Thoughts on this? Am I right to be weirded out/upset?

[Anonymous]

Wow- surprised this would bother someone. Nice that they can spend some time. He is still doing his job while there and it's great that he'll have time with his mom when he's not working.

[Anonymous]

This would make me happy for them.

DH works hard so if he gets time to squeeze in a visit w friends/family or a fun activity while travelling, I am happy for him. Same for me when I am on my work trips- he wants me to feel fulfilled/get out and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soon DH will be taking a business trip for a week. The trip was brought up in casual conversation during a dinner we hosted. The city in which DH’s convention will be held is a city ILs have a timeshare hotel/resort. DH just told me that his mother told him that she plans on going down and using her timeshare that week, and they can sightsee during some of his downtime. I know it shouldn’t, but it’s really irking me. Meanwhile I’ll be here holding down the fort while DH and MIL are sightseeing around the town on his “downtime”. Thoughts? Should I calm down?

Poor little ole you! Jealousy is such a useless emotion. You are ridiculous. Why shouldn't his mother go see him? It's a business trip and it's your responsibility to hold down the fort just as it would be his job if you were on a business trip.

[Anonymous]

Wait are you a SAHM? If you are why don't you just stay at the time share for a week with your kiddos. That way your MIL can get time with you and your kids as well and help out with her grandkids and you can have time to yourself? It's a win win for everyone. Then i

[Anonymous]

Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

That is bc she is not a SAHM. She mentioned she is already stressed out and that there will be logistical challenges. This would only be true if she has a ton more on her plate than a typical SAHM, or else is the laziest SAHM ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

That is bc she is not a SAHM. She mentioned she is already stressed out and that there will be logistical challenges. This would only be true if she has a ton more on her plate than a typical SAHM, or else is the laziest SAHM ever.

Ok my bad that makes a lot more sense then. Was wondering why 7 pages in this hasn't been thought of of better her why MIL wouldn't offer this to her DIL and grandkids. Thought she was one of those MILs whose only person who exists in her world is her son but I stand corrected.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

DIL was NOT invited. Why does she get to invite herself because she doesn't want to take care of the kids alone for a few days. Why can't a son see his mother without the wife for once. Stop being so dam clingy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH gets mom time without taking any extra time from you/kids. TAKE THE WIN.

This!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

DIL was NOT invited. Why does she get to invite herself because she doesn't want to take care of the kids alone for a few days. Why can't a son see his mother without the wife for once. Stop being so dam clingy.

So the MIL can't invite her own DIL and her own grandkids to the timeshare god forbid her DIL is able to make it easier for her and the kiddos and grandma gets time with her grandkids. Why would you leave the rest of your son's family out? Also why isn't the husband speaking up for his wife and asking for his wife and kids to be able to use the timeshare? So he wants a whole week with his mom but his own wife and kids aren't invited?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

DIL was NOT invited. Why does she get to invite herself because she doesn't want to take care of the kids alone for a few days. Why can't a son see his mother without the wife for once. Stop being so dam clingy.

It's funny how a wife has to be invited to spend time with her own husband on a business trip. The bigger question is why isn't the husband bringing it up to his mom that it's not like his mom has to pay for the wife and kids to stay at the timeshare so what's the harm in letting them use it.

It's weird that essentially the husband is taking a week vacation with his mom leaving his own wife and children knowing that his wife is stressed.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you sound crazy jealous and bitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you sound crazy jealous and bitter.

You sound nuts to think that a wife needs to be invited to spend time with her own husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I hit reply by accident. I meant to ask if you are a SAHM why don't you just stay at the timeshare as well with your kids? That way your MIL can get time with you and more importantly her grandkids while your husband is at work. Also I'm sure your MIL would want to spend time with her grandkids who wouldn't want that while you do some girly things and have some time for yourself?

Then in the evenings when your husband is done work him and your MIL can go out and have some time together. You will already have a little break from the kiddos during the day and then in the evenings you won't feel as tired or burnt out when your husband goes out with his mom. Seems like a win win for everyone. Who knows maybe one evening as a family you guys can all go sightseeing together? Give your husband some mother/son time a few evenings and then family evenings some other nights as well.

I'm shocked that 7 pages in no one else thought of this.

Also surprised your husband hasn't brought it up. There is literally a family house that you guys can stay in for free and you and your husband hasn't utilized that option.

I'm also shocked your MIL wouldn't offer that to her son for his wife/ her DIL and grandkids. This is close family. Is there normally tension or weirdness between you and MIL that this wouldn't just be a given? This isn't some casual friend here it's close family.

I would definitely talk to your husband about talking to his mother about you guys staying at the timeshare also.

My mind is boggled that she wouldn't offer this to her DIL and her own grandkids.

DIL was NOT invited. Why does she get to invite herself because she doesn't want to take care of the kids alone for a few days. Why can't a son see his mother without the wife for once. Stop being so dam clingy.

So the MIL can't invite her own DIL and her own grandkids to the timeshare god forbid her DIL is able to make it easier for her and the kiddos and grandma gets time with her grandkids. Why would you leave the rest of your son's family out? Also why isn't the husband speaking up for his wife and asking for his wife and kids to be able to use the timeshare? So he wants a whole week with his mom but his own wife and kids aren't invited?

Bingo. You figured it out. Why can’t a parent see their child once in a blue moon alone? Like they are never allowed to ever see their child once they get married. That’s incredibly short sighted.