A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

Fit is hard enough to find - layering in all of those other things makes it pretty hard to find.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

Fit is hard enough to find - layering in all of those other things makes it pretty hard to find.

Sorry bud, I married her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

Fit is hard enough to find - layering in all of those other things makes it pretty hard to find.

I fit this except the fitness and well I have an ex but that kind of goes with having kids. I'm working on it though at the end of raising the kids to get back into shape. Hopefully, in a couple of years someone will be looking for this type of person. If not, I guess I'll be their mother in their old age or live with the single ladies in a large house together and do this same stuff. Or meet another crazy online. I also like sports and would prefer to find a spouse that also liked them. I also love my kids and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

How old are you? How old should the woman be?

[Anonymous]

DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Chiming in on the DD’s - are you wanting real or fake? Because real ones don’t hold up very well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Chiming in on the DD’s - are you wanting real or fake? Because real ones don’t hold up very well.

I’ve dated women with both. I know some real ones eventually lose their lift. I’m okay with that. I’m not perfect and don’t expect perfect. Hope that answered your question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boob jobs did change the market, imo.

And now a lot of these women have cancer from them

Not a lot. However, implants have been linked to rare incidence of:
- BIA-ALCL, a type of immune system cancers, especially with textured implants
- systemic autoimmune-like symptoms (fibromyalgia-like, for example)
- difficulties in reading breast tissue scans and possibly delaying cancer diagnosis

These are still very rare, etc. but there are also risks of leakage and tissue hardening/capsular contracture, plus likelihood of additional surgery or surgeries over a patient’s lifetime and the small but real risks any surgery carries.

So non-textured saline implants are more likely to be safe?

Only as far as BIA ALCL is concerned. Capsular contracture is more likely with saline implants, for example. Overall, they just seem like a better idea to me in theory than what they are in practice. I very seriously considered them in my 20s and 30s and every time I updated my research, the conclusion was the same -- they're still not safe enough for my comfort and my level of confidence. I'm in my 40s now with deflated Bs but DH loves them so I don't have a lot of incentive to take on any of the above risks. I bet it would be fun, but it's just not worth it to me. Oh, they also cost a chunk of change, ha! So, I opt for being natural, saving money, and avoiding all the risks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

Let me guess. You’re 60 and she should be under 45.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Chiming in on the DD’s - are you wanting real or fake? Because real ones don’t hold up very well.

PP poster back… You know someone with some of these qualities that I like? 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Chiming in on the DD’s - are you wanting real or fake? Because real ones don’t hold up very well.

I’ve dated women with both. I know some real ones eventually lose their lift. I’m okay with that. I’m not perfect and don’t expect perfect. Hope that answered your question.

Here's a secret, I'm a lifelong B and after 2 kids, I have two pancakes (not saggy, just deflated). So, whether they're Ds or As, they all "lose their fit." But the woman they're attached to remains fun. Or not fun, depending on your luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

No problem liking what you like, but the "no drama" comment would give me pause. It's usually men who can't communicate well that specify this. But then I'm a B (PP) and married, so my opinion is irrelevant to you anyway, heh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

Honestly as long as you don't waste my time as a B cup I'm fine with it. Maybe you can just put likes curves.

Every guy who doesn't like drama is either void of emotions or overly emotional on the interior or exterior. I'd be more wary of posting that line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

No problem liking what you like, but the "no drama" comment would give me pause. It's usually men who can't communicate well that specify this. But then I'm a B (PP) and married, so my opinion is irrelevant to you anyway, heh.

B ladies think alike lol.