single tenet their church congregation holds (IF they even go to the church affiliated with the school). Not every congregation is only composed of people who march in lock-step to every single belief. You're stereotyping your neighbors without knowing what they actually believe at all, you're basing your assumptions on...a sticker.

Or maybe your neighbors really are social conservatives who don't believe gay marriage should exist and/or disapprove of homosexuality. You don't know. They have not preached at you, right? But their actions toward you and your children are all you have to judge them by. And they appear not to have done anything but be welcoming--right?