Thoughts on the L&D nurse “ick” tiktok

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Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

I know you all have a stressful job, but you have no right to mock and criticize people who are trying their best to navigate a stressful situation, even if their behavior appears inappropriate to you. Find a new line of work.

Actually, we do have that right. Free speech and all.

Ummm... you can have free speech as an unemployed person.

Look, if every nurse or physician was fired for talking bad about patient families then there would be no nurses or physicians left.

Nope. I know some wonderful people in the medical profession who do not talk trash about the people they care for. You just run with a terrible crowd.

Alright, you keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. Just know if you’re in critical care and your family member is acting a fool, the whole floor has heard about it at the break room or nurse’s station.

First off, who are you to determine if a family is acting a fool as you say? If they are 1. dangerous to themselves or others 2. making it difficult for patients to rest 3. physically or verbally assaulting staff or patients or other family members that is unacceptable. Anything else is mouth closed. You can complain about family. Dont utter a word about patients and their conditions/etc outside of medically necessary sharing of info. You are repugnant. Go see a therapist and talk it out.

You clearly don’t work in health care. If a patient is rude and whiny and mean believe me, we still provide the same good care but we complain about you and make fun of you at lunchtime. We aren’t robots.

Yeah exactly you aren't robots- you're humans and you have biases. Even complaining about it on some level can be productive but it's not when it becomes toxic. When it changes other people's perception of that patient. There's a difference between telling a nurse who's coming on shift that patient in room 24 is a little bit prickly and will complain about the food and saying something about oh man the chick in room 24 is one of those f****** hippies who won't take an epidural. I can't tell if I wanted her to take the epidural and shut up or if I want her to put on deodorant.
You can complain about the husband being lazy and taking up space and making it harder to do your job but don't gossip about how he is always on his phone so much and checked out and if you were her boyfriend you be checked out too cuz she's such a crazy bit h.

Again as a healthcare provider I really wish you'd take a look at the Instagram post that I linked about the woman during labor who was shushed by her nurse. Physically put her finger up to her mouth and not in the comforting way it was in a dismissing way.

Part of it starts at the top with how doctors treat patients because I've seen doctors do cervical checks without asking just walk in the f****** door put on a glove sit down and do a check. I've seen them break water without discussing it with the patient. I've been ignored by nurses I've been dismissed by nurses. And I do work in healthcare I've worked in healthcare since my early 20s. The one thing you should remind yourself every day is that patient doesn't get to choose you as their nurse but you get to choose the type of nurse you're going to be that day. And talking negatively all the time and b***ing all the time isn't productive and it absolutely plays into the type of care you provide. Don't f****** kid yourself.

You're projecting an awful lot from my 3 sentence post. Yes, I agree that fostering a culture of complaining and being negative ends up being a terrible thing, both for happiness in the workplace and for patient care. But if you don't think I'm going to give a heads up to my coworker that the patient in room 5 will cuss her out if she suggests getting out of bed and taking a few laps around the unit, you're crazy.

Okay but... did you try praying about it?

wild guess you’re a racist too. do everyone a solid a get out of the medical field. there are plenty of jobs better suited for scum people.

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Anonymous wrote:Those nurses are skummy and unprofessional and should be fired. Someone in the clinical job I am very embarrassed for them.

They have been fired.

Good. Hope they aren’t easily rehired.

They will be. There's a massive shortage of nurses willing to work bedside (and on staff instead of raking in crazy pay as travelers).

What they did still sucks and was idiotic, though.

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So many people just did not grow up. Then, they get jobs and make Tik Toks forgetting that they are actually adults. So much immaturity.

Everyone should be disgusted. Hopefully they got the message.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

I know you all have a stressful job, but you have no right to mock and criticize people who are trying their best to navigate a stressful situation, even if their behavior appears inappropriate to you. Find a new line of work.

Who do you think you are? Get over yourself.

not PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

I know you all have a stressful job, but you have no right to mock and criticize people who are trying their best to navigate a stressful situation, even if their behavior appears inappropriate to you. Find a new line of work.

Actually, we do have that right. Free speech and all.

Ummm... you can have free speech as an unemployed person.

Ummm, sweetheart, you aren't getting anyone fired. Take several seats.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

I know you all have a stressful job, but you have no right to mock and criticize people who are trying their best to navigate a stressful situation, even if their behavior appears inappropriate to you. Find a new line of work.

Actually, we do have that right. Free speech and all.

Ummm... you can have free speech as an unemployed person.

Look, if every nurse or physician was fired for talking bad about patient families then there would be no nurses or physicians left.

Nope. I know some wonderful people in the medical profession who do not talk trash about the people they care for. You just run with a terrible crowd.

Alright, you keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. Just know if you’re in critical care and your family member is acting a fool, the whole floor has heard about it at the break room or nurse’s station.

