A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities

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Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Chiming in on the DD’s - are you wanting real or fake? Because real ones don’t hold up very well.

I’ve dated women with both. I know some real ones eventually lose their lift. I’m okay with that. I’m not perfect and don’t expect perfect. Hope that answered your question.

Here's a secret, I'm a lifelong B and after 2 kids, I have two pancakes (not saggy, just deflated). So, whether they're Ds or As, they all "lose their fit." But the woman they're attached to remains fun. Or not fun, depending on your luck.

I appreciate it and completely understand they lose their shape. Sag, pancake, etc. I have three sisters, have heard plenty of women “issues”. As long as the we get along, respect each other, have fun, the rest is icing on the cake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Honestly as long as you don't waste my time as a B cup I'm fine with it. Maybe you can just put likes curves.

Every guy who doesn't like drama is either void of emotions or overly emotional on the interior or exterior. I'd be more wary of posting that line.

I swipe away from every post that tells women what they should not be (except for no Smoking no drug use).

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Anonymous wrote:Boob jobs did change the market, imo.

And now a lot of these women have cancer from them

Not a lot. However, implants have been linked to rare incidence of:
- BIA-ALCL, a type of immune system cancers, especially with textured implants
- systemic autoimmune-like symptoms (fibromyalgia-like, for example)
- difficulties in reading breast tissue scans and possibly delaying cancer diagnosis

These are still very rare, etc. but there are also risks of leakage and tissue hardening/capsular contracture, plus likelihood of additional surgery or surgeries over a patient’s lifetime and the small but real risks any surgery carries.

So non-textured saline implants are more likely to be safe?

Only as far as BIA ALCL is concerned. Capsular contracture is more likely with saline implants, for example. Overall, they just seem like a better idea to me in theory than what they are in practice. I very seriously considered them in my 20s and 30s and every time I updated my research, the conclusion was the same -- they're still not safe enough for my comfort and my level of confidence. I'm in my 40s now with deflated Bs but DH loves them so I don't have a lot of incentive to take on any of the above risks. I bet it would be fun, but it's just not worth it to me. Oh, they also cost a chunk of change, ha! So, I opt for being natural, saving money, and avoiding all the risks.

How expensive are they these days? Like $10k?

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Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

So he was tall and well endowed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boob jobs did change the market, imo.

Yeah, my friend says “t*tty privilege” is real. Lol.

I don't understand how this is a turn on. It's not real. Like, how is it sexy to touch something when all you can think is "there's a literal foreign bag of water in my hand". It's not an actual breast. I'm a guy and I have never touched one, but I have seen them and I don't understand the appeal at all.

My wife has them. I had tried to talk her out of them for health reasons and subjecting herself to an unnecessary surgery. I have to say, they’re the most amazing pair of boobs I’ve ever seen and put my hands on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

No problem liking what you like, but the "no drama" comment would give me pause. It's usually men who can't communicate well that specify this. But then I'm a B (PP) and married, so my opinion is irrelevant to you anyway, heh.

B ladies think alike lol.

🙌

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The key question is, who are these middle aged men? There are very few who are single and desirable IME.

Whatever do you mean? I'm sure ALL the men on here are "gorgeous," "sex positive," have "impeccable hygiene," are "fit," and "funny," have no mommy issues at all, are totally independent and equal contributors in all things, have no history with substance use, and will laugh at literally all of your jokes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The key question is, who are these middle aged men? There are very few who are single and desirable IME.

Whatever do you mean? I'm sure ALL the men on here are "gorgeous," "sex positive," have "impeccable hygiene," are "fit," and "funny," have no mommy issues at all, are totally independent and equal contributors in all things, have no history with substance use, and will laugh at literally all of your jokes.

Guy here. I’m certainly not perfect, but my requirement list is relatively short and I don’t ask for anything that I’m not willing to provide also.

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Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

You must be a troll. Size doesn’t make any difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The key question is, who are these middle aged men? There are very few who are single and desirable IME.

Whatever do you mean? I'm sure ALL the men on here are "gorgeous," "sex positive," have "impeccable hygiene," are "fit," and "funny," have no mommy issues at all, are totally independent and equal contributors in all things, have no history with substance use, and will laugh at literally all of your jokes.

Guy here. I’m certainly not perfect, but my requirement list is relatively short and I don’t ask for anything that I’m not willing to provide also.

So all about you. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why if I ever get divorced I think I’ll prefer to be single. Embrace my “witch” era, live in a cabin at the edge of the woods, do crafts and gardening. Those ladies were on to something good. That’s why they burned them.

I have no interest in the woods but I am pretty sure I would stay single forever if I got divorced. I'm too old to be trying to tick off boxes on some 50yo middle manager's list

[Anonymous]

Doesn't brownstamp but accepts if I do, on occasion. #Empathy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why if I ever get divorced I think I’ll prefer to be single. Embrace my “witch” era, live in a cabin at the edge of the woods, do crafts and gardening. Those ladies were on to something good. That’s why they burned them.

I have no interest in the woods but I am pretty sure I would stay single forever if I got divorced. I'm too old to be trying to tick off boxes on some 50yo middle manager's list

So if you were single and looking, you wouldn’t even have a single requirement that you’d like in a potential mate? I don’t beleive that. In fact, women seem to have the most extensive lists, and often, they statt with things that guys can’t change (height, etc).

I’ve known women with excel sheets tracking how the people they’re dating stack up (also, it helps keep track of things they want to remember about them). But for a guy to be criticized for their relativey short list of requirements is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty
Likes sex
Smart
Wicked sense of humor
Adventurous (food, experience, travel)
Hates clutter
Decent stiletto collection
Doesn’t get seasick

Is sea sickness a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

So he was tall and well endowed?

Is. Yes.