Missing Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I clicked on this thread because I thought the nanny had gone missing. This is much less exciting.

Help your kid write postcards to the nanny. It will be fine.

Haha +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In two years your kids won't even remember that nanny. Don't do facetime. Let her have vacation.

They’re gone for two weeks!

[Anonymous]

I love when my charges and former charges ask to call or FaceTime. Wait until your older child asks and then call (but PP is right - not before bed).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In two years your kids won't even remember that nanny. Don't do facetime. Let her have vacation.

They’re gone for two weeks!

And? What’s your point? Kids can be away from their nanny for two weeks. Goodness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, you mean you haven’t had to take care of your children for this long.

Stop embarrassing yourself.

I’m not and have nothing to be embarrassed about. Stop projecting, it’ll do you some good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It the mom having trouble coping.

Huh?

The op is the one with the issue, she is freaking out that she won’t have her nanny for two weeks. Duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In two years your kids won't even remember that nanny. Don't do facetime. Let her have vacation.

They’re gone for two weeks!

And? What’s your point? Kids can be away from their nanny for two weeks. Goodness.

+1. The mom is the pits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get, OP. This is what you get.

Huh? OP here and I work part time from home. DH works from home (no commute). Why do you think it’s a problem that my children love their nanny? Should their only attachment be with their parents? What a limited lonely world that would be for them.

I can assure you that the majority of children don’t have nannies and are not living a limited lonely world. No matter how you want to justify it to make youself feel better.

[Anonymous]

OP is feeding this to the child. She shouldn’t be trying to make arrangements to contact the nanny while the nanny is off and she says toddler wants to purchase souvenirs. Really?! No.

[Anonymous]

Encourage them to draw a picture for her and send it in the mail while away.

[Anonymous]

Have some respect for the nanny and leave her alone. Also, get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sure these people who have commented so far don't have nannies and so don't understand the relationship a kid has with them. I do think your kid will be fine though and probably will stop talking about it once you're actually on vacation. I would say not to call or FaceTime unless the kid really having a heart attack, but I would try to distract them with other things (or just say that the nanny can't talk right now but she texted me earlier to say that she hopes you're having fun and she can't wait to see you in 2 weeks!)

Had you posted earlier, I would have told you not to focus on the kid and nanny being separated when you talked about your vacation - kid didn't need to think about that and it probably would have been better to just rip the bandaid off in that respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sure these people who have commented so far don't have nannies and so don't understand the relationship a kid has with them. I do think your kid will be fine though and probably will stop talking about it once you're actually on vacation. I would say not to call or FaceTime unless the kid really having a heart attack, but I would try to distract them with other things (or just say that the nanny can't talk right now but she texted me earlier to say that she hopes you're having fun and she can't wait to see you in 2 weeks!)

Had you posted earlier, I would have told you not to focus on the kid and nanny being separated when you talked about your vacation - kid didn't need to think about that and it probably would have been better to just rip the bandaid off in that respect.

Have a nanny and know that it’s not appropriate and that the op is complicit in this anxiety in the child. As you admitted to. Apart from that, one does not need to have a nanny to know this is not acceptable.

[Anonymous]

You will be far away and not in your routine. They will naturally know that it’s not home and there are different people. They probably won’t even ask to talk to the nanny unless you bring it up or they’re super bored.

[Anonymous]

I’m concerned that op has not given the nanny more than 4 consecutive days off in greater than 2 years. Whether the nanny wanted to use her vacation that way or not is irrelevant.