shoes in house -awkward

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't go to their home anymore. Not because of the no shoe policy but bc she gossiped about it. People have done this in my home and I would NEVER think to gossip about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

If they have a dog or a cat, do they have to remove their clothes? I don't like walking barefoot anywhere so if you don't provide non-skid slippers, I do not remove my shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

If they have a dog or a cat, do they have to remove their clothes? I don't like walking barefoot anywhere so if you don't provide non-skid slippers, I do not remove my shoes.

Then you wouldn’t be allowed in my house or you bring your own inside slippers. PS I’m not PP and I don’t have pets precisely because of this reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

If they have a dog or a cat, do they have to remove their clothes? I don't like walking barefoot anywhere so if you don't provide non-skid slippers, I do not remove my shoes.

Oh it’s you again. Give it up

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Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

If your dog is walking on the sidewalk and grass they are totally walking in pee and poop.

I can’t fathom being this level of a germophobe. How do you live?

Quite well and easily, in fact. I just use a towel and wipe off its feet. And if she steps in something particularly dirty, I use a bit of water in a bowl to wash her feet. I could ask the same about how you accustom yourself to living with the level of dirt you are fine with. We all draw that line differently.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t anyone get invited to dinner parties? I have never once been asked to remove my shoes at a party at someone’s home. That would be weird and insane. Just mop the floor afterward.

For a party, I expect to clean the floors afterward. For a random Tuesday afternoon when one person stops by, I don't want to have to do that. But, some in our crew are also no shoes in the house people, and that makes dinner parties easier since that crew will take their shoes off at each others' houses.

We had a dinner party yesterday and everyone took their shoes off. No big deal.

If they have a dog or a cat, do they have to remove their clothes? I don't like walking barefoot anywhere so if you don't provide non-skid slippers, I do not remove my shoes.

Then you wouldn’t be allowed in my house or you bring your own inside slippers. PS I’m not PP and I don’t have pets precisely because of this reason.

It is not a normal thing to expect guests to bring slippers. If you are that OCD about IT THEN YOU The HOST SHOULD HAVE SLIPPERS.

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^ sorry - caps lock was on

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Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

If your dog is walking on the sidewalk and grass they are totally walking in pee and poop.

I can’t fathom being this level of a germophobe. How do you live?

Quite well and easily, in fact. I just use a towel and wipe off its feet. And if she steps in something particularly dirty, I use a bit of water in a bowl to wash her feet. I could ask the same about how you accustom yourself to living with the level of dirt you are fine with. We all draw that line differently.

You wipe your dog’s feet every time they come in from outside? You understand that you are mentally unwell, right?

[Anonymous]

I am wondering what the floor cleaning process is for people who have a 100% never shoes in the house policy. I am picturing OPs hostess in a Hazmat suit undertaking a 4 hour procedure after OP left.

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Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

If your dog is walking on the sidewalk and grass they are totally walking in pee and poop.

I can’t fathom being this level of a germophobe. How do you live?

Quite well and easily, in fact. I just use a towel and wipe off its feet. And if she steps in something particularly dirty, I use a bit of water in a bowl to wash her feet. I could ask the same about how you accustom yourself to living with the level of dirt you are fine with. We all draw that line differently.

You wipe your dog’s feet every time they come in from outside? You understand that you are mentally unwell, right?

I'm perfectly sane and normal. It takes 3 seconds and keeps a lot of dirt out. It's probably more mentally odd to be offended by someone's cleaning habits that are fairly normal and used by many pet owners. Not sure what you have at stake in calling me ill.

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Anonymous wrote:You all don’t have dogs? My dog walks through his own pee in the yard and that of other dogs in walks. I don’t make him wear shoes because I don’t have ocd. People this insane about germs that would flip out over a few footsteps through the house need a psychiatrist. The gossiping is just the icing on the cake. I bet her kid has allergies and autoimmune disease in the future.

My dog doesn't want to walk through her pee or poop. If she does, I wash her feet. Every time, we have a towel and her feet are wiped off. Otherwise there is dirt brought in. Do it a few times and you'll see how much gets on the towel and not your floors or carpets.

If your dog is walking on the sidewalk and grass they are totally walking in pee and poop.

I can’t fathom being this level of a germophobe. How do you live?

Quite well and easily, in fact. I just use a towel and wipe off its feet. And if she steps in something particularly dirty, I use a bit of water in a bowl to wash her feet. I could ask the same about how you accustom yourself to living with the level of dirt you are fine with. We all draw that line differently.

You wipe your dog’s feet every time they come in from outside? You understand that you are mentally unwell, right?

I'm perfectly sane and normal. It takes 3 seconds and keeps a lot of dirt out. It's probably more mentally odd to be offended by someone's cleaning habits that are fairly normal and used by many pet owners. Not sure what you have at stake in calling me ill.

This conversation makes some people feel like they are being called dirty. It's triggering for many people, especially considering the demographics of "who" is primarily on opposite ends.

Never mind the fact that no one actually thinks that, and they are only concerned about the dirt and germs in their own homes.

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Anonymous wrote:You just run over the floor with a swiffer when they leave. What a weirdo.

This. She's a jerk for mentioning it to someone else.

Agree, shut the thread down, we have the sanest possible answer.

The bigger jerk is the friend that repeated it.

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Anonymous wrote:What happens to the family members and guests who are over 50 years old who have to wear shoes for medical reasons? No way can I walk across a wood floor without the support of shoes.

This is pretty common actually. Many people need to wear shoes for medical reasons, even those under fifty.

Many, no...

I can’t think of a single person I know that must wear shoes at all times for medical reasons.

You don’t seem like the sort of empathetic person people would share their issues with. I know quite a few and the issues range from arthritis where the shoes provide support and are difficult to remove, to custom orthotics for bone issues, to diabetes issues with easily wounded feet that need to be protected.

I have indoor and outdoor orthotic shoes myself, supply clean, new slippers to guests who prefer them, and have shoe removal seats by my door. So most people do remove their shoes in my house. But not all, and I would never be rude enough to inquire or press.

[Anonymous]

Why it is important to not to wear shoes in the house? Is it to not soil the rugs? Are there health benefits to not wearing shoes in the house?

I feel like my floors are fine but maybe they aren't (dogs + kids). But, my kids are super healthy. Am I building immunity by having disgusting floors?

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Anonymous wrote:Why it is important to not to wear shoes in the house? Is it to not soil the rugs? Are there health benefits to not wearing shoes in the house?

I feel like my floors are fine but maybe they aren't (dogs + kids). But, my kids are super healthy. Am I building immunity by having disgusting floors?

Some of us have allergies, and reducing the exposure in our house can be a significant boost to lowering allergic reactions. Some of us like clean floors (thanks mom). Some of us like to walk barefoot and not have grit on the bottoms of our feet. Some of us are concerned about bringing in dirt/germs, etc. Some of us don't care. Some of us scoff at others who are too OCD/too filthy. There is no baseline "right" way. Do what works for you.

What does matter is 1) try to understand the "other side" without thinking they are nuts, even if it's not your way; 2) recognize it's not unreasonable to follow the house customs when visiting.

If someone is gossiping about it, or judgy-wudgy, then you can reevaluate the friendship. But the fact that someone has a no shoes house (and, gasp, isn't Asian), or walks from the garden through to the toilet, that's their jam.