A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

So he was tall and well endowed?

Is. Yes.

So you’re still dating him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

You must be a troll. Size doesn’t make any difference.

That’s what I thought. You do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

You must be a troll. Size doesn’t make any difference.

That’s what I thought. You do you.

NP.. but how well he's endowed does not always correlate to his height. DH is 6'3", and it's smallish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

You must be a troll. Size doesn’t make any difference.

That’s what I thought. You do you.

NP.. but how well he's endowed does not always correlate to his height. DH is 6'3", and it's smallish.

My wife says there literally no way to tell. I’m 6’ tall and have always been scrawny but my hog is bigger around than my wrist. Like, I’ve put my watch on it (don’t ask) and I had to let out the strap a few holes. Lol. I’ve tried eating and lifting a lot but I just don’t put on mass very easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty
Likes sex
Smart
Wicked sense of humor
Adventurous (food, experience, travel)
Hates clutter
Decent stiletto collection
Doesn’t get seasick

Is sea sickness a deal breaker?

Nope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The key question is, who are these middle aged men? There are very few who are single and desirable IME.

I think this thread is a lot of unhappy married men talking about who they wish they married

Winner winner chicken dinner!

And let's be honest..."doesn't get seasick" really means "doesn't mind if I buy a boat and we're out on the boat every single weekend."

Lol, already have one and you’re right, I’ll go out in almost any weather.

Definitely adjust the list to say “wants to go out on my boat all the time” because I don’t get seasick but I would rather you just hire a pro for that.

My father in law spends every weekend on his boat and my MIL, while she does not get seasick, is so bored of boating that she never goes anymore and just goes to brunches and stuff with her friends in their seaside town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why if I ever get divorced I think I’ll prefer to be single. Embrace my “witch” era, live in a cabin at the edge of the woods, do crafts and gardening. Those ladies were on to something good. That’s why they burned them.

With a couple of cats and a dog!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

I got a 9 out of 11! Which ones of these exactly are actually deal breakers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

You want a woman with zero baggage, as if any middle aged person qualifies, but yet you are the male version of a cat lady? Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why if I ever get divorced I think I’ll prefer to be single. Embrace my “witch” era, live in a cabin at the edge of the woods, do crafts and gardening. Those ladies were on to something good. That’s why they burned them.

+++

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be

As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.

Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.

Over 5’ 10” and over $300K would suffice : )

Okay the heightening surgery we need some breakthroughs on that. I can't be down for a whole year. I'm just saying everything physical you ladies can change with about 20 grand and a pretty short recovery. For us a lot of times it's not even feasible. Sure we can get you 300K some of us but the height requirements feel very exclusionary. It's not like getting a BBL, lipo or tit job. The height surgery means breaking bones for a couple of inches and you'll never be able to play sports again.

I'm just saying I know there are some fine medical minds amongst you ladies, give me some help please. Let's make 6 ft a standard achievable by all men for a price equivalent to a boob job because it's the fair thing to do.

Honestly it’s a preference not a requirement. I’ve been super attracted to men my height (5’9”) and shorter. Kind winning honest open trustworthy personality and solid stable secure responsible financials are much more important than height. Height just adds something to the sex life that is really nice to have (and actually contributes to the security feeling).

Does height really add to the sex life? Is it just in attraction or isnit something else?

If you had asked me before last year I would have said height was unimportant. I am still very attracted to men my height and shorter. However, last year I started dating a man who is 6’2” for the first time in my life and the spark is intense. Also this is embarrassing to say but I did not realize that the endowment is proportional and although I would never previously have said that it matters now that I am aware of the difference, it matters. I still would not pass over a great shorter guy on this factor alone, nor would I stay with a talk jerk because of it. However it is a really nice “nice to have.”

You must be a troll. Size doesn’t make any difference.

That’s what I thought. You do you.

NP.. but how well he's endowed does not always correlate to his height. DH is 6'3", and it's smallish.

My wife says there literally no way to tell. I’m 6’ tall and have always been scrawny but my hog is bigger around than my wrist. Like, I’ve put my watch on it (don’t ask) and I had to let out the strap a few holes. Lol. I’ve tried eating and lifting a lot but I just don’t put on mass very easily.

The watch test made me laugh. I'm a dude, and I can totally imagine doing that in my younger days. (I just used a measuring tape.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

You want a woman with zero baggage, as if any middle aged person qualifies, but yet you are the male version of a cat lady? Good luck!

I am 44, pass all criteria on his list. Divorced long time ago, no contact with my ex, the only child out in college. Very financially secure. But I have no difficulty dating 38-49 age group. Presume he’s about 60 if airways widowed: no freaking way ! I will start dating 60+ when I am 55 or so

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD breasts or larger (I’ll probably get slammed for this one.)
Kind
Considerate of others
Independent
Good sense of humor
No smoker
Not a heavy drinker (I don’t drink at all. Did it got the Tshirt)
Goes to the gym
No drama
Enjoys $ex
Common sense

This is me! How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

You want a woman with zero baggage, as if any middle aged person qualifies, but yet you are the male version of a cat lady? Good luck!

Why is all baggage negative? Why does everyone want a naive person as their spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Widowed man and I'm looking for her now. Have been on about 15 dates. Didn't want any second dates so far. It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods. No ex baggage at all-none. Grown kids who don't live with her. Not allergic to cats. Adventurous and expects the same in me. Willing to try new things. Bonus if she has a nice a$$.

You want a woman with zero baggage, as if any middle aged person qualifies, but yet you are the male version of a cat lady? Good luck!

Why is all baggage negative? Why does everyone want a naive person as their spouse?

Not a naive person. A positive, fun to be with person.