Missing Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m concerned that op has not given the nanny more than 4 consecutive days off in greater than 2 years. Whether the nanny wanted to use her vacation that way or not is irrelevant.

No, it’s stunningly relevant!! The employee requested that she use her three weeks vacation time in these increments of long weekends! OP was generous in letting her use her time as she wanted!!

Jesus, should she have forced the nanny to take her three weeks all at once for no apparent reason?!

No, stupid. She selfishly allowed it so she didn’t have too many days without her.
No one with integrity would have an employee not take any time of only 4 consecutive days off for years.
And no one suggested that the nanny take off all 3 weeks together. You have no argument and needed to desperately attempt one with that stupid comment.
Low life user you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In two years your kids won't even remember that nanny. Don't do facetime. Let her have vacation.

Not everyone treats their nanny like dirt (like you do). Our nanny was family and left us when the youngest was 6. She's 12 now and FaceTimes all the time. We still send Christmas gift etc.

Seriously I never understood the mentality of changing nanny every year (or less), what a horrible thing to do to your kids--- uproot their support system and teach them (by actions) that some people are less than.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like when my charges face time me when they’re away. I’m assuming OP’s nanny feels the same.

In terms of making it easier on the kids, keep it upbeat and happy. Not before bed or because of a meltdown. But just a quick check in is good for them. Let’s them know nanny is still around and will see them soon.

Some of you people are truly drama queens. I love my time off but never get bent out of shape when my young charges miss me.

You’re the drama queen, leave the nanny alone. She is an employee and just because you don’t mind doesn’t mean she doesn’t either. Nor does she need to be put in the position. I bet you What she won’t mind is being left alone, as she should.
Apart from that, the mother needs to practice having boundaries and her kid doesn’t care as much as she does.
Now go call your employer and bother them while they are home with their family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In two years your kids won't even remember that nanny. Don't do facetime. Let her have vacation.

Not everyone treats their nanny like dirt (like you do). Our nanny was family and left us when the youngest was 6. She's 12 now and FaceTimes all the time. We still send Christmas gift etc.

Seriously I never understood the mentality of changing nanny every year (or less), what a horrible thing to do to your kids--- uproot their support system and teach them (by actions) that some people are less than.

None of this is relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I clicked on this thread because I thought the nanny had gone missing. This is much less exciting.

Help your kid write postcards to the nanny. It will be fine.

Haha +1

+2!

[Anonymous]

No one should be contacting their employee while on vacation apart from an emergency; not this nonsense.
No one wants their boss to contact them, and vice versa. No one m, nor should they even if they can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m concerned that op has not given the nanny more than 4 consecutive days off in greater than 2 years. Whether the nanny wanted to use her vacation that way or not is irrelevant.

No, it’s stunningly relevant!! The employee requested that she use her three weeks vacation time in these increments of long weekends! OP was generous in letting her use her time as she wanted!!

Jesus, should she have forced the nanny to take her three weeks all at once for no apparent reason?!

No, stupid. She selfishly allowed it so she didn’t have too many days without her.
No one with integrity would have an employee not take any time of only 4 consecutive days off for years.
And no one suggested that the nanny take off all 3 weeks together. You have no argument and needed to desperately attempt one with that stupid comment.
Low life user you are.

Stop embarrassing yourself, PP. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like when my charges face time me when they’re away. I’m assuming OP’s nanny feels the same.

In terms of making it easier on the kids, keep it upbeat and happy. Not before bed or because of a meltdown. But just a quick check in is good for them. Let’s them know nanny is still around and will see them soon.

Some of you people are truly drama queens. I love my time off but never get bent out of shape when my young charges miss me.

You’re the drama queen, leave the nanny alone. She is an employee and just because you don’t mind doesn’t mean she doesn’t either. Nor does she need to be put in the position. I bet you What she won’t mind is being left alone, as she should.
Apart from that, the mother needs to practice having boundaries and her kid doesn’t care as much as she does.
Now go call your employer and bother them while they are home with their family.

You haven’t got a clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In two years your kids won't even remember that nanny. Don't do facetime. Let her have vacation.

Not everyone treats their nanny like dirt (like you do). Our nanny was family and left us when the youngest was 6. She's 12 now and FaceTimes all the time. We still send Christmas gift etc.

Seriously I never understood the mentality of changing nanny every year (or less), what a horrible thing to do to your kids--- uproot their support system and teach them (by actions) that some people are less than.

It's so they can blunt their DC's ability to form real bonds, and lose their natural love and empathy for others. That way they can grow up ruthlessly self-interested, like many of the PPs on this thread who don't understand that it's normal to grow fond of someone and miss them when they're not around -- especially for children. Lots of sad, sad people on this thread. Scary even.

[Anonymous]

Some of these comments are ridiculous but likely a-hole trolls.

OP, I understand this. I've had parents ask if kids can chat while on my days off and as long as I'm not busy, has never bothered me. I've had great relationships with my various employers over 20 years and I don't see an issue with asking.

[Anonymous]

You all do realize that even though to you the nanny is an employee to your kid she's like having another parent. Your cavalier attitudes toward that relationship is sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get, OP. This is what you get.

Huh? OP here and I work part time from home. DH works from home (no commute). Why do you think it’s a problem that my children love their nanny? Should their only attachment be with their parents? What a limited lonely world that would be for them.

You know millions of children in the US don’t have nannies and are just fine, right?

Your lack of appropriate boundaries with your employee is very weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It the mom having trouble coping.

Huh?

Yeah, once one of my kids was having a medical procedure done and he was writing in pain and shouting STOP STOP. I told the nurse to stop. Then I overheard her say to the doctor, "The mom couldn't handle it."

Sheesh, people. Children have feelings, too. This mom happens to know what her kids feel. Good for you for caring about your kids, OP.

Yes. A painful medical procedure and a vacation are absolutely the same thing. Brilliant analogy. Well done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get, OP. This is what you get.

Huh? OP here and I work part time from home. DH works from home (no commute). Why do you think it’s a problem that my children love their nanny? Should their only attachment be with their parents? What a limited lonely world that would be for them.

You know millions of children in the US don’t have nannies and are just fine, right?

Your lack of appropriate boundaries with your employee is very weird.

Wait, your kids have never really gone a day without their nanny and your husband is home, you work part time from home. Why on earth do you need a 40+ hour a week live in nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely don't bother your nanny on vacation. That's sweet that your kids are missing her though!

Does it feel like every single post lately is bombarded by nannies telling parents that they don't want to parent their kids or they're otherwise being unreasonable for anything and everything that is raised?

No