shoes in house -awkward

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

Shouldn't be just as problematic to the hostess? DP

No. Everything doesn't have to be all or nothing to gain some benefit in reducing dirt and germs.

Do you clean your house even though it will get dirty again? Do you take your shoes off when muddy or do you track mud in the house? These acts aren't rendered meaningless because you don't do every possible thing to keep it clean. The person who takes their shoes off daily just takes an extra step that you don't. It's not actually that different.

But more to the point, the friend was horrible to gossip after the fact. You don't even have to make up facts to find fault here.

I would have thought nothing about keeping my shoes on for a few steps to another door so the cane would have nothing to me. But the hostess was on a different page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I respect no shoe households and shoe household. What I don’t respect is an awful person who gossips about someone who had a momentary lapse of memory and walked 15 steps to a different door.

This times a million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer shoes to gross, sweaty feet.

Right? So no shoes people would prefer my husband’s athlete’s foot to be slathered on their floors? Cool

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I used to have friends (a couple) who managed to wear their shoes in the house, without fail -- usually by putting them on on the other side of the living room so they would have to walk across the room to get to the door, instead of putting them on on their way out.

I put up with it for a really long time, even though it bothered me. They were just disrespecting my wishes. Without fail. We're no longer friends.

OP, you should apologize. Next time respect someone's wishes in their own home.

OMG dramatic. She took her shoes off initially, and only wore them in the house because her hostess rudely wouldn't turn off a sprinkler that she would have had to walk through to leave the house. If I were the hostess, I would be embarrassed at being so ungracious.

The point of the 'no-shoes' rule is to not walk around the house in shoes. That's the entire point. It's not some social dance where the host gets to tell the guest to take off their shoes, and once they're done taking them off they've satisfied their obligation and can put them back on again. The point is to not walk around in shoes. OP walked around in her shoes, defeating the purpose. She is dense.

I also think the friend who told her what the 'no shoes' mom said was totally out of line. What a hurtful thing to repeat. I would never feel close to someone who is so unkind.

So everyone is guilty here except the ungracious host who gossiped about her guest? Ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to have friends (a couple) who managed to wear their shoes in the house, without fail -- usually by putting them on on the other side of the living room so they would have to walk across the room to get to the door, instead of putting them on on their way out.

I put up with it for a really long time, even though it bothered me. They were just disrespecting my wishes. Without fail. We're no longer friends.

OP, you should apologize. Next time respect someone's wishes in their own home.

OMG dramatic. She took her shoes off initially, and only wore them in the house because her hostess rudely wouldn't turn off a sprinkler that she would have had to walk through to leave the house. If I were the hostess, I would be embarrassed at being so ungracious.

The point of the 'no-shoes' rule is to not walk around the house in shoes. That's the entire point. It's not some social dance where the host gets to tell the guest to take off their shoes, and once they're done taking them off they've satisfied their obligation and can put them back on again. The point is to not walk around in shoes. OP walked around in her shoes, defeating the purpose. She is dense.

I also think the friend who told her what the 'no shoes' mom said was totally out of line. What a hurtful thing to repeat. I would never feel close to someone who is so unkind.

If someone is talking shit about me behind my back, my true friends will tell me. I'd rather know so I can cut that person out of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

[Anonymous]

This is so ridiculous. She should not have said anything about it to her friend, you should not be worried about wearing shoes to run from one door to another.

How do these people function in life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

I've asked people to make sure their shoes are clean. Once someone (who needed the shoes for stability) had stepped in dog poop, which they didn't realize, and was about to track it all through my house. They needed their shoes; they asked me to clean them which I happily did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

I've asked people to make sure their shoes are clean. Once someone (who needed the shoes for stability) had stepped in dog poop, which they didn't realize, and was about to track it all through my house. They needed their shoes; they asked me to clean them which I happily did.