First off, who are you to determine if a family is acting a fool as you say? If they are 1. dangerous to themselves or others 2. making it difficult for patients to rest 3. physically or verbally assaulting staff or patients or other family members that is unacceptable. Anything else is mouth closed. You can complain about family. Dont utter a word about patients and their conditions/etc outside of medically necessary sharing of info. You are repugnant. Go see a therapist and talk it out.

It’s their opinion, based on that person’s words and behavior. Whether you like it or not is absolutely immaterial.

And you issuing orders like “don’t utter a word” — what? Are you the hospital CEO? Then shut up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was prepared to come in and laugh a bit at OP being so sensitive but uh, wow. I also thought there’d be atleast baseline agreement that it shouldn’t have happened. How do so many people think it’s perfectly fine to make fun of people - let alone their own patients - amongst coworkers behind their back? I teach my kids if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all, and apparently some of y’all need to revisit that fairly universal concept. No, trash talking people isn’t a form of “therapy” and not wanting to be the subject of trash-talk isn’t “the height of privilege”. LOL what world do some of you live in where that’s acceptable?? Now we atleast know who is parenting the school bullies!

Mmkay, Pollyanna.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

You're right, we really don't. Please keep your callous, mocking, and unconstructive comments away from your patients and amongst fellow catty nurses only. TIA!

It doesn't take much to be a nurse does it. It's like real estate. Everyone who can't do anything else.

Cool. Make sure the next time you or a family member are in the hospital, you say “no nurses for me!” You can sit there in your own waste unmedicated.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

I know you all have a stressful job, but you have no right to mock and criticize people who are trying their best to navigate a stressful situation, even if their behavior appears inappropriate to you. Find a new line of work.

Actually, we do have that right. Free speech and all.

Ummm... you can have free speech as an unemployed person.

Look, if every nurse or physician was fired for talking bad about patient families then there would be no nurses or physicians left.

Nope. I know some wonderful people in the medical profession who do not talk trash about the people they care for. You just run with a terrible crowd.

Alright, you keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. Just know if you’re in critical care and your family member is acting a fool, the whole floor has heard about it at the break room or nurse’s station.

First off, who are you to determine if a family is acting a fool as you say? If they are 1. dangerous to themselves or others 2. making it difficult for patients to rest 3. physically or verbally assaulting staff or patients or other family members that is unacceptable. Anything else is mouth closed. You can complain about family. Dont utter a word about patients and their conditions/etc outside of medically necessary sharing of info. You are repugnant. Go see a therapist and talk it out.

And who are you to determine how a stressed healthcare worker can blow off steam? Gossiping in the break room is way better (and a lot cheaper) than therapy.
Your superior attitude is repugnant.

NP

I don’t think that saying mean or nasty things about the people you’re caring for is an acceptable way to blow off steam. It’s one thing to vent but these women were sarcastic and just obviously has contempt for those patients. I see the same things sometimes with teachers and their students too and I don’t think it’s okay.

DP. I guess you don't know any nurses or doctors. Or anyone else, for that matter.

Do you seriously not know people who aren’t mean?

And I do know nurses and doctors. I’ve worked in a doctors office before as a transcriptionist. Yes a lot of doctors and nurses made unkind jokes but not all of them.

They absolutely did when they were alone together. Just not around The Help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a veteran ICU nurse.

Then you all really, really don't want to know what we say about you family members of the critically ill -- out of earshot.

Their mistake was blabbering in a showy public way.

I know you all have a stressful job, but you have no right to mock and criticize people who are trying their best to navigate a stressful situation, even if their behavior appears inappropriate to you. Find a new line of work.

Actually, we do have that right. Free speech and all.

Ummm... you can have free speech as an unemployed person.

Look, if every nurse or physician was fired for talking bad about patient families then there would be no nurses or physicians left.

Nope. I know some wonderful people in the medical profession who do not talk trash about the people they care for. You just run with a terrible crowd.

Alright, you keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better. Just know if you’re in critical care and your family member is acting a fool, the whole floor has heard about it at the break room or nurse’s station.

First off, who are you to determine if a family is acting a fool as you say? If they are 1. dangerous to themselves or others 2. making it difficult for patients to rest 3. physically or verbally assaulting staff or patients or other family members that is unacceptable. Anything else is mouth closed. You can complain about family. Dont utter a word about patients and their conditions/etc outside of medically necessary sharing of info. You are repugnant. Go see a therapist and talk it out.

You clearly don’t work in health care. If a patient is rude and whiny and mean believe me, we still provide the same good care but we complain about you and make fun of you at lunchtime. We aren’t robots.

