Missing Nanny

[Anonymous]

Definitely don't bother your nanny on vacation. That's sweet that your kids are missing her though!

Does it feel like every single post lately is bombarded by nannies telling parents that they don't want to parent their kids or they're otherwise being unreasonable for anything and everything that is raised?

[Anonymous]

If your child is with the nanny 24/7, except 4 days, give the woman a break already. Its family time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I clicked on this thread because I thought the nanny had gone missing. This is much less exciting.

Help your kid write postcards to the nanny. It will be fine.

I also thought that she had gone missing and left the family in a lurch. I read up until I was disappointed that her kids missed the nanny.

OP, leave your nanny alone for those days and take it as a sign that she’s doing a great job because they love her so much. Also take this time to really bond with them. Not that you haven’t bonded, but do all the fun stuff that Nanny does so they will forget her for the week and make memories with you.

[Anonymous]

The OP is nuts.

[Anonymous]

That the OP is asking this shows she has no respect or boundaries. Apart from her not encouraging the nanny to take longer than 4 days off in 2 days.

Hopefully, the nanny will look for an appropriate family and caring family to nanny for during her time away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It the mom having trouble coping.

Huh?

Yeah, once one of my kids was having a medical procedure done and he was writing in pain and shouting STOP STOP. I told the nurse to stop. Then I overheard her say to the doctor, "The mom couldn't handle it."

Sheesh, people. Children have feelings, too. This mom happens to know what her kids feel. Good for you for caring about your kids, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That the OP is asking this shows she has no respect or boundaries. Apart from her not encouraging the nanny to take longer than 4 days off in 2 days.

Hopefully, the nanny will look for an appropriate family and caring family to nanny for during her time away.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It the mom having trouble coping.

Huh?

Yeah, once one of my kids was having a medical procedure done and he was writing in pain and shouting STOP STOP. I told the nurse to stop. Then I overheard her say to the doctor, "The mom couldn't handle it."

Sheesh, people. Children have feelings, too. This mom happens to know what her kids feel. Good for you for caring about your kids, OP.

Caring for her kids does not correlate to not respecting others.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read the whole thread, OP but I think your situation is totally reasonable. I would NOT try to check in daily, but I would ask nanny to record a video message for them before you leave (e.g., singing a favorite lullaby or just saying “Hi Larlo and Larla! I love you guys and I hope you are having fun at grandma’s! See you soon!”). Then during the week if they do something cool, you can say “Wow! Let’s take a picture so we can show Nanny when we get home!”

That maintains their connection to her while also keeping it light for the kids and not requiring her to coordinate FTs during her days off. And you can encourage older DC to draw pictures of what you do each day to show her and make them into a travel journal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread, OP but I think your situation is totally reasonable. I would NOT try to check in daily, but I would ask nanny to record a video message for them before you leave (e.g., singing a favorite lullaby or just saying “Hi Larlo and Larla! I love you guys and I hope you are having fun at grandma’s! See you soon!”). Then during the week if they do something cool, you can say “Wow! Let’s take a picture so we can show Nanny when we get home!”

That maintains their connection to her while also keeping it light for the kids and not requiring her to coordinate FTs during her days off. And you can encourage older DC to draw pictures of what you do each day to show her and make them into a travel journal.

You have lost your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I clicked on this thread because I thought the nanny had gone missing. This is much less exciting.

Help your kid write postcards to the nanny. It will be fine.

Agreed, so much. Instead some kid is going to miss someone. Who cares.
OP, are you going to ask the nanny to move in with you eventually too so your 2-yr-old never has to live without her ever?

[Anonymous]

Leave this poor nanny alone. The world does not revolve around you and your children. Go on your vacation and stop being a drama queen and projecting it onto your kid.

[Anonymous]

I like when my charges face time me when they’re away. I’m assuming OP’s nanny feels the same.

In terms of making it easier on the kids, keep it upbeat and happy. Not before bed or because of a meltdown. But just a quick check in is good for them. Let’s them know nanny is still around and will see them soon.

Some of you people are truly drama queens. I love my time off but never get bent out of shape when my young charges miss me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m concerned that op has not given the nanny more than 4 consecutive days off in greater than 2 years. Whether the nanny wanted to use her vacation that way or not is irrelevant.

No, it’s stunningly relevant!! The employee requested that she use her three weeks vacation time in these increments of long weekends! OP was generous in letting her use her time as she wanted!!

Jesus, should she have forced the nanny to take her three weeks all at once for no apparent reason?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I clicked on this thread because I thought the nanny had gone missing. This is much less exciting.

Help your kid write postcards to the nanny. It will be fine.

Same here.. as I started to read I thought maybe the nanny disappeared while on vacation