Missing Nanny

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

The nanny does deserve time away from the child without any contact, regardless of the child’s feelings. And the mother is pushing this agenda into her child.

Why would the mother push the kid to FaceTime her nanny? Seriously, where’s the benefit to the mother?

I don’t know, why don’t you ask the mother why she is asking to do so?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

The nanny does deserve time away from the child without any contact, regardless of the child’s feelings. And the mother is pushing this agenda into her child.

Why would the mother push the kid to FaceTime her nanny? Seriously, where’s the benefit to the mother?

I don’t know, why don’t you ask the mother why she is asking to do so?

She already said her older child got teary talking about being away from nanny. I assume she wants her child to be happy.

[Anonymous]

My employers and my charges left on a vacation this morning and has already send me two s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My employers and my charges left on a vacation this morning and has already send me two s

… sent me two sets of photos and notification that they arrived safely and the kids did great on the plane.

I love having these next two weeks off but would definitely be happy to talk to my charges if they needed to talk or just see me. They’re sweet little kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

The nanny does deserve time away from the child without any contact, regardless of the child’s feelings. And the mother is pushing this agenda into her child.

Why would the mother push the kid to FaceTime her nanny? Seriously, where’s the benefit to the mother?

I don’t know, why don’t you ask the mother why she is asking to do so?

She already said her older child got teary talking about being away from nanny. I assume she wants her child to be happy.

And?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employers and my charges left on a vacation this morning and has already send me two s

… sent me two sets of photos and notification that they arrived safely and the kids did great on the plane.

I love having these next two weeks off but would definitely be happy to talk to my charges if they needed to talk or just see me. They’re sweet little kids.

Good for you. For others, leave them alone like the purpose of vacation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

A parent and a nanny are not one in the same, you fool.

Your rudeness to me indicates that you are feeling defensive. I get that. Sorry you don't understand the real feelings involved when a child bonds with an adult who cares for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

A parent and a nanny are not one in the same, you fool.

Your rudeness to me indicates that you are feeling defensive. I get that. Sorry you don't understand the real feelings involved when a child bonds with an adult who cares for them.

God, you are dumb as a box of rocks. A nanny is not a slave to their every whim no matter how much you want to force inappropriate boundaries.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

A parent and a nanny are not one in the same, you fool.

Your rudeness to me indicates that you are feeling defensive. I get that. Sorry you don't understand the real feelings involved when a child bonds with an adult who cares for them.

NP. No one said the child doesn’t have feelings. That doesn’t mean you dismiss the nanny’s feelings. Not do you let the child have the nanny anytime they want. Did you give your child every single thing they wanted every single time they wanted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

A parent and a nanny are not one in the same, you fool.

Your rudeness to me indicates that you are feeling defensive. I get that. Sorry you don't understand the real feelings involved when a child bonds with an adult who cares for them.

Doesn’t matter, the nanny is out and the parent is on vacation either the child. Parents have to deal with their kids. How about that concept?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employers and my charges left on a vacation this morning and has already send me two s

… sent me two sets of photos and notification that they arrived safely and the kids did great on the plane.

I love having these next two weeks off but would definitely be happy to talk to my charges if they needed to talk or just see me. They’re sweet little kids.

Good for you. For others, leave them alone like the purpose of vacation.

For all other nannies, PP? Or do you think it’s okay if the nanny actually decides if she’d like to talk to her charge when he’s away or not? Can nannies actually decide for themselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

A parent and a nanny are not one in the same, you fool.

Your rudeness to me indicates that you are feeling defensive. I get that. Sorry you don't understand the real feelings involved when a child bonds with an adult who cares for them.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employers and my charges left on a vacation this morning and has already send me two s

… sent me two sets of photos and notification that they arrived safely and the kids did great on the plane.

I love having these next two weeks off but would definitely be happy to talk to my charges if they needed to talk or just see me. They’re sweet little kids.

Good for you. For others, leave them alone like the purpose of vacation.

For all other nannies, PP? Or do you think it’s okay if the nanny actually decides if she’d like to talk to her charge when he’s away or not? Can nannies actually decide for themselves?

Good Lord! Leave the damn nanny alone for Christ’s sake.
Doesn’t matter if she minds or not, she may just be too polite to agree.
Have some respectful boundaries. Can the op’s boss call her and FaceTime good night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

Ou do realize that the is not relevant and that the nanny deserves time away from the family.

It's relevant in that the OP is struggling with whether to permit the child to communicate with the nanny during her absence. If the nanny is willing I can see no reason not to allow it, especially if you are able to acknowledge the parent-child like dynamic involved. That's like saying the parent deserves time away from the family without any contact if they so desire, regardless of the child's feelings.

A parent and a nanny are not one in the same, you fool.

Your rudeness to me indicates that you are feeling defensive. I get that. Sorry you don't understand the real feelings involved when a child bonds with an adult who cares for them.

+1.

Not relevant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give your nanny some extra pay and tell her you'd like to be in minimal contact with your kids over their time apart.

No, that's inappropriate. It misses the whole point of a vacation.