I have two dogs and can count on one hand the number of times in the past 10 years that I have stepped in dog poop. His idea that people are walking around with this stuff on their shoes is laughable. Also wiping your dog’s feet with a towel or wet paper towel just removes dirt and mud - it does nothing ti the “germs” everyone fears so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

Shouldn't be just as problematic to the hostess? DP

No. Everything doesn't have to be all or nothing to gain some benefit in reducing dirt and germs.

Do you clean your house even though it will get dirty again? Do you take your shoes off when muddy or do you track mud in the house? These acts aren't rendered meaningless because you don't do every possible thing to keep it clean. The person who takes their shoes off daily just takes an extra step that you don't. It's not actually that different.

But more to the point, the friend was horrible to gossip after the fact. You don't even have to make up facts to find fault here.

I would have thought nothing about keeping my shoes on for a few steps to another door so the cane would have nothing to me. But the hostess was on a different page.

Me too, but you don't know that a cane wouldn't be different for her too. Shoes were much more voluntary here. It's dramatic to gossip about a few steps, but it's also dramatic on the part of some posters here to make up facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so ridiculous. She should not have said anything about it to her friend, you should not be worried about wearing shoes to run from one door to another.

How do these people function in life?

The "no shoes in the house" thing is just another one of the million ways DCUMers try to control everything. It's the flip side of the victim blaming that haunts this site.

I'll never die because I don't let people wear shoes in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

I've asked people to make sure their shoes are clean. Once someone (who needed the shoes for stability) had stepped in dog poop, which they didn't realize, and was about to track it all through my house. They needed their shoes; they asked me to clean them which I happily did.

I have two dogs and can count on one hand the number of times in the past 10 years that I have stepped in dog poop. His idea that people are walking around with this stuff on their shoes is laughable. Also wiping your dog’s feet with a towel or wet paper towel just removes dirt and mud - it does nothing ti the “germs” everyone fears so much.

You don't see germs from fecal matter on the ground. They're small... The germs get on your shoe from walking on the sidewalk and dirt where fecal matter was tracked. Search the topic and you'll see studies on this.

You don't have to care about it. Yo do you, but it is on your shoe whether you choose to care or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

I've asked people to make sure their shoes are clean. Once someone (who needed the shoes for stability) had stepped in dog poop, which they didn't realize, and was about to track it all through my house. They needed their shoes; they asked me to clean them which I happily did.

I have two dogs and can count on one hand the number of times in the past 10 years that I have stepped in dog poop. His idea that people are walking around with this stuff on their shoes is laughable. Also wiping your dog’s feet with a towel or wet paper towel just removes dirt and mud - it does nothing ti the “germs” everyone fears so much.

You don't see germs from fecal matter on the ground. They're small... The germs get on your shoe from walking on the sidewalk and dirt where fecal matter was tracked. Search the topic and you'll see studies on this.

You don't have to care about it. Yo do you, but it is on your shoe whether you choose to care or not.

You

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

Your tone is angry. You assume these things would not be ok. Why else would your tone be angry? That assumption is made up facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

I've asked people to make sure their shoes are clean. Once someone (who needed the shoes for stability) had stepped in dog poop, which they didn't realize, and was about to track it all through my house. They needed their shoes; they asked me to clean them which I happily did.

I have two dogs and can count on one hand the number of times in the past 10 years that I have stepped in dog poop. His idea that people are walking around with this stuff on their shoes is laughable. Also wiping your dog’s feet with a towel or wet paper towel just removes dirt and mud - it does nothing ti the “germs” everyone fears so much.

You don't see germs from fecal matter on the ground. They're small... The germs get on your shoe from walking on the sidewalk and dirt where fecal matter was tracked. Search the topic and you'll see studies on this.

You don't have to care about it. Yo do you, but it is on your shoe whether you choose to care or not.

Was responding the person who acts as if everyone is walking around having stepped in poop. Also germs are not ambulatory. They will not come up off the floor to get you. Also When was the last time you washed your nasty slippers filled with your feet sweat and bacteria?