Continue relationship with neighbor kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a hard one. I think I would let the kids continue to play for now until they actually do/say something that is a big values conflict.

Yeah, I'd let the kids keep playing unless there is an actual problem.

I think so, too.

[Anonymous]

Wait, OP.

You are making assumptions. The kids play well together, right? And nothing has been said. Don't judge them based on which school their child will attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, my gosh. Don't say anything to your neighbors. Let them live their life. It sounds like they still allow their kids to play with yours when they could have stopped that a long time ago.

Think about it this way: They know who you truly are -- and they still let their kids play with yours.

That is called being tolerant.

You are being incredibly intolerant here. Let the kids continue to play together. Don't act unless is becomes a real, actionable problem impact your kids.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a hard one. I think I would let the kids continue to play for now until they actually do/say something that is a big values conflict.

Nothin hard about this.

From OP’s description, the school is run / attended by those christian-nationalists, the ones the news keeps warning about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, my gosh. Don't say anything to your neighbors. Let them live their life. It sounds like they still allow their kids to play with yours when they could have stopped that a long time ago.

Think about it this way: They know who you truly are -- and they still let their kids play with yours.

That is called being tolerant.

You are being incredibly intolerant here. Let the kids continue to play together. Don't act unless is becomes a real, actionable problem impact your kids.

+1

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[Anonymous]

I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

You may possibly be the most openly intolerant person on this forum, which is a real feat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

Lots of people attend church. Lots of people attending church are tolerant and lots are intolerant. Judging people solely based on church attendance is sort of nuts.

For example, I attend a church that technically belongs to the southern baptist convention. My church also has women pastors and is very clear that LGBTQ people are welcome. Our current senior pastor won’t marry gay couples, but a large percentage of the church disagrees. We will probably split over this eventually unless he retires and the next senior pastor has another viewpoint. While I attend this church (for some complicated reasons that I have some conflicts about), I also donate money to the Trevor Project, have many LGBTQ friends, support BLM, am vehemently pro choice, etc.

People are complicated. These people haven’t done anything to you. If you want to not be friends with anyone that attends church because you feel like your actual existence is currently under threat, I can actually understand that. I cannot imagine being in your position in the current political climate. But you should at least recognize that you may be screening out some people that are actually trying to advocate for causes you care about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

"church goers"

Is this a troll!? Gosh I hope so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel silly to admit this, but I feel duped or almost lied to by this family. Granted this is my fault because I assumed in my liberal area of NoVA that everyone thought like us. Small minded and dumb of me I know!

I’m just angry I guess that my kid still has to grow up in a world where people hate me and who I love.

Spiraling through the stages of grief right now.

— op

Are you serious? Spiraling through stages of grief? Over a bumper sticker . . .

[Anonymous]

After reading all your posts OP, I highly suggest you go into the house, shut the door, turn on MSNBC and carefully select people on Twitter who share your values. Do not interact with the world other than these mediums.

The world is a tough place for someone like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

Ok so they are religious christians. They don't seem to have any problem with you so I think you should not look for problems. There's quite a big spectrum as far as christian tolerance goes and your neighbors appear to be on the more tolerant end.

I used to live in mormon country, and even though those folks are supposedly nominally "christian" they are 100 times worse than your standard issue conservative baptists and adventists and whatnot. My gay male friend and his partner used to have a religious muslim family as neighbors in a small apartment building and the old woman of the family always cursed at them whenever she saw them. (but the mom and dad and the young kid were polite but probably bad-mouthed them in private like the old woman). Just saying it could be a lot worse, so maybe look on the bright side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate all thoughts especially those from fellow queer parents.

The kids played outside yesterday and I sat on the stoop watching with their mom. I asked what they did that morning and she said they went to church and lunch and here they are now. Then there was an awkward silence which was probably my fault.

I’ve never noticed they were church goers but I guess they are which kind of makes me want to put my guard up more as maybe the school thing isn’t just a way to get smaller class sizes or more discipline.

The kids had fun blowing bubbles and doing sidewalk chalk though.

—Op

The next time your kids start playing with their kids, tell your kids they can’t play with the other kids because they go to XYZ school and they go to church so they probably hate you. Then shoo them into your house. Be sure you do this right in front of your neighbors. Look them in the eye. Then never be friendly again.

How does that sound?

[Anonymous]

Astounded by all the people in here saying this is nbd. When you pay money to an organization that sponsors these ideas that hurt you and your family, you support those ideas, whether you let your kids play with the family next door or not. This family is actively hurting OP by paying money to a school that spreads these ideas. It's not really okay. Sorry you think it's okay to support this group that hurts a lot of people, but it's not, no matter what public school pyramid you're in.

OP, I'm not saying you should stop letting your kids play together. But I'd watch them because I don't know what sort of nonsense those kids might be talking to your kids and I don't want your kids hurt. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, my gosh. Don't say anything to your neighbors. Let them live their life. It sounds like they still allow their kids to play with yours when they could have stopped that a long time ago.

Think about it this way: They know who you truly are -- and they still let their kids play with yours.

That is called being tolerant.

You are being incredibly intolerant here. Let the kids continue to play together. Don't act unless is becomes a real, actionable problem impact your kids.

It is not intolerant to ask the question. Those of us who are gay have to worry about whether or not people will say horrible things to our kids.
That said, I would just arm my kids w/ what to say if anyone said anything shitty to them about their two moms, I wouldn't forbid them from playing.