slur during last nights FCPS Board mtg

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Anonymous wrote:KKG has no interest beyond black administrators, staff and students. She needs to apologize for this slur. As someone who is supposed to care for all students, it is beyond inappropriate. The board wven did a resolution last year or the year before about how this word is a slur! She knows better even if she grew up with this term like many of us did in the 70s and 80s.

The PP who described the speaker situation above was wrong. John Foster said it wild be a speaker substitution despite the power of attorney and it would require a vote to suspend the rules. The parlimentarian agreed. Why didn’t that speaker identify herself as a substitute up front? Rachna read the rules very clearly that said no speaker substitution. They needed to follow the process and that’s whay they did.

Exactly, that's why she's racist.

I don't think that makes her "racist." It makes her race-focused.

And I do agree with the PP's statement. That is her focus. Disappointment. I voted for her to expand the racial make up of the SB... but I assumed she was more well-rounded. I was wrong.

"race-focused" implies she, as an elected school board member, skews her work based on skin color, which is by definition racist.

That is not even remotely close to what race-focused means. Just stop.

DP. The entire board is race-focused, which is why they all need to be voted out. Enough, already. Focus on improving academics for ALL children. No wonder so many families have fled to privates.

Wait - academics? You want them to focus on academics?S?

In our schools???

How weird.

Schools are supposed to be indoctrination centers for the SB’s agenda of DIE: diversity, inclusion, and equity.

Don’t you agree with the current SB and new superintendent?

So who is going to be the "academics" focused candidate to run against them? The Dems and the Republicans have consistently run candidates hyper-focused on social issues. Who is going to finally run on an actual academics platform? No one.

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Anonymous wrote:“ don’t get why she can say it and it’s OK but if anyone said something racist, they’d be OUT”

It’s not the same thing. Plus it’s not like she called SOMEONE the R word. She said a situation was r-ed. yes not a polite society word now a days but I put it on the level of someone saying they were gypped vs on the level of calling someone fhe N word or a spic.

First of all, learn grammar. She used the r-word to describe a group of people “we” as in the school board. So no she was not describing a situation.

Second of all, you sound like a Trumper trying to defend the crazy sh*t he says lurk. “ oh here’s what he actually meant”. Just stop.

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Anonymous wrote:Her "apology" is lacking. She makes no mention of the disability community. Her focus is on explaining why she used it out of frustration, and reads like she is trying to justify herself. "I thought the board should allow a parent to finish her point and was frustrated with the outcome"

A huge part of an appology is being willing to listen to the other persons perspective on how they were affected

This part can be challenging because 1) someone doesn't actually have regret for what they said and or/ 2) their fears and feelings of shame or guilt can be increased during this part of the apology,

She and the school board should let the parents and students know that they have space to share anything about how KKG's statements hurt them. This is where she could learn her own limitations in understanding others and could experience growth as the offender.

There are ways that this statement affected parents and students that she is not aware of, and they need to express this to truly feel that their experience has been understood. When this does not happen, we will continue to hear things like “you still don’t get it” or “you never understand me”.

The irony is that if someone had made a racially insensitive comment she’d be all “it’s not the intent that matters it’s the IMPACT” and would consider it a BS apology.

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Anonymous wrote:“ don’t get why she can say it and it’s OK but if anyone said something racist, they’d be OUT”

It’s not the same thing. Plus it’s not like she called SOMEONE the R word. She said a situation was r-ed. yes not a polite society word now a days but I put it on the level of someone saying they were gypped vs on the level of calling someone fhe N word or a spic.

First of all, learn grammar. She used the r-word to describe a group of people “we” as in the school board. So no she was not describing a situation.

Second of all, you sound like a Trumper trying to defend the crazy sh*t he says lurk. “ oh here’s what he actually meant”. Just stop.

Disagree. She was not hurling the word across the table at another SB member.
And I’m a moderate Dem who cannot stand trump but I also firmly believe that the gotcha tendency followed by calls for resignation and firing is ridiculous. People mess up. People apologize. Things slowly get better over time.

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Are you all seriously expending this much energy into cancelling this woman???? I wish you'd be this angry about pedophiles... #crickets.

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Threads like this one make me believe that we're coming undone at the seams.

Growing up in New England, the word in questions was used as a pejorative through the 80s and 90s. I'm sure it was widely used elsewhere.

Did the board member make a good choice? No. Was the word used in poor taste? Yes. Did the board member acknowledge her mistake and apologize? Yes. Should she be thrown off the school board, campaigned against, or canceled because of this particular mistake? No.

