My ex is marrying AP

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Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

And not to stage the obvious, but it also means he’s a liar with poor character and zero integrity.

Trumps wives all still like or love him. His children are healthy and Ivy educated. Biden can’t even run his family

They all still like or love Trump’s money, you simpleton.

Ok. So what. They were all better off for being with him and all his kids are healthy, Ivy educated and adore him.

Unlike the unhealthy gross Biden’s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They'll probably cheat on the new spouse too.

I just read a quote today on that - when the mistress becomes the wife, her position opens up.

So true.

While it seems unfair that he moves on first and is happy, trust me he is HER problem now.

Hallelujah to that! 🙌🏽

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If they didn’t get married it would reflect worse on both of them. At least they are in love.

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Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

None of the OP says the poster is a Woman and the Man is getting remarried, yet everyone answers like it did. Reverse the roles, same answers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a financial planner who has worked with dozens of couples it’s even more intimate than a therapist. When money is involved you really see people’s deepest characteristics with no filter. I think men would be shocked and maybe a little afraid of getting married. 1) there is a huge percentage of women who would rather die than lose the narrative in their heads. 2) a huge percentage of women will avoid accountability at any cost.
If there is difficulty in a marriage these characteristics completely destroy any marriage therapy effectiveness. I see a lot of those characteristics in these posts. In my experience men are more often accountable and willing to admit deficiencies.

Women do not benefit from marriage in terms of health or finances.

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Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

I hate to defend Trump here but he’s been married three, not four, times.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

And not to stage the obvious, but it also means he’s a liar with poor character and zero integrity.

Trumps wives all still like or love him. His children are healthy and Ivy educated. Biden can’t even run his family

They all still like or love Trump’s money, you simpleton.

Ok. So what. They were all better off for being with him and all his kids are healthy, Ivy educated and adore him.

Unlike the unhealthy gross Biden’s.

I guess it depends on what you mean by "better off". You have no idea about any emotional or mental turmoil they may have been put through and possibly still going through.