shoes in house -awkward

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

being so concerned about the potential for dirt and germs that she made a thing of it would qualify for a DSM-5 diagnosis for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

being so concerned about the potential for dirt and germs that she made a thing of it would qualify for a DSM-5 diagnosis for sure.

or, alternately, "gee I asked someone to do this thing we customarily do, and then they openly didn't do it."

You're making it about germs. Maybe she was making it about the friend ignoring that (in the moment, innocent intentioned or not)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

being so concerned about the potential for dirt and germs that she made a thing of it would qualify for a DSM-5 diagnosis for sure.

or, alternately, "gee I asked someone to do this thing we customarily do, and then they openly didn't do it."

You're making it about germs. Maybe she was making it about the friend ignoring that (in the moment, innocent intentioned or not)

Ok, she's literally a certifiable A-hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

being so concerned about the potential for dirt and germs that she made a thing of it would qualify for a DSM-5 diagnosis for sure.

or, alternately, "gee I asked someone to do this thing we customarily do, and then they openly didn't do it."

You're making it about germs. Maybe she was making it about the friend ignoring that (in the moment, innocent intentioned or not)

Yes, I posted about this upthread. I got so sick of my "friends" deliberately choosing to disrespect my wishes. WTH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

Your tone is angry. You assume these things would not be ok. Why else would your tone be angry? That assumption is made up facts.

I am assuming that I walk with a cane and have special shoes,?!!! I am not angry but I think "no shoes in house nazis" are unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

Your tone is angry. You assume these things would not be ok. Why else would your tone be angry? That assumption is made up facts.

I am assuming that I walk with a cane and have special shoes,?!!! I am not angry but I think "no shoes in house nazis" are unhinged.

Well that's not the scenario here is it. The thread is not about you. I'm sure the "no shoes in house nazis" make exceptions for you. Then again, with your attitude towards them, maybe they're happy not to invite you at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mutual friend repeated this to you?

I'd be more concerned that hostess complained to a mutual friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use a cane and I walk on sidewalks, grass, parks. Do I have to check my cane in your house. What about walkers, crutches or wheelchair? I hope your husband is strong enough to carry me.

That didn't happen. No one told someone who needs a cane not to use it indoors, but feel free to make up imaginary reasons to be angry.

I gave an examples of something other than shoes that use sidewalks, grass, parks and can bring dirt into house. What do you tell these people? I do walk with a cane and have special shoes. What do you do in these circumstances. This is not imaginary.

Your tone is angry. You assume these things would not be ok. Why else would your tone be angry? That assumption is made up facts.

I am assuming that I walk with a cane and have special shoes,?!!! I am not angry but I think "no shoes in house nazis" are unhinged.

Reading comprehension fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

being so concerned about the potential for dirt and germs that she made a thing of it would qualify for a DSM-5 diagnosis for sure.

or, alternately, "gee I asked someone to do this thing we customarily do, and then they openly didn't do it."

You're making it about germs. Maybe she was making it about the friend ignoring that (in the moment, innocent intentioned or not)

Yes, I posted about this upthread. I got so sick of my "friends" deliberately choosing to disrespect my wishes. WTH.

She FORGOT. We do not wear shoes on the house. If I had a friend over, and they put their shoes on to leave, and THE SPRINKLER WAS ON, and the person just was on autopilot and walked 20 feet to the other exit…NBD.

That’s not disrespecting your wishes. If it was so important to OP’s “friend”, she should have given her a reminder to take off her shoes. Or, you know, just turned off the sprinkler. Or just steam mopped the floor OP walked over.

There is no right option that includes talking smack about the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostess is both a jerk and unwell. AT MOST this “infraction” would warrant an offhand comment to one’s spouse to which the spouse would say “oh”. To be so hyper focused on the state of potential dirtiness on the floor that she told a third person tells me that they are literally certifiable. The good news OP is that now you don’t need to waste time trying to be friends with her.

Why did you say "literally" certifiable? You shot yourself in the foot.

being so concerned about the potential for dirt and germs that she made a thing of it would qualify for a DSM-5 diagnosis for sure.

or, alternately, "gee I asked someone to do this thing we customarily do, and then they openly didn't do it."

You're making it about germs. Maybe she was making it about the friend ignoring that (in the moment, innocent intentioned or not)

Yes, I posted about this upthread. I got so sick of my "friends" deliberately choosing to disrespect my wishes. WTH.

You make your friends walk through sprinklers? Jerk.