Yeah exactly you aren't robots- you're humans and you have biases. Even complaining about it on some level can be productive but it's not when it becomes toxic. When it changes other people's perception of that patient. There's a difference between telling a nurse who's coming on shift that patient in room 24 is a little bit prickly and will complain about the food and saying something about oh man the chick in room 24 is one of those f****** hippies who won't take an epidural. I can't tell if I wanted her to take the epidural and shut up or if I want her to put on deodorant.
You can complain about the husband being lazy and taking up space and making it harder to do your job but don't gossip about how he is always on his phone so much and checked out and if you were her boyfriend you be checked out too cuz she's such a crazy bit h.

Again as a healthcare provider I really wish you'd take a look at the Instagram post that I linked about the woman during labor who was shushed by her nurse. Physically put her finger up to her mouth and not in the comforting way it was in a dismissing way.

Part of it starts at the top with how doctors treat patients because I've seen doctors do cervical checks without asking just walk in the f****** door put on a glove sit down and do a check. I've seen them break water without discussing it with the patient. I've been ignored by nurses I've been dismissed by nurses. And I do work in healthcare I've worked in healthcare since my early 20s. The one thing you should remind yourself every day is that patient doesn't get to choose you as their nurse but you get to choose the type of nurse you're going to be that day. And talking negatively all the time and b***ing all the time isn't productive and it absolutely plays into the type of care you provide. Don't f****** kid yourself.

You're projecting an awful lot from my 3 sentence post. Yes, I agree that fostering a culture of complaining and being negative ends up being a terrible thing, both for happiness in the workplace and for patient care. But if you don't think I'm going to give a heads up to my coworker that the patient in room 5 will cuss her out if she suggests getting out of bed and taking a few laps around the unit, you're crazy.

You are extrapolating. That is not what people are upset about. The comments these nurses made are mostly dog whistles but the epidural one was specific to patient care/consent. We are saying the same thing but you, or another poster here, is getting pissy about not being able to say whatevvverrr you want to say. Warning another nurse and talking shi% about patients are two VERY different things. This tiktok was talking shi%. Talking shi% about people is usually coming from 1 of 2 things:
1. bullies
2. people who think they are better than certain groups of people/types of people.

Neither of the above are going to be giving the best care they can regardless of the person in the bed.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with what they did however the vitriol towards nurses is crazy. I'm assuming these are the same people who complain about lazy, stupid teachers all the time. Nurses are often the ones who catch the mistakes doctors make, they are often the best advocate for patients, and they are the ones who determine whether you have a good stay or not. They deal with behavior and horrors we can only imagine and then take a deep breath and do it again and again. They wear out their bodies and their souls. I have been the grateful recipient of wonderful care from a number of nurses and I'm grateful for them every day. Yes, I've had not great care but I've also had a bad mechanic, a bad boss, a bad service worker etc... You are dealing with humans - there's gonna be a variety. Y'all keep slamming nurses and you aren't gonna have any there when you need them. We are already seeing that. Again, yes these tik tok fools were bad but that's not all nurses.

My grandfather was a doctor and he told me to judge a hospital by it's nursing staff. Nurses are human and overworked. Judging by the entitled posters on this thread.

Think of it this way:. You are only thinking and concerned with yourself but nurses have everybody on the ward in their care. If you're a PITA you get some snark.

[Anonymous]

Sadly, I think they are probably more of these types of nurses out there.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly, I think they are probably more of these types of nurses out there.

I feel sorry for the nurses having to put up with Pregnant American Princesses and their over entitled families. Nobody should be bringing your young children to the hospital. They can see their new sibling when you get home from the hospital a day or two later.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly, I think they are probably more of these types of nurses out there.

I feel sorry for the nurses having to put up with Pregnant American Princesses and their over entitled families. Nobody should be bringing your young children to the hospital. They can see their new sibling when you get home from the hospital a day or two later.

mental health check: you doing ok?

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly, I think they are probably more of these types of nurses out there.

I feel sorry for the nurses having to put up with Pregnant American Princesses and their over entitled families. Nobody should be bringing your young children to the hospital. They can see their new sibling when you get home from the hospital a day or two later.

Most hospitals have rules about not bringing siblings to the hospital, or only during specified times and only if there is a designated adult with them at all times. These rules are even stricter since Covid.

Most women giving birth in hospitals are not entitled princesses. They are looking for medical care. For many people, it is their first and only time staying overnight in a hospital. For first time moms, they may have plenty of perfectly reasonable fears about how it's going to go.

The idea that it's okay to publicly crap all over your patients because sometimes some of them do annoying things is the really entitled behavior. Take it up with your boss, your colleagues, your therapist, your partner, your priest. I don't care. People go to hospitals because they have to, and because they need help. You don't trash them on TikTok because you had a tough day. These nurses need to grow the eff up.