This whole name calling business has gotten completely out of hand. Toughen your skin, people, and remember that we're all human.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you all seriously expending this much energy into cancelling this woman???? I wish you'd be this angry about pedophiles... #crickets.

Exactly. I wish people would be this upset about people trying to overthrow our democracy.

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I’m anti-cancel culture. I do not like anything this woman has done on the school board and want her voted off. But come on, people make mistakes and should not be canceled for them. We all make mistakes. I definitely grew up in a time when the word was used all the time. Of course the word is offensive and people should not use it. But again, everyone makes mistakes.

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Anonymous wrote:Threads like this one make me believe that we're coming undone at the seams.

Growing up in New England, the word in questions was used as a pejorative through the 80s and 90s. I'm sure it was widely used elsewhere.

Did the board member make a good choice? No. Was the word used in poor taste? Yes. Did the board member acknowledge her mistake and apologize? Yes. Should she be thrown off the school board, campaigned against, or canceled because of this particular mistake? No.

This whole name calling business has gotten completely out of hand. Toughen your skin, people, and remember that we're all human.

Absolutely. There are plenty of actual atrocities occurring around the globe that we can spend this time getting fired up about.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you all seriously expending this much energy into cancelling this woman???? I wish you'd be this angry about pedophiles... #crickets.

Exactly. I wish people would be this upset about people trying to overthrow our democracy.

The “democracy” formed by white western cis hetero makes, built on slavery and oppression?

I thought we were supposed to be disrupting and dismantling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Threads like this one make me believe that we're coming undone at the seams.

Growing up in New England, the word in questions was used as a pejorative through the 80s and 90s. I'm sure it was widely used elsewhere.

Did the board member make a good choice? No. Was the word used in poor taste? Yes. Did the board member acknowledge her mistake and apologize? Yes. Should she be thrown off the school board, campaigned against, or canceled because of this particular mistake? No.

This whole name calling business has gotten completely out of hand. Toughen your skin, people, and remember that we're all human.

It is rare and refreshing to find someone reasonable here. Totally agree.

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I have a special needs child so it does hurt to hear this come from someone who is shaping my child's future. But also, this isn't a naive use of the word by an otherwise well liked person. A truly decent coworker of mine did this once and after seeing the raised eyebrows, she turned bright red, apologized and has never said it again.

This board member has been frustrating a good amount of people for several years now. I think many are see this is as a revealing of her true colors and the straw that is breaking the camel's back.

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Anonymous wrote:Threads like this one make me believe that we're coming undone at the seams.

Growing up in New England, the word in questions was used as a pejorative through the 80s and 90s. I'm sure it was widely used elsewhere.

Did the board member make a good choice? No. Was the word used in poor taste? Yes. Did the board member acknowledge her mistake and apologize? Yes. Should she be thrown off the school board, campaigned against, or canceled because of this particular mistake? No.

This whole name calling business has gotten completely out of hand. Toughen your skin, people, and remember that we're all human.

It is rare and refreshing to find someone reasonable here. Totally agree.

Now substitute the n-word or the f-word for the r-word and see if you’d reach the same conclusion. PP’s was a typical ableist take.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m anti-cancel culture. I do not like anything this woman has done on the school board and want her voted off. But come on, people make mistakes and should not be canceled for them. We all make mistakes. I definitely grew up in a time when the word was used all the time. Of course the word is offensive and people should not use it. But again, everyone makes mistakes.

Not unless white people get a second chance before being cancelled. She's not resigning because she's black and is given a pass on shaming the disabled. Is FCPS going to become like DC where it's ok to utter anti-Semitic remarks at public meetings just because you're black?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m anti-cancel culture. I do not like anything this woman has done on the school board and want her voted off. But come on, people make mistakes and should not be canceled for them. We all make mistakes. I definitely grew up in a time when the word was used all the time. Of course the word is offensive and people should not use it. But again, everyone makes mistakes.

Not unless white people get a second chance before being cancelled. She's not resigning because she's black and is given a pass on shaming the disabled. Is FCPS going to become like DC where it's ok to utter anti-Semitic remarks at public meetings just because you're black?

+1 I’m also against “cancel culture” and I actually don’t want to see Keys taken down for this (I would actually hope she’s taken down for cause, incompetence and her pushing the ridiculous changes at Lewis!) but you KNOW if someone else said what she said the cancellation would be immediate.