shoes in house -awkward

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are an Asian family and a no shoe household. While I would not have liked you to walk through our house with shoes, I would never vent to another mom about it.

Two things I won’t ever quite understand is walking indoors with dirty shoes or leaving windows and doors open. I hate bugs and don’t want anything to fly in.

We had a friend who would just leave their doors wide open and a bird flew in. My kids and I were shocked that they did this. I can’t imagine how I would feel if a bird flew in our house. Flies are bad enough.

Ugh, your house sounds stuffy and stale as hell. Fresh air is so important in a house.

Pp here. Who said we don’t open our windows?

I have 3 kids and we host people often. We have 6 different exits and kids often come in through the front door or mudroom and leave through garage or backyard. Of course kids trek through our kitchen and foyer with shoes. I don’t like it but they do it. I would say most of our guests or our frequent guests come through and leave through our mudroom.

We have house cleaners who clean our floors often.

You literally said you don’t leave windows open.

It was a house with some sort of four season room where windows were opened without screens. Recently also stayed at a house where they would leave sliding door open. They did have a dog so maybe used to letting dog go in and out.

I have huge windows and love sunlight and fresh air. I just don’t like bugs or dirt on my floor. I do admit we are a bit obsessed with our floors being clean. I would never make someone feel uncomfortable. I have 3 kids and I don’t think one kid has ever objected or thought it was an odd request that we ask for them to take their shoes off. We live in McLean where there are a lot of Asians and other ethnicities who also take shoes off so it isn’t so strange around here. I am sure anyone who has been to our home has been to other Asian homes or other homes who request no shoes in the house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You just run over the floor with a swiffer when they leave. What a weirdo.

This. She's a jerk for mentioning it to someone else.

Agree, shut the thread down, we have the sanest possible answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

I used to have friends (a couple) who managed to wear their shoes in the house, without fail -- usually by putting them on on the other side of the living room so they would have to walk across the room to get to the door, instead of putting them on on their way out.

I put up with it for a really long time, even though it bothered me. They were just disrespecting my wishes. Without fail. We're no longer friends.

OP, you should apologize. Next time respect someone's wishes in their own home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to have friends (a couple) who managed to wear their shoes in the house, without fail -- usually by putting them on on the other side of the living room so they would have to walk across the room to get to the door, instead of putting them on on their way out.

I put up with it for a really long time, even though it bothered me. They were just disrespecting my wishes. Without fail. We're no longer friends.

OP, you should apologize. Next time respect someone's wishes in their own home.

OMG dramatic. She took her shoes off initially, and only wore them in the house because her hostess rudely wouldn't turn off a sprinkler that she would have had to walk through to leave the house. If I were the hostess, I would be embarrassed at being so ungracious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are lucky to know what kind of gossipy, petty person she is so you know not to be friends with her.

+1

And anal. Good riddance.

[Anonymous]

If the hostess was so concerned, she should have said soemthing at the time. "Sorry to ask you to take your shoes off again but we really do not wear shoes in our house..."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

If your dog is walking on the sidewalk and grass they are totally walking in pee and poop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

You invite people over for dinner. Have them get dressed and then ask them to take their shoes off?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

You invite people over for dinner. Have them get dressed and then ask them to take their shoes off?

Yes clown . My house my choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

You invite people over for dinner. Have them get dressed and then ask them to take their shoes off?

People wore dresses. Guys wore shorts/pants and a shirt. They took their shoes off. It wasn’t a black tie event. Kids came too. Several kids did run through house because they came in through the front door and some kids went out the mudroom or back door.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel so funny about this situation. Playdate with a newer friend. We had never been to their house before. When we arrived, we entered through their side door and she promptly asked us to take our shoes off. Of course, we did. When it was time to leave, my child and I sat and put our sneakers back on. We went to exit out the kitchen door but there was a sprinkler running right in front of the door. I said "could we go out the front?" and she said "sure!" so we walked through the house and left though the front. Apparently, she later complained to a mutual friend that we walked through their house with shoes on, when she made it clear they were a no-shoe house. Now I feel terribly embarrassed. I'm annoyed that she left out the detail about the sprinkler, but I still wish I had just taken off our shoes to walk through. Is that an obvious thing to do?

We never ask guests to take off their shoes so I have a different perspective.

We are Asians and, obviously, shoes off family but I think your new friend is being silly/petty. I think it's silly to ask people who just put their shoes on to take them off to walk 15 steps. You have done nothing wrong in my opinion. You can be my friend anytime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

If your dog is walking on the sidewalk and grass they are totally walking in pee and poop.

I can’t fathom being this level of a germophobe. How do you live?