My ex is marrying AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've btdt, what helped you? What advice can you offer? I'm not in love with my ex anymore. Mostly it's the deception, lies, and humiliation that I have a hard time reconciling. We were together for over 20 years.

Cats and wine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

[Anonymous]

I wish my AP would divorce his wife and marry me. He’s miserable but staying for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my AP would divorce his wife and marry me. He’s miserable but staying for the kids.

Tale as old as time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been married to my AP for 10 years now and two kids together. Life is wonderful

Yuck, coming on here to boast is not a good look.

Ugh. They are not going to live in misery to please you. People move on and make lives for themselves. Unlike the betrayed women on this forum that are bitter for life.

You are devoid of empathy and it’s rather revolting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my AP would divorce his wife and marry me. He’s miserable but staying for the kids.

Stating for the kids gives reconciling a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my AP would divorce his wife and marry me. He’s miserable but staying for the kids.

Stating for the kids gives reconciling a chance.

And likely not miserable at all. Lol. “Staying fir the kids” is what they tell every AP. They kick the can down the road to keep getting the free sex. Usually the marriage is worlds different than what they portray to the AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish my AP would divorce his wife and marry me. He’s miserable but staying for the kids.

Stating for the kids gives reconciling a chance.

That’s face the kind of ugly fact. Both husbands and wives always love the children more than they love each other. That’s kind of an issue right there. Most Parents love children more than their spouses, affair partners, second wives/husbands or anybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They'll probably cheat on the new spouse too.

I just read a quote today on that - when the mistress becomes the wife, her position opens up.

That’s classic and so true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

And not to stage the obvious, but it also means he’s a liar with poor character and zero integrity.

[Anonymous]

^not to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

Getting married dies not mean he’s not a serial cheater. Trump has been married 4 times. Lol. Being a cheater means he’s more likely to cheat again.

And not to stage the obvious, but it also means he’s a liar with poor character and zero integrity.

Trumps wives all still like or love him. His children are healthy and Ivy educated. Biden can’t even run his family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the emotional trauma of adultery... lmfao

Jesus Christ. I had a friend in high school whose father embezzled money and went to prison for years. Dishonesty, theft, public humiliation, moral failure, etc -- but my friend still loved his father because THAT'S HIS DAD. Some people have war in their country. Some people had their lives destroyed by earthquakes, hurricanes, or tornadoes. Some people lost loved ones to covid.

One parent cheating on another which results in a divorce is NOTHING on the life spectrum. So your spouse decided to leave you for another person: big effing deal. It's not homicide. Grow up and move on.

If there is a God, your spouse will cheat on you and you will have to live with the NOTHING you think it is. Just from the way you write, you sound like a vile and soulless person who deserves to live through what you think is no “big effing deal”. I am stunned there are so many truly horrible and insensitive people out there.

NP. Every case is unique and the true details are critical. Most of this discussion is dominated by women who are not nice people either. They think it’s ok to abort a baby. It seems better to marry an affair partner than to throw one away. It’s better there be actual love involved than for all the difficulty be only about sex and no redeeming quality. I think this is what really hurts OP that it would be easier to destroy her ex as someone who was so selfish he destroyed his marriage just for sex .. but his getting married shows he was in love and is not a serial cheater but that something may have been wrong with OP. Everybody needs to manage their own lives.

Marrying the AP shows redeeming qualities that makes life complicated and blows up simple or satisfying narratives.

+1. Complex doesn’t fit narratives and causes unwanted accountability.