what to do if your significant other can't or won't do your love language?

[Anonymous]

He is who he is. Y'all are not compatible. He's been trying to please you, but apparently it's not good enough.

Either break up with him now or he will break up with you down the road when he realizes whatever he's been doing is not good enough for you and he's tired of being somebody else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks all.

Quick update: we went to a lovely dinner last night and he brought me flowers- we laugh so much, and he's really awesome. I gently mentioned (again) that I would love it if he sometimes expressed how he felt about me verbally, and he said, "but I always tell you you're amazing- just tell me what to say." And I said that I meant more like when I tell him that he means so much to me, I care about him, he's special to me, etc. And he said, "but I texted you a red heart emoji like 3 times this week!" and then tried to convince me that the emoji conveys a lot of meaning. It was pretty funny, but not sure if I should just let the whole thing go and be okay with it, or not.

This is a red flag to me. You told him exactly what you wanted, and he dismissed it.

I think you need to be less gentle and more forthright. Tell him what you need him to say & how often.

No he did not dismiss it. He explained that HE thought he was doing those things. He just needs a little more tweaking and so does OP

[Anonymous]

OP here. He just recently started calling me a term of endearment in his native language that means “my beloved”. This was a big step and it makes me really happy whenever he says it. I think he feels more comfortable with that phrase and expressing it verbally. So I think we’re going to be okay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He just recently started calling me a term of endearment in his native language that means “my beloved”. This was a big step and it makes me really happy whenever he says it. I think he feels more comfortable with that phrase and expressing it verbally. So I think we’re going to be okay!

Don’t say it’s habibi

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He just recently started calling me a term of endearment in his native language that means “my beloved”. This was a big step and it makes me really happy whenever he says it. I think he feels more comfortable with that phrase and expressing it verbally. So I think we’re going to be okay!

Maybe there is a bit of a language barrier, OP. I grew up with English as a second language so I never hear my parents speaking terms of endearment to one other in English, or when I did, it sounded fake or forced. So I feel odd communicating those things to my American DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He just recently started calling me a term of endearment in his native language that means “my beloved”. This was a big step and it makes me really happy whenever he says it. I think he feels more comfortable with that phrase and expressing it verbally. So I think we’re going to be okay!

It's that easy, huh?